Dating can be a confusing thing. You’re spending time together and you like each other, but where is it going? You don’t want to come out and ask if you’re actually together yet, but at the same time, you really want to know! Understanding the signs he wants you to be his girlfriend soon helps.
Maybe you’ve been hanging out with this guy every day or maybe he takes you out for dinner but doesn’t kiss you at the end. And now, you’re freaking out, thinking, does this guy even like me?
In your head, you already planned which photo you’ll post on Facebook of the two of you and where you’re going to go on your first anniversary. But maybe he’s also planning that in his head as well.
Short of developing mind-reading skills, some of them will always be left down to guesswork. But, by understanding the signs that he wants more, you can cut out the confusion and actually enjoy the dating game.
[Read: The sneaky ways to get a guy to commit to you]
Women like to think men are easy to figure out. We like to think we know exactly how they work and that the way to their heart is through their stomach *which has yet to be scientifically proven, by the way*.
But alas, here we are. You sit in front of your screen trying to figure out if this guy likes you and wants a relationship. Thought he was easy to read? Doesn’t look like it. So, it turns out they’re just as complicated as women are. Who would have thought? [Read: Talking vs dating – How to tell them apart and know your exact status]
The thing is, we all want clarity after a short while. It’s not that we want to sit down and have a serious talk about it, but we do want to get a general guide on what’s happening. We want to know that we’re not wasting our time.
So, to help you out, here are the most important subtle and blatantly clear signs he wants you to be his girlfriend. [Read: Are we a couple? 14 signs to know for sure if it’s a definite yes]
Listen, when a guy deletes his dating app from his phone, it’s big deal for him. It’s was a sign he doesn’t want to look for anyone else and that he’s not interested in hookups.
So, if he deletes his Tinder, that is without you telling him to do so, he makes that first step on his own. He’s done swiping. [Read: Don’t make these mistakes if you want a guy to commit]
There’s a specific way we interact with people we only hook up with. That is, we don’t really interact with them at all. Yeah, there’ll be small talk and shallow conversation, but he’s not interested in getting to know more about you.
He just wants to get in your pants and then go home. But if your guy is trying to get to know you on a personal level, he cares about you. [Read: How to recognize a love bomber before it’s too late]
Yes, we said besties. If you only use a guy to hook up with, you’re not going to introduce him to your close circle of people. This goes the same for guys.
They’ll have a nickname for you like, “the girl with red hair” or “the one with the mole on her upper lip” and that’s what you’ll be known as. But if he introduces you to his close friends, he wants them to see you and it’s one of the signs he wants you to be his girlfriend.
We know this may seem minor, but the guys only interested in a hook-up are the ones that only ever text you. Sure, they could phone you, it would probably be easier, but then they’d have to talk to you.
Nowadays, calling someone on the phone has turned into an act of intimacy. Weird, right? He wants to chat with you about how your day went, etc. [Read: 25 topics to talk about with your boyfriend over phone to feel closer]
Now, this doesn’t mean you talk all day, but maybe he texts you in the morning or sends you a cute goodnight text at night.
The point is, you’re the first person that comes to his mind before he closes his eyes at night. That’s what actually matters. If he starts and ends his day with you, it’s a great sign. [Read: 25 signs he loves you even if he’s never said it out loud]
Weekends are a precious time in everyone’s lives. It’s the time where we get to relax and be with the people we haven’t seen all week. So, if he’s giving you his time from Friday to Sunday, well, then you must be pretty special.
Now, if he’s spending his weekend days and nights with you, he’s into you and it’s one of the signs he wants you to be his girlfriend. [Read: 15 ways to drive a man crazy and make him fall hard]
Whether it’s his sister’s wedding or Christmas dinner, you’re his plus-one. Now, this sign is important.
Literally, no guy will bring a girl to a wedding or family dinner if he doesn’t see her as someone special. He’s not going to make himself vulnerable for questioning by his parents and grandparents over some girl that’s just a hookup.
It feels like we’ve become used to sex on the first date. And many women feel pressure to engage in sex sooner rather than later.
But if he’s really into you, he won’t pressure you. Even if the guy goes wild over you, he contains himself. That is until he gets home in the confines of his bedroom. If he’s having blue balls, you can’t hate him. [Read: How long should you date before having sex?]
Most people, in general, do not want to meet the parents. This is especially the case when you’re not sure about someone because meeting the parents is a huge step.
If he’s excited to meet your family, then he wants to see where you come from. It’s a positive step for him and he’s excited to be a part of it.
Though this gesture is small, it’s highly intimate. If you’re finished with sex or simply sitting on the couch watching a movie and he goes to cuddle you, it’s a great sign.
These intimate acts are huge for men as they make them vulnerable. He feels warm and safe with his arms wrapped around you. [Read: Do guys like to cuddle? 15 truths you didn’t know]
Well, this is clearly a huge sign of trust and one of the major signs he wants you to be his girlfriend. If he gives you keys to his place and you have your things in his house, then he’s completely open to you.
He has nothing to hide from you nor does he want to hide anything from you. This is one of the most serious signs that he wants you to be his girlfriend. [Read: These tried and true methods will let you know if a guy is into you or not]
You can normally tell if a guy is chatting to other girls. A quick look on his social media will tell you if a girl feels comfortable liking his posts constantly, or leaving flirty comments on his posts.
But, if all of that has gone or it’s extremely rare, then you can probably say that he’s only focused on you.
You’re not just a footnote at the course of his day, and the time he spends with you will no longer be out of convenience.
When a guy wants you to be his girlfriend, he will actively put you on his map and make plans with you. [Read: 80 very unique, fun and exciting things to do with your boyfriend]
In short, you have earned his respect. You’re not just a pretty face to parade around in display but have become an indispensable part of his life. One whom he can count on for good advice on important matters.
He doesn’t want to lose you just because of some silly argument, even if you’re clearly the one who did him wrong. Either way, he won’t let a day pass without conceding and apologizing so you’re on good terms again. [Read: Does he love me? 37 signs he’s past casual like and totally in love with you]
If you have a misunderstanding, then he wants to talk about it and sort it out. Not only will he apologize if he’s done something wrong but he’s also happy to communicate with you and get to the bottom of whatever has caused a rift between you.
He’s willing to go far as to diminish his “me” time, time for his friends or hobbies, and even family just to spend time with you. For him, time spent on anything else pales in comparison to the time you spend together. [Read: 33 awesome date ideas every couple should try]
It doesn’t matter if he hadn’t had enough sleep, if you’re a two-hour drive away from him, or even if there’s a snowstorm coming his way. He’ll probably brave all those and more if the prize is some time spent with his favorite girl.
Most men usually won’t give a damn about what other people think of them.
Your opinion of him matters to him enough so that he’s willing to change himself to become someone desirable in your eyes. [Read: 15 signs he doesn’t care about the relationship and has checked out]
A guy who wants to keep a girl as a side chick will tend to avoid meeting in public spaces or do stuff like walk you home.
But with a guy who wants to be serious, he will proudly hold your hand, wrap his hands around you, or even kiss you in public. [Read: 14 signs you’re his side chick when you believe you’re his main girl]
Money is not really a polite topic in the context of serious relationships. But, the amount a guy is willing to spend on a girl is also a dead giveaway on how he values the girl.
This is mostly applicable when a guy is not particularly well-off but still doesn’t care if he spends more on his girlfriend-to-be than he would on a usual day.
You may think that it is cheesy, but this is one of those clear signs that he wants you to be his girlfriend and it’s true. And above all, it doesn’t get more obvious than this.
Guys have this natural protective instinct towards people dear to them. If a guy does things big or small for the preservation of your well-being at the cost of his own, he probably wants you to be more than just a friend.
This only means two things. First, it shows he’s proud of you. Second, he pays attention to what’s going on in your life. [Read: 23 signs he’s falling hard for you and is really serious about you]
Men typically put up a tough front in the presence of the opposite sex. They want to be seen as someone reliable and “cool” which increases their attractiveness in front of the ladies.
You’ll only get to see their silly and unattractive side if you have gained their utmost trust.
As mentioned, guys typically act tough and cool in front of everyone, especially with girls. Showing weakness and voicing insecurities is perceived as against their code of manliness.
So if he shares this privileged information with you, then you probably have reached that level of intimacy worthy of becoming his girlfriend. [Read: What does it mean to be vulnerable?]
We’ve mentioned that he listens to your advice but if he comes to you first when he has a problem, that’s one of the big signs he wants you to be his girlfriend. He trusts you and wants to know what you think. It also shows a certain amount of vulnerability.
Halfway through the day, a cute message appears on your phone. It’s not a suggestive message or anything that suggests a hook-up, instead it’s a message sent because he thought of you.
Even if he’s asking what you’re doing or how your day is going, it means he thought about you and no-one else. [Read: 25 cute ways to say ‘hi’ in a text message to the guy you like]
We’re not talking about plans for the future, but if he does that, you really don’t need to look for other signs!
Instead, he might drop hints about going away for the weekend together or perhaps going to a music festival in a couple of months’ time. That means he sees you sticking around in his life.
At the end, if he shows these signs and he’s telling you that he’s into you, well, it’s clear that he wants you as his girlfriend. Now, it’s just a matter of deciding if that’s what you want or not.
[Read: 15 strongest signs he’s ready for a relationship and a few subtle signs he’s not]
A guy’s affection for you doesn’t always depend on the words he uses, but his actions and gestures. So, now that you know the signs he wants you to be his girlfriend, do any match up with your guy? What are you going to do about it?
Check these out next:
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Want to decode his texts? Use how to tell if a guy really likes you through texting – 20 no-fail signs
And does he think of you? Try when a guy says he misses you – what it means and 26 signs he means it
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