20 Secret Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Guys

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Want to know the little secrets guys keep but wish you could know? Here are 20 things guys wish girls knew that will help you read his mind better.

If you could take a peek into a guy’s mind, would you?

Do you wonder what a guy thinks?

Or ponder over whether you even understand a guy and his mind?

Understanding a guy better isn’t easy.

They’re not always the best of talkers, and almost all guys have a thick shell that’s hard to penetrate.

But if you’re having a hard time understanding the guys in your life, fret not, because here are 20 things guys secretly wish girls knew about them, that could actually make you their number one in no time!

[Read: 30 facts about guys all girls need to know]

Things guys wish girls knew more about

As a guy, I know how hard it can be for us to express our true feelings to a girl.

Sometimes, guys think it’s just not worth an explanation.

And at other times, we guys are too egoistic or full of machismo to drop our guard and reveal just how vulnerable and weak we actually are around girls.

But almost all the time, we just wish girls could read our minds and understand what we’re really feeling inside. [Read: Ten things girls should never say to guys ever]

Here are 20 things that guys wish girls knew better, because it would make the world such a perfect place, with more love and a lot more understanding between the sexes.

#1 Guys hurt more. Guys may pretend like they don’t care, or they may choose to walk away instead of having a conversation, but that doesn’t mean they don’t hurt inside. If a guy’s experiencing a broken heart, it hurts him a lot more than you think. And the worst part, it sucks because no one else knows he’s crying inside other than him!

#2 Guys like chick flicks. There, I’ve said it! It’s true. Guys actually enjoy a good Adam Sandler’s movie *as long as it’s not his stereotyped and regurgitated crap* or a Notebook romance just as much as much as you do. Your guy may moan or he may whine while you drag his ass to the movies, but he may actually be the one to sniff his tears back first during a touchy scene.

Just don’t ask your guy to say it out loud that he likes chick flicks though. Unless he’s comfortable with his feminine side, he won’t have the stomach to say it out loud.

#3 His man tears. Guys cry, and at times, they even scrunch their big faces and cry like ugly babies. Take him to a tear jerking chick flick or an emotional inspirational movie and you’ll see him wiping his face with his sleeves when you’re engrossed in the movie.

Guys cry, but they hate it. They don’t like losing control of their tear ducts, especially in front of a girl *unless he’s already cried in front of her before*. So if you catch him sobbing discreetly form the corner of your eye, don’t turn around and laugh at his face. He’ll feel helpless and weak, and he’ll hate you for it.

#4 Porn time. Let’s move on now from the tear jerking to the other kind of jerking. I have to admit it, guys enjoy watching porn now and then. We’ve always been fascinated by a girl’s assets, and even if we’ve seen thousands of boobs on the computer screen, we can’t help but watch more when we get the time. Unless you’re guy is addicted to it or it’s affecting your sexual intimacy, let your man be. [Read: Why guys watch porn instead of their girl in bed]

And just so you know, you can’t stop him even if you tried, believe me! But what you need to remember is this, he doesn’t love you any less just because he watches porn clips a couple of times a week. If you want to feel better, join him and watch porn together. He’ll love that thought.

#5 Guys love a woman in control. Guys love it when a girl initiates sex now and then, or even gets on top of them. It makes them feel sexy about themselves because they’re desired by the woman they love. And it’s a big compliment for a guy when he realizes that he can make a girl go wet and tingly down there without even initiating sex. [Read: How to ride a man and look sexy doing it]

#6 Thoughts of the future. Guys do think of the future, even though they may behave like lazy walruses that couldn’t care less about what happens the next day. Your man would wish you’d understand this and just let him dream in private.

Your guy may not share his thoughts or say his dreams of the future out loud, but that’s only because he’s too afraid of promising things to you that he may not be able to achieve. If he builds castles in the sky for you, he’d be too afraid to fail and may even end up going through a life crisis just trying to make those promises a reality. As guys, it’s so much easier to pretend like we don’t care about the future instead.

#7 Touch yourself. All guys like it when their girl spends a little more time moving her hands all over herself during foreplay. Watching a girl touch herself is such a huge turn on, it’s hard to even explain it in words. Just move your hands along your breasts and your sides when you’re in bed with him, and you’ll see how quickly he’ll go boing! [Read: 12 foreplay tips for guys that work like a charm]

#8 Space, dammit! If your boyfriend sits by himself for a while at the end of the day, it means he needs his space. And it definitely doesn’t mean he’s waiting patiently for you to join him and gossip about your day’s events.

Guys are extremely possessive about their personal space and need at least an hour by themselves every day. It’s when he relaxes and frees his mind. So if you catch your man staring into empty space or the telly, just let him be. [Read: How to give space in a relationship]

#9 Your eating habits. Don’t order a salad for yourself and eat a man’s fries off his plate, especially when he’s hungry. It’s a sure way to piss any guy off in a flash. A guy measures his portions visually and mentally, and even if one morsel reduces from his plate, it throws his calculations off balance. And he’d definitely lose his appetite and his temper!

#10 Bragging rights. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, brag about him. But never ever brag about any other guy, especially in front of your own man. This is something you really need to keep in mind.

Guys absolutely hate it when their girlfriend brags about how cool or rich another friend of hers is. It makes a guy feel small and it definitely annoys him to no end. If you care about your guy, don’t speak highly of any other guy like he’s better than your boyfriend. [Read: How to make your boyfriend feel less jealous and insecure]

#11 Interruptions. Guys just don’t like it when they’re interrupted by girls when they’re watching a game or a movie they like. Yes, we understand that guys and girls don’t always share the same interests in movies or games, but just because you aren’t interested in something doesn’t mean you need to disturb us or distract us.

We don’t ignore you when we’re watching a game. We’re just too involved in the game to stare at you while you twiddle your hair. We wish girls could understand this instead of getting annoyed or picking a fight each time we’re busy. [Read: 13 clingy girl habits and how you can avoid them]

#12 Thoughtless gifts. Sometimes, a guy’s gifts may seem thoughtless or boring, but that doesn’t mean we love you less or didn’t try hard enough. Girls are just better than guys when it comes to gifting decisions. Unless you know for sure that your boyfriend picked a last minute present for you, be nice, will ya? Guys like getting appreciated for the effort they’ve taken.

#13 Attractive girls. Almost all guys are intimidated by attractive women who look like they just walked out of a magazine photo shoot *unless he knows the girl already*. And if this attractive girl ever speaks rudely to a guy or makes him feel small about himself, he’ll tuck tail and run. And then, he’ll call the attractive girl names and trash talk about her with everyone else who has ears.

So if you’re an attractive girl, try to be nice now and then when a cute guy tries to start a conversation with you. It’ll make it easier for a nice guy to say hello, and it’ll save you all the name calling behind your back. [Read: How to make a guy like you by making him want you badly]

#14 Making the first move. It takes a lot of confidence and effort for a guy to walk up and start a conversation with a girl he likes. It’s just like making a public speech. He may behave like he’s cool and all that, but in reality, his heart may be beating like a scared chicken inside. We understand the rules of playing hard to get, but give us a sign now and then to let us know you want to be approached. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention and get him to talk to you]

#15 We’re the best. This is a secret wish, but one that all guys share. Guys wish that every girl they meet would see them as the best guy they’ve ever met, and say it out loud now and then. Guys just love impressing or smooth talking every girl they meet. If you’ve just been introduced to a charmer and you like him, please don’t hold that compliment back. He’d like you more if you say it out loud. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never ever forget]

#16 Guys like the attention. Guys love public display of affection, even if they behave like they hate it. But more than just PDA, guys feel on top of the world if the girl initiates it by clinging to his arm or snuggling up to him even if the guy doesn’t reciprocate. It makes a guy feel more like a man, because he feels like the protector.

#17 Friends matter. Most men are mama’s boys. And even if they’re not, they have a group of guy friends they’ve known for more than a decade or so. So it’s pretty important for a guy that his girlfriend gets along with his family and his friends. So if you want to impress the guy you’re dating, make his friends like you. A guy will be more committed to the relationship if you get along with the people that are close to his heart.

#18 Guys enjoy the dating game too. Well, this is the whole truth. As much as guys try to portray themselves as the gender that’s only interested in moving the pelvic bones in unison, we do care about the dating game too.

For a guy, dating a great girl who’s liked by many guys is like a challenge. As much as it is about winning, they love the pursuing and the little bonus points they get along the way as they date a girl. So if you want to win a guy and keep him interested for longer, make sure you keep the courting game long and exciting. [Read: How to make a guy chase you and go crazy for you]

#19 The way to a man’s heart. A way to a man’s heart is truly through his stomach. It may seem like an old and overrated adage, but it still holds true to this day. He may not care much about your skills in the kitchen, but if you can whip up a delicious meal for him, he’ll immediately like you a lot more before the end of the meal. So if you want brownie points, show off your talents!

#20 Guys never kiss and tell if they’re serious about you. Perhaps, he may tell one friend he trusts because he can’t contain his excitement about making out with you, but he’ll never share all the details with everyone just to boast about it. [Read: 25 ways to look really cute and met a guy’s heart]

So if you’re dating a guy who’s sweet and wondering if he’s a keeper, pay attention to how he treats the sex life both of you share. If he keeps your sexual escapades a secret and treats it with respect, he’s definitely got long term on his mind, at least for now!

[Read: 30 subtle, obvious and sexy flirting moves you can use with any guy]

And now you know it, girls… the 20 secret things guys wish girls knew even if they never say it out loud. Just keep these things in mind, especially when you’re with a guy you like. As long as you play by these cards, he’ll definitely be a lot more interested in you.

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21 thoughts on “20 Secret Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Guys”

  1. Benita says:

    Wow! This is news to me.

    I have a best friend who’s a guy and we’re really close. I’m always speaking highly of him to everyone else including my boyfriend. And my boyfriend doesn’t seem to have a problem with it. And I don’t understand why a guy you’re dating should feel threatened by any other friend who’s a guy. Do boyfriends ever have a reason to?

  2. Mark says:

    As guys, it’s in our nature to hold our feelings back. We don’t share them with others because society has taught us to be that way. When we’re little kids, if we cry when we get hurt, all the grownup women tell the little boys to stop “behaving like a little girl” when we cry. And as we grow up, these traits along with many others start to stick on deep within our psyche and becomes a part of who we are.

    And these days, women think man tears are sexy, and a real man doesn’t hold his tears back. But really, ask yourself why guys have turned out this way. It’s only because women once told guys that it’s silly to cry.

    So right back at you, girls. Your kind created a monster with no external feelings, and you wonder why guys are so rigid with their feelings!

  3. Jacob says:

    These secret facts are definitely something I can relate to. If a girl were to ask me if I liked chick flicks, I’d definitely tell tell het that I don’t. But deep inside, I’d still hope that she’d take me to one. And if my girlfriend would ever tell me that I’m insecure, I’d definitely put myself into an emotional shell.

    If only girls could truly understand these things, I think relationships would be so much easier and less complicated. But I’m sure just like guys, girls too have their own secret things they’d wish guys knew. I’m guessing I’ll find it somewhere on Lovepanky.

    To better love and relationships, and beyond! Cheers!

  4. Cassandra says:

    Really nice.i can relate with most of what was written.. My boyfriend gets edgy when I start talking highly of another guy…thanks a lot..this was really helpful.

  5. Sonya says:

    I was talking with a guy in my class for 2 months we studied together some female student decided to join the group however she never came to any of the study group meetings just said she did not want to interup anything? WTF? she also called me 2 times at 3 and 4 a,m what is up with this BITCH?

  6. Temperance says:

    I just had to comment on Mark’s post.

    Why are you blaming women for society’s view of men crying? I thought the classic image was the father telling the son to stop crying and be a man while the mother babies him….

  7. 3Breast says:

    Guys also like it when you grab their butts when you let them crawl on top of you. They love that shit, (and I like doing it)

  8. Alex says:

    Lol I’m laughing at #9 it’s soooooo true for both genders. (yes I said it ladies were fatasses sometimes to you just don’t admit it)

  9. Not telling says:

    A guy likes chickflicks? Most gay thing I’ver ever heard. I only agreed with about 1/3.

  10. fdsdfsfds says:

    Porn is incredibly bad for health and for the relationship. Don’t make it normal.

  11. NOYB says:

    I never knew a lot of this but it’s good to know
    #7 is because when u see someone doing something ur brain automatically visualizes u doing it

  12. Me says:

    Oh believe me, guys ALWAYS kiss and tell. Aaaalways

  13. Kyle says:

    Only real note is that most of the rules apply to MATURE guys… as in guys, who have got at least some of their life straight and aren’t completely clueless about the world and about how they really feel.

    That being said, guys DO love attention and we DO love feeling like we’re “worth it,” which should surprise no one… short version being us guys have hyper-sensitive egos that tend to inflate or burst painfully rather easily… something to keep an eye on in your relationships.

  14. TK says:

    18 is a pile of bull. Playing hard to get can be fun but we hate not knowing if the girl we like even cares so PLEASE don’t forget to drop little hints regularly, ok? 🙂

  15. Kasey says:

    Benita: Friend zone is mostly alien and weird to a guy. Odds are if you’re guy friend finds you the least bit attractive and is single he’s thought it. He may be respectful of your relationship and keeping his thoughts to himself, but your guy knows better and it’s more likely he’s trusting you (and your friend if he knows him well enough) to not do anything. It’s an instinctive worry.

    Many recent studies show that hard to get lowers how much a guy likes a girl, he may want her more, but when that happens he’s not as likely to stick around once he’s “gotten” her.

  16. Kathe says:

    If we girls have to deal with number 4, then you guys have to deal with number 10. You don’t want to be compared to other guys (number 10). We don’t want to be compared to other women (number 4). Get it?

  17. shredder says:

    This is so far the most disappointing article I I have read on this site. Although I do agree, to some extent on some of the points. But the porn! “A couple of times a week?” That is NOT okay. I guess you missed the article about sharing your fantasies that was posted a little while ago, here. Everything you have said can go both ways and make a relationship very happy. It is way more exciting to be involved with a man who wants to step up and MEET IN THE MIDDLE. Maybe it’s the way you have chosen to word your piece and you didn’t mean to offend but the semantics are offensive. I can forgive that. But all the expectation for women to do all these things so she can impress him? That’s bullpoop. Sure, absolutely let’s tell each other what makes us tick so we can CHOOSE to do any of those things because we want to not because we’re worried about approval. I am so very tired of some men and their sense of entitlement to women and what we can do for them. I think next time you could consider writing a thorough piece about what men want to do for women. And not only for us, but WITH us. Peace,

  18. brian says:

    Amen to the food stealing one. I hate that when my girlfriend takes my food. It is more for the fact that I may have asked her on a number of occasions if she wanted anything and she replied no every time. I feel like a jerk then for denying her, so don’t, but it is her fault. The worst is when she takes a piece of someting (pizza, for example) that you are halfway through eating. It actually makes me very angry.

  19. Evangelene Wilson says:

    You have alot of good info/advice out there but what if your with a guy that’s always being a jerk to you? i know i do most of the things you wrote: 3-17 and 19-20. I do want a relationship to be working out but he just keeps telling me that I’m complaining too much or that I’m always asking for help, (he asks me for help most of the time and i help him no questions asked, especially with school stuff because were both in college or when hes hosting a metal show, and when i ask him for help, like an assignments or simple around-the-house things, he gets upset saying i ask for too much.

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