If you’ve noticed a certain someone paying more attention to you at work, this is how to tell if a coworker likes you and wants to date you.
You meet a lot of great people at work—especially if you’re new to the area specifically because of that job. That being said, many people find their really good friends and even significant others while at work. But knowing how to tell if a coworker likes you can be hard because of maintaining professionalism.
The trick is being able to tell if a coworker is just being friendly or if they’re actually trying to date you. This can be really difficult simply because everyone at your job is probably very professional and friendly, which makes it really hard to tell who’s actually trying to flirt with you because they like you.
Be cautious when dating a coworker
Being involved with someone at work can be a really fun thing, but it can also be really risky. You see them all the time, and you have to put on a professional face even if you’re dating them so people don’t think of you in an unprofessional manner.
That being said, some places even have policies banning dating coworkers—in which case you would have to be REALLY careful if you did get involved with someone at work because you wouldn’t want to get fired.
How to tell if a coworker likes you and is trying to date you
Before we start talking about how careful you should be when dating a coworker, we have to figure out if they like you in the first place! Since it can be hard to tell when someone is showing a bit more interest in you or if they’re just being nice, you may want a few signs that show their true intentions.
These are some of the most basic signs to tell if a coworker likes you that you may mistake as simple polite coworker behavior. If you’re ever wondering if a coworker has a crush on you and is actually trying to date you, this is how you’ll know.
#1 They talk to you more than they do others. If you have noticed a certain coworker talks to you much more regularly than they talk to anyone else in the building, it’s a sign they might like you. People tend to talk to those more when they like them versus when they’re just being polite at work. [Read: Get off the emotional seesaw! 10 signs your crush likes you]
#2 Their shifts somehow changed to match yours. If you never used to have shifts that aligned and now suddenly you do, it could be a sign that they like you and want to spend more time with you at work.
#3 They wander over to you and ask pointless questions. If you started to notice that they’re popping up a few times a day to ask questions that are completely obvious to answer, it’s because they just want to see you more and have an excuse to talk to you.
#4 They look at you in group meetings. Have you ever caught their eye in a group meeting? Has it ever happened multiple times in the same meeting? Then this is a sign you’ve just caught them goggling at you because they like you and may be trying to get you to notice them.
#5 They act more excited/talkative around you versus other people. You can easily tell when someone likes to talk to a person versus when they’re only doing it because it’s polite.
#6 Their body language suggests they do. Body language gives almost everything away. Are they turned toward you when they talk? Do they lean closer to you when they get the chance? Do they fidget with their clothes when they see you approaching?
#7 They make long eye contact. Eye contact is another powerful body language indicator that someone is into you. However, in a professional setting most people make eye contact when speaking.
The difference is how long it lingers when you’ve finished talking. Do they take a pause and walk away still holding your eyes? If so, they like you.
#8 They bring you coffee/do other nice things for only you. If you’re surprised with coffee at your desk when you’ve had a busy morning by the same person multiple times, they most definitely like you and are trying to make a good impression so they can date you.
#9 They talk to you about life outside work. If you’re discussing something work related and they change the subject to something about your home life or what you like to do for fun, they might like you.
By doing this they’re prolonging the conversation and trying to get to know you outside of work so they can decide if they really would like to date you or if you two have anything in common.
#10 They give you a silly nickname. Sometimes your coworkers give you nicknames if you messed up on the first day or just to give you a hard time. However, if one specific person has made up their own nickname for you and refuses to call you anything else, it could be a sign they like you. [Read: What does babe mean when it comes from someone you like?]
#11 They poke fun at you. Making fun of someone you like isn’t only for little kids. Adults even do it when they like someone! If a coworker of yours is picking on you or giving you a hard time for any reason, they may just like you.
#12 They park close to you in the lot. If they’ve managed to figure out what car is yours and arrive after you, and you notice they park next to you every day, it may mean that they like you.
They’re doing this in order to set it up in a way that allows them to walk with you to your car after work. It gives them an excuse to talk to you alone and not about work.
#13 They ask if you’ll be attending work functions. If you have luncheons or events at your work and they’re always asking you if you’ll be going, it’s because they want to know if they should go in order to see you there in a more casual setting. This could mean they’re really into you. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
#14 They agree with you on almost everything about work. When you’re in meetings and give your opinion on something and they always back you up, they like you. They’re doing this in order to show you that you two think alike in the hopes that it’ll make you want to date them.
#15 They make little jokes in meetings that only you can hear. When they’re leaning in close and making funny little jokes during meetings and only doing so for you, it’s because they like you and making you laugh is their way of showing it and attempting to get you to like them.
Trying to tell whether or not a coworker likes you isn’t always an easy task based on how polite everyone is at work. These tips can help you see beyond their exterior and show you how they really feel.
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