They say the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach but for women, it’s through making her feel special. That’s really the main thing you have to remember with girls. If you want her to like you, make her feel unique and special to you by telling her things girls like to hear.
Obviously, you can’t just string together a bunch of phrases in the hopes that it’ll get her attention. There’s more to it than that.
You have to be genuine and you truly have to like the girl in order to say things she likes to hear. If you don’t, she’ll pick up on it.
[Read: 172 sweet, cute things to say to a girl in a text and delight her]
We all make mistakes. When it comes to winning a girl over, those mistakes can permanently affect your chances.
If you’re someone who only gives girls compliments based on her looks, that’s a mistake. She’ll see right through you and won’t want you.
You have to appeal to her as more than just someone who wants her body. If you talk to her with the only goal of getting her in bed, that’s a mistake and it won’t work. Girls are smarter than that and they know when a guy just wants a piece of ass. [Read: 25 things guys do that are a big turn off for girls]
You need to make her feel unique to you. She has to feel like you’re only interested in her and nobody else.
Sometimes, saying a few specific things can help her see just how you truly feel. Here are some of the things girls like to hear that can help you communicate your feelings.
As much as girls like to be told they’re pretty, calling her smart is a much more effective way to make her feel good. If she’s beautiful, she’s probably always complimented on her looks. But what about her brains?
Just because she’s pretty doesn’t mean she’s not smart. If you know her and want to make her feel incredible, tell her that you like the way she thinks.
Tell her that you love how smart she is and how she thinks things through. It’ll mean more to her than you know. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]
Aside from just being smart, girls love to be told they’re creative. It’s not a compliment people usually give and that’s why it’s one of the things girls like to hear. They don’t hear it often so it means more.
This is even more powerful when used during a time she’s actually being creative. So if she just painted something or made a bracelet or something that involves creativity, just tell her she’s very creative. It’ll make her day.
All girls want to hear that they’re not like others. And while we already know we’re unique because there’s no one else like us, we still want to hear it from our men.
So make sure to remind her that you like her because she’s not like other girls. She’s better. She makes you happier than anyone else because she’s one-of-a-kind. [Read: What to say to a girl you like while talking to her]
You definitely can tell a girl she’s attractive. However, the way you say this can make a major difference in how she hears it. Instead of telling her that she has pretty eyes, focus on describing why you like them.
Saying that they’re such an interesting shade of blue with little lines of green will make her feel a lot more special than saying, “your eyes are really cute.” It makes her feel like you’re paying extra attention – and that makes her feel loved and special to you.
Don’t make compliments something that you only give if you receive. You shouldn’t say something because you want her to give you a compliment in return.
She’ll notice this and it’s not as meaningful then. If you just tell her something sweet out of nowhere, without any want for something yourself, it’ll be more special to her. [Read: 12 signs you’re being selfish and need to think of her more]
Girls love when their men tell them how they feel. You probably aren’t thrilled about this one but it does work. She wants your feelings. She wants you to tell her how you really feel about her and for you to get vulnerable.
So open up. If you care about her and you want her to know how special she is and how much you love her, then let her see how you truly feel.
Don’t keep that stuff inside or she’ll start to think you don’t truly care. [Read: 19 secrets to open up to someone you’re dating and be vulnerable with them]
A lot of this has to do with reassuring her that you want her in your future. That means she wants to hear you get excited about the future with her.
You don’t have to tell her that you want to get married. All you have to do is just mention something you’re excited to do with her in the future.
It can be a month from now or a year from now. No matter how soon it is, she’ll be happy to hear that you want her there. [Read: 12 life questions to help you visualize the future]
One of the things girls like to hear most is how different and better your life is because she’s in it. It might seem cheesy but it really means a lot if you’re genuine about it.
It’s not like she’s trying to change your life but telling her it’s better because of her, makes her extremely happy. It makes her feel like she has a purpose in your life. That will ensure she feels special and loved.
You probably do this enough as is, but just be aware that girls love when you ask for their opinions. They want to provide you with something and by giving her that opportunity through advice, it’ll make her really happy. [Read: 20 ways to make a girl incredibly happy and make her feel lucky to be with you]
This probably seems odd, but girls really want to hear that your friends like her. Ladies know how important your friends are to you.
As a girl, she’d want to make sure your friends like her so they don’t end up convincing you to end things. If your friends really do like her, just let her know. It’ll make her happier than you think it will – even if she doesn’t show it.
It’s one thing to tell a girl you think she’s beautiful when she’s done her hair, makeup, and dressed up all nice for you. It’s completely different when you tell her how much you appreciate her looks when she’s makeup-free and in sweats.
By doing this, you’re saying you like her as is. She doesn’t need the extra stuff to be attractive to you. Many girls often worry about this so telling her will reassure her of how much you enjoy her naturally. [Read: How to compliment a girl – 15 must-know tips and 35 lines you can use]
Yes, this is a weird one but girls really like being told they have a cute laugh or that their smile makes you weak in the knees.
It’s a very small thing that makes a big difference to her – especially if her laugh is a little loud and obnoxious. If you think it’s adorable, just tell her.
Now that you know the general categories of the things girls like to hear, you probably want to know some specifics. So, here are some examples of what you can say to your lady to make her smile from ear to ear.
When you say this, get as specific as you can.
It might be instinct for you to defend yourself – especially during a fight. But sometimes it’s okay to admit you’re wrong and she’s right. She loves to hear that. [Read: What to say to a girl you like – 51 things to make her think of you fondly]
It might sound shallow, but women do want to hear that they are beautiful and look good. The reason for this is that it boosts their self-confidence and makes them feel more loved.
This tells her that you are committed to her. An alternative to this is saying that “we’re in this together.” But make sure you mean it because she’ll know if you don’t. Actions speak louder than words.
Just like guys, they like to hear that they’re good in bed and that she turns you on. They want to know that you are happy with your sex life. [Read: 53 flirty things to say to a girl to compliment her and make her blush]
Saying this reminds her that you are there for her emotionally when she needs to talk to you. It makes her feel much more secure with you.
You are probably groaning right now, but you know that all girls like to hear this. But sometimes people need some reassurance – especially women. She needs to know that you don’t think she’s fat.
Even if you don’t understand what she’s talking about, you should convey that you are really trying to. You’re not always going to see her point of view, but this lets her know that you at least care about it. [Read: How to show empathy and understand someone else’s feelings]
Whether she’s going through a rough time or if it’s just a normal day, she wants to hear that you are trying to support her. It could be through your words or it could be taking a load off her plate like cooking dinner.
Women like to know that you are experiencing emotions. They love to know your intimate thoughts and feelings, so this will make her feel good.
If you struggle with opening up and being vulnerable, this will make her feel close to you when you do.
Just like men, they like when other people ask their opinion about something. It makes them feel like you respect their intelligence, wisdom, and decision-making abilities. [Read: How to treat a woman right – 21 tips to make her want to stay with you]
Not only is this exciting to hear, women like the anticipation of wondering what it is. Plus, it shows that you took the initiative to do something nice for her because you love her.
While your love is not all about how she looks, don’t wait until she’s all dressed up to compliment her on her beauty. She wants to know that her natural look turns you on too.
Even independent women want to know that they can hand over the responsibility of something to their man. It’s not that she can’t do it, it’s about making her feel that you love helping her out. [Read: 30 signs of low self-esteem in a woman that reveal a need for self-love]
Women love it when their man is actually interested in their life. If you listen to her talk about her day, then she’ll feel more relaxed. It shows you care and lets her decompress and get out some stress.
Appreciation is so important in a relationship. So, a woman wants to know that you are thankful for her in your life – and what she does for you too.
She wants to know that she is the center of your universe and that you would be lost without her. This lets her know that you depend on her and would be lost if you broke up.
[Read: 35 small gestures and ways to make your girl feel special and loved]
Knowing the things girls like to hear can help you solidify your connection with someone you truly care about. Don’t make the mistakes that push women away and instead, say some of these things to win her over.
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