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18 Signs Your Date Really Likes You on Your First Date

18 Signs Your Date Really Likes You On Your First Date

Wondering if your first date was a romantic success? Here are 18 signs of a good first date that can help you find out if your date likes you already! By Kirsten Cole

Most of us don’t pay too much attention to a first date.

To many, it’s just a casual meeting to find out if we’re compatible with this other person who seems interested in knowing us better.

But if you think about it, a perfect first date is a potential turning point in your life.

Not to put any pressure on you, but on every first date you go to, there’s a good chance that you may meet the person you could end up spending the rest of your life with.

[Read: 20 ways to perfect your first date conversation]

How to know if your date likes you on your first date

If you’re the patient one who doesn’t mind waiting a couple of days to find out if your date likes you, all you need to do is wait for your date to call you *or you call them* and see if there’s a potential second date in sight.

But if you’re the eager beaver who wants to know whether your date’s impressed while you’re still on the date, read on.

[Read: How to plan a perfect date keeping your date’s interest in mind]

Signs your date likes you

Have you ever been on a date recently where you thought the first date was going perfect? You probably felt the chemistry and the romance, and you just knew that the person with you liked you just as much as you like them. Heck, you may even be slowly and dreamily falling in love, while expectantly waiting for their next call or text.

But then, the call never comes. [Read: 14 signs you’re ruining your first date without even realizing it!]

Sometimes, you may think a first date’s all fine and dandy, while your date, on the other hand, may be clawing their nails under their seat and waiting desperately for the evening to end.

It’s easy to feel lost in translation when you’re on a first date, because both of you are obviously trying to be nice to each other, and no one’s going to reveal their true feelings unless the feelings are on the extreme side of lust or disgust.

But if you can be just a wee bit more observant, you’d be able to decode if your date’s falling for you or fleeing away from you in no time.

18 signs your date likes you on the first date

Here are a few signs that can help you find out if your date is interested in you or warming up to you. And once you see these signs, all you need to do is reciprocate back, impress them some more and wait for the happy feelings to overflow.

[Read: 20 signs of attraction you can pick on a first date]

#1 The sitting posture. If your date likes you and is having a fun time on the date, they’d have a hard time staying away from you. While talking, is your date leaning towards you most of the time during the date? Then they’re really excited to be with you. Additionally, if your date sits back in a relaxed posture while staring into your eyes between all the leaning-across-the-table, it means they’re really comfortable around you and rather like you.

#2 The unrestrainable smile. A person who’s smitten by you or is infatuated by your presence can’t help but break into a warm smile for no reason at all during the date. You’d notice this more often when you’re saying something and your date’s listening to you with a giddy smile plastered across their face.

#3 Deep stares. Your date stares deeply into your eyes while talking to you. And at times, even makes you feel rather uncomfortable and awkward. This is a subconscious move where your date wants to get closer to you, and longingly stares at you because they just can’t get any closer without the risk of coming across as a perv. [Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look really hot on your first date]

#4 Laughter and blushes. Does your date laugh at the smallest of jokes you make? Or do they blush easily when you compliment them? Blushing and laughter are subconscious flirting moves that is very hard to hide when you’re in the presence of someone you have a crush on.

#5 Opening up. If your date enjoys your company, they’d have a hard time shutting up during the date. When two people like each other, it’s either awkward smiles and blushes *at the beginning* or incessant chatter.

#6 Stretching the date. Does your date look for ways to stretch the date, either by finishing their dessert really slowly, by ordering coffee after dessert or by continuing the conversation even after the bill’s all paid and the table cleared? These are sure signs that reveal that this person doesn’t want the date to end. In all probability, your date may even suggest a walk or another place to hang out after the date. [Read: 5 tips you need to know to end a great date perfectly]

#7 The teasing game. As the date progresses, does your date start asking you personal questions or do they pull your leg and tease you often? No one makes the effort to tease their date playfully on a first date unless they’re trying to win them over with humor.

#8 Self conscious sexiness. Does your date wet their lips discreetly often while glancing at your face or your lips? When you’re flirting with someone you’re sexually attracted to, you can’t help but feel self conscious about your own body parts. You may even feel the need to look down your own blouse now and then or stand up straighter, because you’d be very aware of your own body, especially where your date’s eyes linger.

#9 The copycat. If the cutie you’re with starts to fall for you on the date, they’d subconsciously start copying your behavior. You lean, and they’d lean. You talk softly, and they’d start whispering too. It’s like both your bodies are bound by invisible strings, but in reality, it’s a subconscious effort on your date’s part to relate to you better and feel more connected to you.

#10 The next date. If you like someone, you can’t wait to see them again. If your date asks you when they can see you again, or says something along the lines of “…I can’t wait to see you again…” or hints about the next time both of you can talk even before the date is over, your date is probably falling for you already.

#11 The touchy flirting. Can you keep your hands off a sexy someone when you’re cozying up with them? Well, neither can your date! If your date is sexually attracted to you, they won’t be able to keep their hands off you while making a point or complimenting you. They’d use any excuse to touch you, be it your watch, your earrings, or your soft skin. [Read: How to touch your date and build the sexual attraction discreetly]

#12 You are their world. A good sign to judge how much your date likes you is by noticing how much attention they pay to you. Have you ever noticed a newly hitched couple in a restaurant? They can’t keep their eyes off each other, irrespective of who’s around. Do you see that look in your date’s eyes?

#13 Exciting similarities. During the date conversation, does your date get overly excited when both of you share similar interests? They’re obviously very happy to know that both of you like the same thing, be it movies, concerts or hobbies, and are probably looking forward to sharing the activity some time with you. [Read: 40 first date questions to have a fun conversation with your date]

#14 So far so good. Does your date tell you they’re having a nice time even when you don’t ask them about it? Your date is probably enjoying the date so much they can’t wait to share the information with you *of course, this could just be a conversation filler too, so keep an eye on the other signs*.

#15 The comfort zone. Does your date sit really close to you as the date progresses, or do they walk really close to you almost as if both of you are attached at the hip after the date? All of us have a comfort space around us and if someone we dislike enters the space, it makes us very uncomfortable. On the other hand, if someone we like a lot enters our personal comfort space, we enjoy the feeling. [Read: The 10 types of love all of us experience in our lifetime]

#16 The drive home. Does your date offer to drive you home *or do they accept to get driven home*? If your date doesn’t like you or doesn’t want to see you again, there’s no way they would show you where they live just in case you turn out to be a psycho stalker. If you find yourself driving back home together after the date, it’s a good chance that your date likes you and would like to see you again sometime soon.

#17 The lingering moments. While saying goodbye after the date, watch your date’s expression and body language. While hugging or kissing you goodbye, do they linger just a second longer, and do they move away from the hug slower than necessary?

If your date holds your hand softly and takes their time letting go of you, or if they dilly dally around even after saying goodbye, your date probably wants to do more than just say goodbye. [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss a lot more memorable]

#18 The last goodbye. Does your date look back at you more than once while walking away or driving away? If they do, they probably don’t even want to say goodbye to you just yet. If your date glances back at you and smiles *blushes sheepishly* as they move away, they’re smitten by you, more with each passing goodbye glance. [Read: When should a guy really call a girl after the first date?]

How many of these signs do you see in your most recent first date? Individually, these signs could be accidental at times, but if you experienced quite a few of these 18 signs, your date surely likes you and may definitely want to see you again sometime very soon!

[Read: 12 second date tips to plan and build the perfect romance]

So the next time you head out on a first date with someone new, remember these 18 signs your date likes you, and you’d be able to know whether your date is smitten by you or not before the end of the date.

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Kirsten Cole
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10 thoughts on “18 Signs Your Date Really Likes You on Your First Date”

  1. Tim says:

    I think #18 hits the nail on the head. It’s a surefire way to know if your date likes you. The other signs are great and helpful, but how your date says goodbye to you can predict everything. If you have a wonderful date, saying goodbye would be the hardest thing because you just don’t want to let go of each other. I know I would want to hold on to my date or give her a lingering goodbye hug and a kiss if I had a nice time.

  2. em says:

    Hi, Just want to ask for an advice.I’ve met a guy online. We chat for days then exchange numbers & calls me afterwards.He’s very eager to know me,asks things,shown interests and invited me for a date.@ first I wasn’t interested in him but i’ve discovered how intelligent he was so my interest grew and curiosity tells me to say yes for a date.
    So he ask me again to meet him in a coffee shop and I say Yes to him,beforehand he also asked me for a movie and a date in a bar.But i’d say no to the two cause he’s still a stranger to me. We’ve finally met,i’m not attracted physically but we’ve had a 2.5 hour good conversation over a cup of coffee.Then we’ve decided to go home.We bid goodbyes and He kissed me on the cheek.Now, is the 3rd day after our 1st date & he doesn’t give a call.
    Is it ok if,I ask him what is wrong with me to clear my mind & I want honest answer cause I see him as a good friend to be.thanks.

  3. trish says:

    So I ran into a guy after a year. We spent the night out together and he exhibited 10/18 signs. At the end of the night I told him he should get my number one of these days and he told me that he would work on it? I feel like all the signs were there, he was obviously into me and I was into him. Now it’s been weeks since I’ve seen him and he never got my number.

  4. Ana says:

    I think, around 15 of the signs were there, I could tell. I know what are awkward moments and the feeling of boredom on the guy’s face, and it wasn’t there at all. Yet he never called back, even though I was sure he would. Now I think he was a player and knew too well how to make the girl feel attracted and feel like everything’s going great.
    Beware, ladies! Too many signs on a first date may be a bad sign!

  5. M says:

    @Trish, why didn’t you grab his number? I’ve seen a lot of relationships work out when the girl initiates.

    Reading the 18 points, one thing that popped into mind was a lot of these signs are signs that guys show on the first date in the hopes for some “fun”. Perhaps that’s all he was looking for?

  6. Lilly says:

    We met at a party. We’d both been drinking. We moved to another location and sort of cuddled in the cab ride there. He bought me a drink and we made out in a public location. We exchanged numbers and he texted me before I got home. The next day he asked me out and we went out. I was weird, because it was my first date. He was sort of showing off his talents around me, held my hands, we had amazing eye contact, he did check his phone towards the end, but we also watched some really funny videos on his phone. At the end he walked with me to the train station and I went in for a hug/kiss on the cheek. He ended up kissing me on the lips. He said he would let me know about Saturday. I texted him a few hours after I got home saying I had fun, and maybe we could do something sometime soon. He responded saying he was actually busy saturday and we’ll see about doing something soon. Is this bad?

  7. jp says:

    Well my first date was tricky to tell cos i got mixed signals, and the main reason and you’d probably agree, was that he was going through a breakup!
    Signs he liked me: when he saw me he smiled shyly, sat at table across me, lots of eye contact that lasted long enough that at some points we both had to look away and come back to eye contact. Most of the time we were talkong about his ex and about mine, and them later he walked me to my train station line even though he was taking another line. He texted me later to say “it was nice meeting you, but still needs time to get over the ex”. To be fair, he did say this before we met. So i really don’t know if he’s into me?!

  8. Damon says:

    I’m probably a moderately attractive guy, girls would come up and talk to me, I’m a bit shy, so usually keep the conversation to a few words only and then go about my business. But, if there’s a girl I like I’ll make extra effort to try and talk to her, probably joke around, be in her peripheral vision and whenever I see you I would have big ass smile on my face. Also, when someone likes the other person, the eyes betray the mind and you’ll find them looking in your general direction a lot.

  9. Myspace Tom says:

    Came here because of the dileema. Went on a first date. Really liked the girl. But don’t see any second date in sight. Seemed to be well. She gave me a nice warm hug but I don’t know. I’m gonna text her tomorrow, 2 days after the date. If I hear nothing back I’m gonna have to cut this one off.

  10. love this. the underlying sentiment seems to be to always shoot for
    honest and open communication. usually if someone is
    intimidated by or wary of simple honesty and open communication on the
    first date, it doesn’t bode well for a meaningful relationship.

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