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Don’t Walk Away! How to Ask a Girl for Her Phone Number

If you want to bag a date with a girl, you’ll probably need to call her. Learn how to ask a girl for her phone number and start the ball rolling!

how to ask a girl for her phone number

You’re keen to ask the apple of your eye out on a date but you don’t how to do it. You want to call her, but you don’t have her number. Can you see the problem here? Unless you’re brave enough to walk straight up to a girl and ask her out on a date without really knowing that much about her, you’re going to need to learn how to ask a girl for her phone number so you can swap messages back and forth first.

Many women have been in the situation where they’re waiting for a guy to ask for their number. Many get tired of waiting! Most of the time it’s because the guy is too busy patting off his sweaty forehead or fumbling his way through asking the age-old question, “can I have your number?”

You shouldn’t look at this as some treacherous and anxiety-ridden task. If you just follow these steps, not only will you not sweat as much, but you’ll also end up with her number on your phone. [Read: How to get a girl’s number every single time – 15 no-fail ways]

Before you learn how to ask a girl for her phone number, should you actually get her number at all?

Before you go and put yourself out on a limb, think about if you actually want her number or not. Not because you’re scared of rejection, but think about it—did you actually have a good time talking to her?

We see it all the time where guys get the number of a girl and then never text her because he wasn’t that interested in her. Then why even bother? Are you just practicing your pick-up skills? What’s the point? Listen, it should be simple: if you’re interested in her then get her number. [Read: Should I ask her out? 30 signs to know if she wants you too]

Also, ask yourself what you want from this girl, before you even learn how to ask a girl for her phone number. Okay, that may have been a bad question, we know at the end of the day what you’re interested in, but let’s just pretend that’s not the only thing on your mind. Do you want to go on a date with her? Or are you just planning on pulling a one-nighter with her?

Because if that’s the case, then you should probably be leaving the club with her right now instead of trying to get her number. Know what you want before you start trying to form some sort of relationship with her. [Read: How to start a conversation with a girl over text]

Timing is everything

When learning how to ask a girl for her phone number, you need to get the timing right to increase your chances of success. This is what most guys worry about—when do you ask for her number? You probably think it’s a good idea to ask her for her number at the end of the conversation—no, not a good idea.

1. Ask when the conversation is flowing

When you’re at the peak of your conversation, when the chat is really flowing, that’s when you should ask her for her number. If you ask for her number right before leaving the club or party, it’ll look like you were just trying to score. After you get her number, carry on with the conversation. This shows you’re genuinely interested in her. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

2. Don’t actually ask for her number

What we mean is, don’t actually ask the question. Don’t come out and say “please can I have your number”, it kind of gives off a desperate vibe. Although women like manners on a guy, we also want a guy who knows what they want. Asking that way makes it appear that you’re unsure.

So, instead, say to her, “I would really like to meet you again, give me your number and I’ll give you a call.” Be confident and completely normal when telling her. She’ll probably say yes. [Read: 9 subtle differences between a confident and arrogant man]

3. Tell her why you want her number

After you’ve said something along the lines of “give me your number and we can meet up”, tell her why. That doesn’t mean giving her a list of reasons, but something like “maybe we can go to that new coffee shop”, or “there’s a new band playing at the local bar, I’ll call you when they’re next on”. It shows that you have the right intentions and that will put her at ease.

Appear confident as you get her number

You cannot tell her to give you her number confidently and then spend the next five minutes fumbling in your pockets trying to find your phone. You want the conversation to flow smoothly from her saying yes to her giving you her number. [Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]

1. A key point in learning how to ask a girl for her phone number – Let her enter the number herself!

Just hand her your phone so she can enter her number herself. Don’t have her yelling the number into your ear and then you don’t get it right and she has to do it again. She knows how to work a phone, let her do it herself. If you’re nervous about handing her your phone you obviously need to clean up some of the photos from your gallery!

2. This is the point where you can give suggestions

Earlier, we mentioned giving her a reason why you want her number – this is a good time to give it. As she’s entering her number into your phone, casually bring up some ideas for your date. You can say, “We can meet up for a coffee,” or “If you like sushi, I know a great place in the city.” It shows her you’re interested and you know what you want. [Read: The best 50 free date ideas when you want romance on a budget]

3. Listen to her feedback

As you mention suggestions for your date, you’ll be able to read her reactions. From her reply, you’ll see what she likes and what she doesn’t like. That helps you figure out where to take her and it’s one of the perks of learning how to ask a girl for her phone number properly. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you *without really asking*]

Text her right away

After she gives you her number shoot her a quick text. We know there’s some secret rule about how long you have to wait until you text her, we heard it was three days. Listen, that’s stupid. You’re a grown man. You don’t have to sit and wait three days to text a girl you’re interested in. If you like her, you text her whenever you want.

We recommend texting her right away just so she knows the number is yours. Text her something flirtatious or keep it casual. The point is, she’ll know it’s you and she’ll start looking forward to your date.

Just be honest about why you want her number

Many guys lie about their intentions when learning how to get a girl’s phone number. Don’t lie, it’s pointless. You don’t need her number because you’re interested in the health food store she works at or you wanted to switch gyms and you’ve been eyeing the one she goes to.

Come on, we’re not stupid. So, cut the crap and just be straight up. She’ll respect you more if you’re honest than if you come up with a lame excuse to ask her out. To be honest, your odds of getting rejected are higher as well. [Read: How to tell a girl you like her and not come across creepy]

Finally, when learning how to ask a girl for her phone number – know when to back off

You have to know when she’s not interested in you or feels uncomfortable about giving you her number. In that case, don’t force her. If she’s not comfortable then ask if you can add her on Facebook. Some girls don’t feel comfortable giving their numbers to complete strangers. We know, you spoke to her for an hour, but that still makes you a stranger to her.

So, just suck it up and add her on Facebook. From there, continue speaking until she feels more comfortable meeting you for a date. What we’re trying to say is, don’t force something that’s not coming naturally to you.

[Read: Texting anxiety – How to send and receive texts without freaking out]

If you follow these steps, you’ll be well on your way to getting her number. Learning how to ask a girl for her phone number isn’t hard – just breathe, no one likes an excessively sweaty guy.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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