Mutual attraction is beautiful. It means you like someone, and coincidentally, they like you too. But what if you two have never spoken about it with each other? How can you tell for sure that they’re feeling what you feel? Can you know for sure if they’re attracted to you too? Well, of course, you can, if you learn to read the signs of mutual attraction, whether unspoken or otherwise!
Two people can spend time with each other as friends and just hang out casually, and not feel anything but calmness. And sometimes, two people can come close to each other and all they feel is a surge of attraction, sexual emotions, intense desire, lust and a good dose of infatuation.
Welcome to the world of mutual attraction!
Mutual attraction is the simple realization that you like someone, and they like you too. But it’s never that easy, is it? You can’t just approach someone and ask them if they like you. It’s a weird thing to do, and if they tell you they aren’t interested in you, everything just gets a lot more weirder!
[Read: The biggest signs your friend likes you romantically even if they’re hiding it]
So if you can’t ask someone if they like you, you need to rely on your instincts and the subtle signs of mutual attraction that you’d find every time the two of you spend time together.
It is easy to be attracted to a person with whom we share similar interests, ideas, and personality. However, getting to know if that person feels the same way can be difficult. It makes people overthink and creates awkward moments when one starts to have expectations of mutual attraction.
[Read: How to ask someone if they like you without embarrassing yourself]
Looking at the way they spend their time together, mutual attraction can be seen from specific behaviors and gestures they display when they spend time together, even if it’s unspoken.
Two people who share mutual attraction are highly attentive to what the other does or say. Nothing misses their close observation, not a new dress or haircut. When you like a person, you make effort in noting every little detail about them. [Read: The hush hush signs someone has a big crush on you]
Aside from paying close attention, people also tend to easily remember the small details about the person they’re attracted to.
Two people attracted to each other easily recall what the other wore, the place where they met, and even details about the conversations they had. [Read: The super-subtle gestures that reveal if someone’s into you]
People are very particular about eye contact. Long periods of eye contact are considered creepy when coming from a stranger. But if it happens between people with mutual attraction, it can be considered pleasant and addictive. Sharing long periods of eye contact is in fact a sign of familiarity and a mutual liking of the other.
One of the signs of mutual attraction is the unease they feel around each other, and yet, the flirtatiousness they feel towards each other. They find the other person’s jokes funny, they laugh with each other, and they love talking to each other. It’s almost like everyone else can see there’s something brewing between these two people.
Similar to eye contact, people tend to maintain a certain amount of personal space breeched only by the people closest to them. Aside from close friends or family, people also allow themselves to be in close proximity to the person they are attracted to. As a result, we tend to be quite comfortable walking close by or sitting next to the person we like. [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like – How to know exactly]
The frequency and type of touches shared by two people is also a way to determine if they are mutually attracted to each other.
When someone touches a person or allows themselves to receive physical contact, it is a sure sign that they are comfortable and derive pleasure on the physical contact they receive from that person. Whether accidental or intentional, attraction is apparent if both of them welcome giving and receiving touches from the other person.
And when there’s mutual attraction, not only would they touch each other a lot, their hands would linger on each other too. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]
Okay, we know that two people who are mutually attracted touch each other, a lot. But another sign of mutual attraction to keep an eye on, is just how unnecessarily they touch each other, for no reason at all.
When two people like each other, they go out of their way to touch the person, even when it’s just not necessary. They’d use every excuse to touch each other, be it to move a strand of hair that’s out of place, or fiddle with a new piece of jewelry the other person is wearing.
When two people are attracted to each other, they want to share everything about each other. And what’s a great way to bond, and feel closer to each other? Sharing secrets. When you like someone, you want to feel closer to them, and revealing secrets does that in no time. If both of them feel comfortable to share details they wouldn’t tell most other people, it’s a strong sign of mutual attraction.
People would agree that they make an effort in looking good when about to meet a person they like. By fixing our appearance and dressing up, we impress them. We make ourselves look more desirable in their eyes.
This is especially true if the person is not really particular with their overall appearance or interested in dressing up. Well, that is, unless they’re meeting someone they’re attracted to. [Read: How to read the signs a woman is attracted to you sexually]
When we like someone, we become interested in their personal life. We take mental notes of the things they reveal in conversations. And we ask questions from the people who know them or even stalk their social media.
When there is attraction, we are easily drawn to know more about the person. We show curiosity about information surrounding their thoughts, preferences, and interests.
People who share a mutual attraction eventually develop their unique way of communication. There’s the inside jokes, the knowing looks, body language, and playful interactions such as teasing.
In casual circumstances, people won’t tease another person because it is a sign of familiarity and may be taken as offensive. But with people attracted to each other, they are comfortable and find enjoyment in teasing each other a lot. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
It can be quite obvious that mutual attraction will make a person want to be with the person they like quite a lot. For them, everything is so much better if they’re spending time together that even normally boring activities would seem so fun to do. With that, there’s the pain of parting at the end of the day and the excitement for the next time they’ll be together again.
Every activity will seem enjoyable as long as they are in the company of the person they like. Whereas normal people might get awkward and uncomfortable with silence, mutually attracted people will not mind just sitting together without exchanging words.
Mutual attraction isn’t just shown through positive changes in a person’s mood or behavior. Sometimes, it shows as discomfort and nervousness. We easily recall how our voice broke or the way we blushed or felt flustered and jittery when our crush in high school sat beside us.
Nervousness around them is a sign you’re worried about making a fool out of yourself. [Read: How to slowly build sexual tension until it gets out of control!]
The most obvious sign of mutual attraction is the silly smiles painted on their faces when around each other. People obviously look forward to the time they’re going to spend with the person they like. Even the unluckiest and most stressful day automatically turns into a sunny holiday.
When two people are attracted to each other, their mere presence is a sufficient trigger for a smile. The most ridiculous jokes and antics gets converted into their favorite comedy sketch.
It doesn’t matter how many friends are around, or where they are, they somehow find themselves being drawn to each other slowly. They may be talking to other common friends at a party, on two opposite corners of a room. But give them a few minutes, and you’d notice that they’ve somehow gravitated closer and inched nearer to each other, and now they’re at arm’s distance.
When two people are drawn towards each other, they may not tell each other about it. But everyone in the room can see the affection they have for each other. It’s like two faces that have lit up with excitement.
Both of them want to spend every minute with each other, they’re smiling, flirting, displaying all the signs of body language attraction. And as oblivious as the two of them are, everyone else can see the mutual attraction!
[Read: How to tell if the sexual tension you’re feeling is completely mutual]
One of the signs of mutual attraction between two people is the involuntary and subconscious mirroring of gestures and behavior. If one person runs their hand through their hair, the other person does the same. When one of them takes a sip of their drink, the other involuntarily does the same. It’s like their minds are trying so hard to stay in sync, every expression of one person is a mirror image of the other person’s gestures.
when two people are mutually attracted to each other, it’s like they can’t stop thinking about each other even when they’re apart. So it’s not surprising to know they’d be constantly in touch with each other, via texts, social media or literally every other way possible. [Read: The science of attraction and 17 things that are far more sexier than looks]
Have you ever noticed that when you like someone, and you’re sitting across them, you subconsciously keep aside anything that comes in between you two, be it a cup of coffee, a drink or even your phone?
Well, that’s a clear signs of mutual attraction between two people if you see the other person do the same too. When two people like each other, they’d try to remove any obstacle that comes in between them, be it people or inanimate objects.
You’d notice this all the time. It doesn’t matter how many people are around, but two people who are mutually attracted to each other would always bring their hips to face each other, even if they’re sitting on two diagonal ends of a table.
It’s one of those signs of mutual attraction that show these two people want nothing more than to just get as close to each other, face to face, as possible. [Read: 20 signs of subconscious attraction that shows up between two people]
It could be a group of friends hanging out together, or it could be an office meeting. It just doesn’t matter. One of the signs of mutual attraction is when both of them just can’t keep their eyes of each other and they keep sneaking glances towards each other while talking among a group of people, or even if another friend is talking to everyone in the group.
This is inevitable if there’s mutual attraction between two people. They’re attracted to each other’s faces but they can’t help but glance downwards and subtly check out every inch of the other person’s body when they get the chance. It’s almost involuntary, but mutual attraction does involve lust and sexual attraction too.
Mutual attraction can be confirmed by specific behaviors, actions, and gestures that people do in the presence of the person they like.
So how many of these signs of unspoken mutual attraction do you see already? If you’re seeing a few of them, that’s great going. But if you see of all these signs, whoa, that’s sizzling chemistry and attraction you two have got already!
What are you waiting for? It’s time you take the next step before the fire flickers out. Read these features to learn how to take the next step:
18 ways to start flirting with a friend and tease them without being weird
How to ask a friend out without risking the friendship
How to seduce a friend subtly and find out if they’re into you too
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