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The Flirtiest Ways to Be a Tease, Catch Anyone’s Attention & Stay on Their Mind

Learning how to be a tease is a great way to not only grab attention but really make a statement. They won’t be able to stop thinking about you!

how to be a tease

Flirting is as much of a game as it is an art form. Some people are good at it, others need to improve. However, it’s something we can all learn. A huge part of flirting comes down to teasing. It’s that “I know you want me, but I’m going to see how much” kind of game – you’re making them earn your attention. You give a little, show a little, but not the whole way – you leave them desperate for more. Of course, you need to learn how to be a tease before you can get the results you’re after.

You might wonder why we’re so focused on playing games when it comes to flirting and dating. You might be right to ask, but it’s how flirting has been since the year dot.

It’s a game of cat and mouse and let’s be honest, it’s fun, even if it is a little confusing sometimes! [Read: How to tease a girl sexually and leave her with your thoughts all day]

What does it mean to be a tease?

You might be wondering what kind of teasing we’re talking about. In flirting and dating terms, teasing is a way to get attention and make someone want you more. In some ways, you confuse them and that confusion keeps their mind on you, because you’ve become a challenge.

As we mentioned before, you give them a glimpse of who you are, what you can offer, what you can do, but it’s not enough to satisfy them. It’s not enough to give them the answers they’re after or the effect they’re after. You pull back before that point, leaving them desperate for more!

Anyone can learn how to be a tease. For sure, some are naturals, but if you’re not sure how to get started, we’re going to help you out. Then, you can keep the apple of your eye’s attention firmly on you. You’ll be mysterious, confusing, and downright alluring to them. Who knows where that may lead! [Read: How to tease a guy – 15 ways to make him realize he likes you]

Let’s learn how to be a tease

Firstly, it’s easier said than done. Whether you’re a guy or girl, it’s not always easy channeling your inner tease.

You’re excited, you’re aroused, and now you need to tease them? That’s not always an easy thing to do. But, it’s possible for everyone, you just need to put in the work and keep your eye on the prize. [Read: How to wink like a total tease and catch anyone’s eye]

There are a couple of things you can do to work on your inner tease. If you want to get someone’s attention, you’re going to need to follow these 13 steps below. If not, you could botch the entire plan, and no one wants that to happen.

So, let’s get started and help you become the tease you’ve always wanted to become!

1. Ask yourself what you want

Before you start teasing them, figure out what you want. Playing mind games isn’t cool. Don’t do anything until you understand what you’re looking for.

Do you want something more sexual? Or are you just testing the waters and checking whether they’re into you? [Read: What’s your dating speed for now? Casual or serious]

2. Get to know them a little first

Before anything, you should have a decent idea of who they are as a person. That way, you can decide how you want to approach them. If not, it can get messy.

Plus, if you like this person, you should know them. You don’t need to know them inside out, but don’t rush and skip this step. 

You need to know how they’re going to react to particular strategies – are they going to be intrigued or insulted? Will they enjoy the chase or are they likely to give up? These are things you need to work out before you start learning how to be a tease.

3. What is their personality like?

It’s important to understand their personality so you can decide on how you want to approach them. There’s no one-size-fits-all method when it comes to teasing someone.

So, don’t rush into teasing them right away until you have a better idea of who they are. Some people don’t like being teased while others do. [Read: 20 revealing questions to help you get to know someone better]

4. Start by being unattainable

Here’s the thing, if you want to be successful with teasing, you need to be unattainable – to a degree.

They need to know right from the beginning that you’re not someone who’s easy to get. So, don’t be that available. We know you want to be available for them, but you can’t be. People want what they can’t have.

5. Work on your confidence

If you want to be a successful tease, then you’re going to need to be confident. When it comes to anything, confidence is key. You can say all the right things, but if you don’t own it, nothing will work. [Read: How to be more confident with 12 simple self-love habits]

6. Learn how to be a tease by flirting up a storm!

Without being flirtatious, you won’t get anywhere. Flirting is a necessity when it comes to getting someone’s sexual or romantic attention.

Flirting builds up the sexual chemistry between two people. If you don’t have flirting, then you’re just friends. In other words, you need to flirt. [Read: 15 tips to flirt with a friend and tease them without being weird]

7. Be playful

See, teasing isn’t about bullying this person. You’re supposed to be light and playful, creating a sexual and flirtatious atmosphere. You don’t want them to feel as if they’re being attacked. So, when you’re flirting with them, keep it light and easy.

8. Work out where the line is

Like we said before, teasing is supposed to be light and fun. You need to know where the line is. If not, your teasing can become hurtful to someone. Don’t demean or humiliate them.

Stay away from any comments that may offend them. When it comes to teasing, be gentle and affectionate – with a slight sexy edge. [Read: 13 ways to keep growing yourself into a kind human]

9. Get a little physical – but only a little

You shouldn’t body-slam them against the wall… that’s not teasing, that’s just mean! But you can lightly nudge them when you make a joke, or touch their arm.

Test the waters and see how they react. If they recoil or pull back, then ease up on the physical touching; they don’t like it.

10. Create an emotional connection

Through flirting, you’ll be able to create sexual tension between you. But this also means there needs to be an emotional element.

Yes, tease them and have a good time, but also work on having an engaging conversation. Work on opening up to them as well. Make sure that your entire time together isn’t constant teasing because that can become tiresome. Mix it up a little. [Read: How to be more empathetic and forge emotional connections]

11. Speak with your eyes

You’ve played hard to get, and you’ve flirted your face off. Now, it’s time to do some talking with your eyes.

If you’re sitting across from them, don’t be shy to flash them a look. And then hold the gaze… Don’t just look away hastily. Take your time, be confident, and let them know what you want. The eyes say it all!

12. Give them a kiss

If you want to. If you’re feeling it’s time to take it to the next level, then don’t be shy to give them a kiss.

But the trick is, once you kiss them, pull back. They can’t get everything they want all at once! They need to work for it! [Read: 22 tips to master that perfect first kiss]

13. Learn how to be a tease by not sleeping with them too quickly

You may want to jump on them, but don’t! If you want to be a professional tease, they need to know you’re not hungry for them. You need to be as cool as a cucumber. Take your time before you jump to this step – they need to work for this and only time can get them there.

Teasing is a great way to make sure that you remain in someone’s mind. Then, their image of you will build and build until they can’t wait for a second longer. That’s how you make an impression!

[Read: How to get your crush’s attention with smooth ways to catch their eye]

If you do it right, learning how to be a tease can be a lot of fun. If you want to ramp up the chemistry and flirting between you and the person you like – tease them!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...