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39 Flirty Signs to Tell If a Girl Is Into You & Interested in Dating You

Knowing how to tell if a girl is into you can be hard. You don’t know her! Learn how to tell if a girl is interested and never get it wrong. 

How to Tell If a Girl Is into You and interested

The dating world is nowhere near free of games. However, even when games aren’t the culprit, understanding how to tell if a girl is into you is not simple.

Not only are some girls shy, but others are friendly with everyone. That is to say, it can all be a little confusing. That’s before you throw playing hard to get into the mix.

In any case, whether you want to let her down easily, or ask her out, figuring out if she’s into you is the best way to prepare. With that, you really need to open your eyes. Follow all the signs, subtle and otherwise, so that you know for sure.

[Read: 27 clear signs she’s not interested in you anymore and doesn’t want you to pursue her]

First things first – Are you into her?

If this is a girl you like, the stakes can feel high. Moreover, you are nervous and worried all your dreams are going to crumble. Above all, you want to know if you can ask her out without the fear of rejection.

There are plenty of reasons why you would want to understand how to tell if a girl is interested. Maybe you want to ask her out and you’re worried she may reject you. Or maybe you don’t like her, and you’re worried you’re leading her on!

But, don’t let your reasons alter your judgment while reading these signs a girl is into you. If you do, you may see what you want to see, rather than what is really there.

If you like her, you may interpret some signs that she’s into you, when in fact, she isn’t. But, without realizing it, you might overlook some signs she is into you too. It’s confusing!

To avoid this, try to look at these signs without worries or hopes as a third person who is looking at you two. Doing so will help you see things clearly! [Read: 27 signs a girl is interested in you only sexually and wants to get closer]

Why can’t you just ask her if she’s into you?

Well, you can. In fact, we’d recommend it. If reading situations and taking hints are your thing, go for it. Straight out, asking a girl if she likes you is probably the easiest in terms of time and thought. But, it can also be the scariest.

If you’re feeling up to it, take the risk. What’s the worst that could happen? You get rejected, and then you move on. For sure, not everyone has the confidence to just spit it out. So, depending on your level of guts, this could be ideal, or terrible for you.

If that sounds like emotional torture, luckily for you, there is another option. With time, patience, and practice, you can learn how to tell if a girl is interested in you. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you without asking her directly]

How to tell if a girl is into you – The subtle details you can’t miss

Things like hugs to leaning on you for emotional support, and even snapchatting you, can be signs that a girl is into you. But, they can also just be signs that you are close friends, or that she is just friendly. How do you figure it out?

Keep your eyes open, and pay attention to her behavior more than you worry about your own. You will soon figure out how to tell if a girl is into you and interested in more! [Read: Romantic hug vs friendly hug and how to feel the difference instantly]

1. She blushes around you

This is definitely something not all guys would notice. It is certainly subtle, but if you tell her she looks nice or even sit near her, and her cheeks go rosy, she may like you. At the very least, she is probably attracted to you, which is a start.

Try complimenting her and see how she reacts. If that isn’t clear enough for you, try gently tucking a strand of her hair behind her ear. If she blushes and feels warm, odds are she’s into you. [Read: How to make her melt with just a simple touch]

2. She laughs at your jokes

If you are pretty hit or miss with your humor, but she is always laughing, she may be into you. Laughing with someone is an automatic response when you like them. Even if things aren’t funny, laughing is a sign of nerves.

If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is into you, see if she’s at least somewhat excited or nervous around you. She may be extra smiley or giggly around you because of her nerves.

Just be sure to really pay attention, though. When girls are uncomfortable they also tend to laugh, because it makes the situation feel less awkward. It can be hard to see the difference between genuine laughter and nerves, if you don’t know what you’re looking for. [Read: How to be a funny guy – 28 tips to make any girl love your sense of humor]

3. She teases you

This may be a touch juvenile, but teasing someone has always been a telltale sign there is a crush in the air. This is not our favorite sign someone is into you, because it can be disrespectful. But, in some cases, some mild teasing can be cute.

Just like all those will-they, won’t-they TV shows, some fighting like an old married couple is a sure sign she likes you. Not only is she comfortable with you, but she likes to push your buttons a little too.

When a girl teases you it is because she knows you well enough to do so. Sure, this could be simply friendly, but when it comes with some gentle nudges on the arm, it could be how to tell if a girl is into you! [Read: How to tease a girl and 15 ways to get her to flirt back with you]

4. She texts you out of the blue

This doesn’t count if it’s in a group message, but if she sends you memes, and Snapchats throughout the day, she is thinking of you. Most of us don’t send memes to guys that aren’t our boyfriend or our brother, if that helps ease your mind.

And if she is thinking of you, whether it’s to send you a photo of her cat, or a funny face, there are certain feelings there. She doesn’t try to get the right angle for a selfie just for fun. The odds are, she is trying to impress you or get your attention.

5. She focuses on you when you’re in a group

If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is interested, keep an eye on her behavior when you’re talking to her in a group.

Whether you are at a party or hanging with a few friends, and she talks to you more than anyone else, she wants more time with you. And when you want more time with someone, there is a reason for that.

Does she tend to sit near you? Does she make eye contact with you from across the room? These are signs she has some level of connection with you.

So, pay attention if she steers her attention toward you when there are plenty of other people around. Also, if she touches your arm, or leans into you when it isn’t necessary, she may be subtly hinting that she wants to be closer to you. [Read: Is she flirting with me or not? 17 quickest ways to know the real truth]

6. She talks to you about her dating life

She could be complaining about the single life or even talking about a date she went on. Or she may want to see how you’ll react. While you want to know if she is into you, she may be wondering the same thing about you.

Yes, some girls talk to their guy friends about dating to see how guys’ minds work. But, if she is complaining more than really talking about one guy, she may be hoping you’ll take that as a hint, and make her dating life better.

Be aware of this. If she wants to study your reaction to her dating other guys, it may be a sort of test. [Read: Is she playing hard to get? 20 signs you should stop pursuing her right now]

7. She asks for your opinion

When a girl is into you or getting interested in you, she will want to know your preferences, what you like, and don’t like. From TV shows to music and even her style, she’ll want to know more about you.

A girl who isn’t interested in you won’t be as intrigued by your hobbies. She will pay attention when you talk about things you’re passionate about. She may even take some interest in these things herself, so that she can share them with you.

When you’re interested in someone you want to know more about them. That is exactly what she is doing. [Read: How to talk to a girl – 20 must-know secrets that’ll make you irresistible to women]

8. Her friends tell you

Girls talk to their friends about everything. If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is into you or interesting in dating you, just ask her friends. Now, they may not tell you out of respect for her privacy. But a subtle and sneaky friend might just give you a nudge in the right direction.

And, if you don’t think that her friend will give you a straight answer, tell the friend that you’re thinking about asking her out, but don’t want to take her off guard or make her uncomfortable.

With that, her friend will surely help you out in some way. Their reaction should give you your answer.

9. She’s keen to know about your dating life

If she hears you talking about how you hate being single or the dating game is too much, her reaction will speak volumes. Remember, you are not trying to make her jealous, but feeling her out.

She may offer for you to hang out or clam up if you talk about a date with someone else. Think about how you react when she talks about dating. Does she react like that? Or is she pushing you to make things work with someone else?

Her reaction will show you how she feels about you dating other girls. If she is totally cool with it, she may not be as interested as you think. [Read: How to make a girl jealous and leave her begging for your attention]

10. She regularly touches you

If she fixes your hair, adjusts your collar, or just lightly touches your arm when you’re talking, there is a good chance she is into you. When a girl touches you she is comfortable around you.

She may want to be even closer to you. When she only views you as a friend or a brother, she will not be as likely to make such intimate touches.

Also, be aware of her hands. If they are a little clammy or sweaty, it could be a sign she has some nerves around you. This is one of the key ways to tell if a girl is into you. [Read: 37 signs to read the body language of a girl and tell if she likes you in no time]

11. You catch her staring

When you like someone you naturally look in their direction. Whether you work together, have a class together, or are in the same friend group, her eyes will find you in a crowd.

You’ll probably pick up on this because you are looking at her as well. If you catch each other staring often, and more importantly, follow that up with a nervous smile, there is some chemistry in the air. [Read: How to make eye contact with a girl without looking weird]

12. She dresses up

Even the most confident of girls want to look attractive to someone they are into. If her feelings are new she may start looking a little different.

Now, we know guys aren’t always keen on noticing these small changes like hairstyle, makeup, or even clothes, but try to.

Is she wearing more makeup? Is she dressed up? Perhaps she styled her hair a new way. Also, remember the compliments you may have given her. If you said you liked her in a certain color and she wears that color around you a lot there is a reason. [Read: 20 subtle signs a woman wants your attention and wants you to notice her]

Try to pick up on these small things, because these are all great ways to learn how to know if she’s into you.

13. She opens up to you

Friends are great. You may talk to your friends about tons of things. But, when a girl likes you, her trust starts to grow. She may open up more and be a bit more vulnerable. Part of her, maybe even a subconscious part, wants to know if you’re boyfriend material.

She may discuss personal things with you like her childhood or family issues. Getting closer with you, emotionally, is a great way to feel things out and create a stronger bond. When she lets her guard down it also helps you to see her differently. If you want to know how to tell if a girl is interested, this is it. [Read: 15 traits of a good guy that’ll make you the perfect boyfriend material]

14. She compliments you

We already told you to look at her reaction to your compliments, but she may be doing the same to you.

Many women are very careful not to compliment guy friends because they didn’t want to give them the wrong idea. So, odds are that if she is complimenting your style or skills it is because she is trying to get you to notice her interest.

15. You can’t shake the feeling she likes you

Sometimes you can’t quantify the vibes you’re getting. You may not be able to pick up on the signs she’s into you, but you feel it.

Your gut may not be 100% right all the time, but it is a good sign that she is into you.

16. She is dropping subtle hints

Some girls are shy and subtle and others are throwing clues in your face. Even when you’re looking for signs she’s into you, they can go right over your head.

If she brings up a new restaurant she wants to try or how she is dying to go to a local game she isn’t just making conversation. She is giving you a set-up to make a move and ask her to hang out one-on-one.

No offense, but guys can be completely oblivious to the signs that tell a girl is into them. Really try to be on your toes. [Read: 21 very subtle flirty hints girls give that guys totally ignore]

17. She says she’s busy but shows up later anyway

It is discouraging that you seem never to be able to get her alone or to come out with you. She says she is busy and then shows up later. Don’t take that as a sign that she doesn’t want to be with you.

Perhaps she really is busy or is trying to play hard to get. The thing that you are missing is that she IS showing up. If she weren’t interested, she wouldn’t show up at all. In fact, she would make sure never to make it out at all.

18. She answers your text messages

So she takes a whole day to get back to you for a simple “how are you?” Don’t mistake that for a sign that she isn’t interested in you. If she wasn’t, she wouldn’t answer you at all.

When a girl wants a guy to give up and go home, they won’t answer. Most likely, she is trying to figure out if she wants to take the next move with you, or she is playing hard to get. This is a great thing to look for when learning to figure out how to know if a girl is interested. [Read: What you need to do when she’s playing hard to get]

19. She texts you a lot

If she wasn’t interested in you, she wouldn’t be texting you. Sure, you are a “good friend,” but how many of those does she have in her life?

If she is blowing up your phone on a regular basis, then that is a pretty good sign that she is interested in you. Even if she is a social butterfly, if she wasn’t interested in you, she would be sending someone else text messages.

20. She keeps showing up in the same places

It isn’t just a coincidence that she continues to show up in all the same places as you. If every time you turn around, she is bumping into you accidentally, there is no accident in it. She is seeking you out with reason. That reason is that she digs you.

21. She does unexpectedly nice things for you

Girls sometimes show their interest in different ways. If she keeps doing nice things for you, keeps showing up on your office desk or front door, that says “I like you.”

When a girl is smitten, she thinks about a guy all day long. Those little “things” are telling you that you are on her mind, and it most likely isn’t just a “friend” thing. [Read: 18 telltale signs she’s actually flirting with you]

22. She gets upset when you talk to other girls

If she seems to get a little annoyed when you talk about other co-workers that are female or “girl friends” in your life, then she is into you.

She doesn’t want you to know, but the last thing she wants to hear is that you are thinking about another girl, especially when you are talking to her, or right in front of her. She wants to be the only thing running through your mind.

23. She is always trying to get a look at your phone

Before she reveals her interest in you, she wants to make sure that you aren’t a player or have ten different girls on the side.

If she is constantly peeping or checking your text messages when they pop up to get a look, that means that she is interested in who you are talking to, aka, that’s how to tell if a girl is into you! [Read: Why girls test guys before dating them – And all the signs she’s testing you right now]

24. She watches your social media accounts

She isn’t just nosey *or maybe she is*, but if she wasn’t interested in you, then she wouldn’t be stalking your social media accounts or constantly trying to get a look at what you are up to. This is one of the best ways on how to tell if she’s into you.

25. She calls you when she needs help or gets into trouble

Who do we call when we get in trouble? Well, if it isn’t our parents, it is the person we know will be there because they are closest to our hearts. If she only calls you when in trouble, that is one thing.

But, if she calls you frequently and you are the first person she calls in an emergency, guess what? You are her “emergency contact”, another word for significant other. [Read: How to help someone up when they’re feeling down]

26. She seems like a never-ending question

You know all those questions that can really get under your skin? She isn’t asking them to be annoying; she is asking because she genuinely wants to get to know you and what you are all about. We know it is irritating, but the good news is that it is probably because she likes you.

27. She is constantly finding reasons to call

How to tell if a girl is interested in you? If your phone is constantly ringing asking you to meet up, because she has tickets to something or because she just has something funny to say.

In that case, you aren’t just her friend. She has tons of those; she is trying to form a connection with you.

28. When she sees you, her face lights up

Even if she is saying one thing, her face can’t lie. If her face lights up when you enter a room or she simply can’t help herself from smiling, then that is the biggest clue that she is giving you that she is definitely interested.

29. She invites you to special occasions as her ‘platonic date’

If you are her “go-to” date for family weddings or family picnics, there is a reason. She feels comfortable with you, knows you won’t embarrass her, and her family likes you.

Those are all things that say she is interested in you. Although it feels more like you are just friends, you might be for now, but if she weren’t at least considering it, she would start to invite someone else, no? [Read: Are you two more than friends already? 17 signs to know for sure]

30. She finds reasons to get you alone

If she is always trying to find a reason to get you alone, or to be with you at the end of the night, then she is interested in you.

Confused herself, she might not be ready to take it to the next step, but don’t confuse her confusion for not liking you. If she didn’t like you, you wouldn’t be the one she wants to be with when the bar lights go on.

31. She consults you before making major decisions

If she has a promotion at work and it might lead to her moving offices or changing locations, and she talks it over with you, there is a reason.

She probably wants you to tell her you want her to stay. Sometimes a girl is interested in you but doesn’t want to put herself out there for rejection. She might just be waiting for you to make the first move. [Read: How to show a girl you like her too – 19 subtle moves to make her heart skip]

32. All your social media posts get instant approval

A like on Facebook, a heart on Instagram, and comments on whatever you post… even if she’s not really interested in it.

You can even post a photo of something so mundane and unremarkable and she will like it. Yep, she likes you alright. [Read: How to tell if a shy girl likes you – All their secrets revealed]

33. She tags you frequently

Had a random conversation? She posts it and tags you. She found a nice cat video? Tagged you again. It may seem annoying, but virtual pestering is still coyer than its real-life counterpart.

34. She saves all your pictures

Did she just show you an old photo of yours on her phone, or is she saving that long, boring video you sent her where you’re fixing your computer or cooking something? We take a lot of photos or videos on our phone, and people share a whole bucketload of memes and forwards every day.

Chances are, her photo gallery is full already, and she’s deleting a hundred stale photos and videos every day. But if she’s gone to great lengths to keep all your silly photos on her phone without deleting them, that’s a clear sign that tells she’s into you and you have a special place in her heart! [Read: 18 really obvious signs that a girl likes you over text]

35. She doesn’t talk about other men

Be it her exes or even co-workers, she takes care not to mention any other guy because not only its rude to do so, but you might get the idea that you have competition.

Of course, this can also work the other way around, as we mentioned earlier. She may be trying to make you jealous too!

36. When you’re with a group of common friends, she immediately comes to you

Because “hanging out with friends” is a safe way to get closer to you without having to directly ask you out.

If she automatically gravitates toward you, despite plenty of other people being around, that probably means that she’s keen to spend the evening around you. [Read: How to ask a girl to hang out casually without making it a big deal]

37. She tries to get close to your friends

If you’re the type who always hangs out with a big group, she’ll start off by getting the good graces of your friends in order to get close to you. After all, if your friends like her, it’s only a matter of time before you fall hard for her!

38. She notices the small details about you

Another one of the signs a girl is interested in you is that she notices stuff, from tiny mannerisms that she thinks are adorable, to the way you dress, your smell, and your favorite music, food, and movies. She keeps tiny mental notes of this which get revealed from your conversations.

39. She gives you stuff

From something simple like home-cooked goodies that she “accidentally” made a lot of, to tiny souvenirs that she got from her trips, she makes sure that you get a little something from her other than obligatory Christmas presents.

So now that you know all the subtle signs and the mysterious ways in which girls reveal their feelings for a guy, how many of these signs do you see around this girl? If she really does like you, you should easily be able to see more than half of these signs in no time!

But then again, not all girls are open about their feelings, especially if they’re shy or aren’t sure about their feelings themselves. So pay attention to the signs, reciprocate the gestures, and if you like her, make sure you let her know that as well!

So now you know how to tell if a girl is into you, what are you going to do about it?

[Read: 35 things to say to a girl you like to get her to like you back!]

If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is into you and is interested in dating you, hopefully, this gave you all the insight and guidance you need. And now you can take that knowledge and use it to your advantage!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...