How to Recognize the Signs He Doesn’t Miss You or Even Care Anymore

You just broke up with him and want to know if he misses you or not. He might be showing mixed signals, but the signs he doesn’t miss you are easy to spot.

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Breakups will always feel like your world crashing and ending simultaneously. You loved him a lot and invested everything within you, only to have it end in flames. And it’s completely normal to want to know the signs he doesn’t miss you after a breakup.

After all, you want to know if the person you loved with your entire being misses you anymore or not. It gives you the clarity that you’re the only one in the breakup feeling heartbreak and pain, and that you need to move on for good.

The signs might not be as evident right away, but if you look closely, you’ll be able to know if he doesn’t miss you.

Observing their actions, behavior, and body language makes it practically impossible to hide when he doesn’t miss you. Just like your actions reflect when you clearly miss someone, the same goes for when your ex doesn’t miss you. 

[Read: I miss him but I don’t think he misses me – The truth you need to know]

Why are breakups necessary sometimes? 

A relationship will inevitably end because of many reasons, often because of incompatibility or inadequacy. It doesn’t matter who breaks up with who. Your relationship ended because something was lacking in the relationship, and it couldn’t go on any longer. [Read: How to know if someone misses you: 17 signs they think of you often]

Maybe it’s because of a lack of chemistry, different values, different priorities, lack of compatibility, disrespect, toxicity, or any other reasons, breakups will occur throughout our lives.

The thing is, some breakups come when we least expect it, and it’s no longer within our control.

You need to break up because you’ll be stuck with the wrong person for many years *or even a lifetime* if you don’t. People change and even your wants change, so sometimes, it’s likely you grow in different directions. Or, your partner is no longer someone you see yourself with or vice versa. 

[Read: 22 early warning signs of a really bad boyfriend you should never ignore]

Will your ex miss you after a breakup? 

There’s no guarantee or assurance that your ex will miss you after a breakup, but it may happen that he won’t. As relationships *old or present* always hold an important place in our lives, you may hope and want your ex to miss you just as much as you miss him, but that won’t always happen. [Read: Do you miss your ex or think about them often?]

There’s no guarantee he will miss you just because you miss him with extreme intensity. Even if you probably want him back or miss everything you had, the feeling might just not be mutual for him. This may feel brutal to hear, but for all you know, this breakup could have felt like a weight has been lifted off his shoulders for him.

So knowing the signs he doesn’t miss you can help you move on from the relationship and accept that things are truly over. This is all the more important if you were hoping you could get back together. If the hope that he misses you back is the only thing keeping you from moving on, you need to know the signs. 

Are you getting mixed signals from your ex-boyfriend?

This is the part that gets really confusing! What do you do if you’re seeing mixed signals? On some days, he may just ignore you like you don’t exist. And then, out of the blue, the same guy may text you and tell you he misses you!

Or some other time, he may try to flirt his way back, apologize to you, ask to meet you or even tell you how much he wants to get back together.

This is where everything gets confusing, and makes you miss him even more. So does he miss you, or is it just a weak moment?

If you’re looking for the signs he misses you or doesn’t really miss you, what you need to look for is consistency in his behavior. All of us have weak moments now and then, but if he consistently behaves like he doesn’t really care about you anymore, that’s the big sign you need to pay attention to.

What are the signs he doesn’t miss you? 

When a relationship falls apart and two lovers turn into exes, it’s hard to read each other’s feelings anymore.

You don’t communicate with each other, and that only makes deciphering each other’s feelings and intentions even harder. But don’t worry, we’ll help you decipher what the biggest and most obvious signs he doesn’t miss you are, right here!

1. He doesn’t initiate any form of communication

When a man misses you, he won’t be able to resist the urge to communicate with you. Whether it’s coming up with every excuse in the book to contact you, or “accidentally” bumping into you, he won’t hesitate to do it. But if he doesn’t miss you at all, he won’t even bother.

So don’t assume he’s just playing hard to get or making you miss him more by not contacting you. Maybe this is just one of the signs he doesn’t miss you, and you need to come to terms with that.

If he’s not making the first move to communicate with you in your socials, calls, or texts, then there’s your answer. [Read: The no contact rule – A powerful gamble to get your ex to desire you]

2. He returned all your things

In a breakup, it’s normal to take longer to return your things *probably to savor all the memories you once shared*. But if he doesn’t miss you, he won’t hesitate to return your things immediately. He doesn’t care about being sentimental or nostalgic over everything you shared.

The relationship is over, and he wants to get on with the moving process immediately. So if he returned all your things without even a second of a doubt, he doesn’t want to pursue anything with you ever again. He doesn’t miss you and just wants to move on with his life*without you in the picture*. 

3. He removed all your pictures on social media

Similar to the previous sign, it’s normal to take some time before deleting our ex’s photos and evidence on our socials. But if you’re looking for the signs he doesn’t miss you, it’s after he removes all your pictures on his social media immediately after you break up.

If your photos are gone, there’s no way to undo that. Everything you’ve been through together is basically the end. It’s not just him trying to prove a point, but it’s him not missing you. [Read: Deleting pictures of an ex – The psychology behind it & why we do it]

4. He’s happier

Okay, ouch. This is one of the signs he doesn’t miss you that’s brutal to accept, but it’s the truth. Happiness can’t be faked. Sure, it’s easy to put up a picture on social media where you seem happy, but you’re the complete opposite in real life.

But you know him better, which means you also know when he’s genuinely happy. Especially if you have mutual friends and they claim he’s happier than he’s ever been, he doesn’t miss you.

His life is better without you in the picture. This is the last thing you want to hear but the faster you accept this truth, the better for both of you. [Read: How to move on and deal with a break up with a smile]

5. He cuts off ties

We’ve all blocked our ex – doesn’t mean we don’t miss them, right? But in this instance, if this particular sign matches with the other signs on this list, he doesn’t miss you. He’s not trying to play hard to get nor is he using reverse psychology to hook you.

He doesn’t miss you and is trying his best to move on from your relationship. He doesn’t want a reminder of the relationship you once had, and he can only do that by blocking you from his socials and deleting your number. [Read: Should I block my ex? 17 signs to help you decide what’s best for you]

6. He’s already moved on

So you still stalk him, and you’ve seen that he’s dating someone else. Or you have mutual friends, and they’ve told you about his dating life. The worst part is that this is not just a fling. If you actually see with your own eyes that he’s dating someone else and she’s not just a rebound, he doesn’t miss you.

We know how badly you want him to miss you back, but that’s just not the case. Especially as he’s already in love with someone new, he’s just not going to miss you – not anymore. If he’s moved on, it’s already too late for him to miss you. [Read: What are the signs your ex has moved on? 15 clues to know for sure]

7. You feel it in your gut 

Your gut instinct is quite a strong indicator of showing the signs he doesn’t miss you. So if your gut is telling you that he doesn’t miss you, listen to your gut. You’re not crazy for feeling this way because most probably, you’ve subconsciously realized he’s moved on. Your gut knows what your heart doesn’t want to accept.

But think of it this way – the faster you accept he doesn’t miss you, the quicker you’ll be able to move on with your life. You need to listen to your gut, even if every fiber of your being tells you not to. 

8. He doesn’t care about you 

Similar to not initiating any communication with you, one of the signs he doesn’t miss you is when he doesn’t care about you. Maybe it’s by not responding to any of your messages, treating you with indifference, or acting like you don’t matter. It’s because he really just doesn’t care.

So if you’re looking for the signs he doesn’t miss you, watch how he stops caring about you. Maybe he used to treat you like you’re his whole world, and now you’re practically nobody to him. He talks to you if he has to, but you don’t see any sign of longingness or love in his eyes when he speaks to you.

If he used to prioritize you, but now he doesn’t seem to care at all, that’s a very strong sign he doesn’t miss you anymore. [Read: Emotionally detached? 15 signs they don’t really care about you]

9. He doesn’t put his best foot forward 

You can tell if a guy misses you if he puts his best foot forward even after the breakup. This means he still wants you and thinks about you every second of the day. But if he stops trying and stops putting his best foot forward, he doesn’t miss you. The lack of trying is one of the evident signs he doesn’t miss you.

Even if you’re smothering him with affection or pushing him to meet you, he doesn’t even bother trying to impress you or make you happy – at least not anymore. 

10. He never gets jealous 

Jealousy is an easy way of knowing if someone still cares. This is the core reason why in failing marriages and relationships, that lack of jealously means they no longer care about you. [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship & learn to overcome it]

So if you’re looking for signs he doesn’t miss you, see if he reacts when he sees you talking to other guys or when you post pictures with other guys on your social media. if he doesn’t seem affected at all, perhaps it’s time you leave him in the past as well.

What’s worse is if he doesn’t respond with jealousy or envy, and instead, he shows genuine happiness for you *which would annoy you even further*! 

11. He actively avoids you 

When a guy actively avoids you, he’s not just busy with work or focusing on himself. He doesn’t want to see you and he doesn’t want to give you any hope of a reconciliation. The fact that he’s avoiding you means he doesn’t miss you and is getting himself out of any situation where he has to deal with any interaction with you.

He knows that avoiding you gives him an out for all the mess and awkwardness that might happen *especially if he’s already dating someone else again*. 

12. He’s not patient 

You remember how he used to be patient and tolerant when he was in love with you? That patience doesn’t hold water when he doesn’t miss you. If he doesn’t miss you any longer, he won’t even bother being patient.

He might even show you the side of him he never showed when you were in love, which is his anger and temper.

If he’s getting annoyed by all your calls and texts, he won’t hesitate to show you just how irritated he is just to get you to stop. He just doesn’t care like you want him to. [Read: 14 things you must do to look cool when you bump into your ex]

13. He never apologizes 

On the off chance that he says something hurtful and mean, he doesn’t even apologize for it. He won’t say sorry because, for him, it’s the brutal truth you need to accept. So if you’re looking for signs he doesn’t miss you, it’s his evident lack of apology.

Maybe he invalidated your feelings or said something mean, and he won’t even bother saying sorry. Even if he does, it will feel forced and obligatory. There won’t be anything genuine from his apology. 

So, what are the signs he doesn’t miss you?

When he doesn’t miss you, it will be evident in his actions, body language, and behavior.

Similar to watching a person’s actions when they miss you, the same goes for when they don’t. The fact he doesn’t miss you means you just need to accept things are really over and move on with your life.

It’s going to hurt, but it will also be the kind of pain that’ll feel free. After all, these signs might be just what you needed to accept the breakup once and for all. 

[Read: Does he miss me? 12 clear signs he still thinks about you often]

So now that you know all the biggest signs he doesn’t miss you, does your ex resonate with most or all these signs? If so, the feeling is definitely not mutual, and you need to move on with your life. After all, why bother holding on to someone who has already let go of you a long time ago? 

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Dorothy Anne Field
Dorothy Field
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