There’s this misconception that you have two types of women: good and naughty. Both live inside one woman. Encourage the naughty women from hiding.
I always hear men saying, “I want a good girl, not a slut.” I don’t even know what that means. So, you want someone who’s a good person but doesn’t enjoy sex? I’m confused, I thought, men would want a girl who’s sexually liberated and free. Wouldn’t that make the sex even better? What about unleashing instead the naughty women within?
Fellas, you have to stop thinking that because there are women that enjoy having sex, they’re sluts. Actually, sluts don’t even exist.
15 ways to bring out the naughty women from within
I hear guys complaining about their women not being adventurous enough or naughty enough. However, with terms like slut and whore floating around, you can see why women have a problem releasing their sexuality. What you need to do is learn how to help your woman discover her naughty side.
#1 Every woman has a naughty side. Every woman has that inner naughty side. For some, they’ve already discovered it, while others don’t they have it.
But, the point is, that it exists. There’s no difference between “naughty” and “good” women, there are just women. If she’s shy to explore herself or claims she doesn’t have a naughty side, go nice and easy with trying to bring it out.
#2 Don’t knock down being naughty. You’re trying to get your girl to bring out her naughty side. So, if you see a girl at the bar or out at the supermarket who looks more sexual, don’t turn to your girl and point this other women out in a degrading manner.
Not only is it pointless, but it’ll get her thinking negatively about sexuality. See how that works? Your shit attitude will come back and kick you in the ass, well, actually the dick… it’ll kick you in the dick. [Read: 14 ways to get your partner to open up about sex]
#3 Women are just as sexual as men. This whole time you were probably thinking you guys were the highest form of sexual beings, ha! Well, that is completely wrong. Actually, women are very sexual and the argument can be made that we’re even more sexual than men.
Think about it, you guys can have sex once, maybe twice in a row? We, women, can keep it going till dawn or until we can’t walk. Impressive, no?
#4 Find out her fantasies. You need to find out what her deepest fantasies are. Now, once you find them out, that doesn’t mean you organize a threesome the next day. The worst thing you can do is throw one of her fantasies in her face. They’re her deepest fantasies for a reason.
#5 Don’t pressure her. Listen, yelling at her at that she’s boring in bed or pressuring her to try anal sex isn’t going to bring out her naughtiness. It’ll not only make her feel like she isn’t good enough, but it’ll also reduce her trust in you.
The best thing to do is talk to her, outside of the bedroom, about the things you’d like to try out. See where she stands and what she feel uncomfortable about. That way, you guys can hash it out and when it comes time for sexy time, she’ll be ready for it.
#6 Make her feel desired. Women want to feel wanted, we want men to ache for us, that’s what turns us on. So, make her feel like you want to eat her up like you can’t get enough of her.
#7 Get a little rough. Romantic sex is beautiful and sweet, but it’s boring. I mean, it’s nice to throw it in there, every now and then, but can you imagine having that sex every day? Oh god. Get a little rough. Don’t start spanking and choking her aggressively on the first try.
#8 Ask her what she wants. Don’t just assume she likes anal sex. Actually, ask her what she’s into. If she hasn’t tried something, such as anal sex, ask her if she’d be interested in giving it a try.
If you don’t know what she wants, then how do you know what will unlock her naughtiness? Exactly, don’t be the guy who doesn’t ask for directions when lost. Just ask and get on the right road.
#9 Make sure she feels connected. So, we do like it rough, but we also want to feel connected. You may not like cuddling or hugging but get over it. Women want to feel emotionally and mentally connected to their partners. This makes the sex even better.
#10 Start the foreplay before the bedroom. You don’t have to wait until your feet enter the bedroom in order to get the sexual energy going. You should be working on that way ahead of time.
You guys always forget the importance of foreplay. It’s important, very important. It’s like warming your car up during winter. Send naughty texts, subtly grab her ass in public, whisper something risky in her ear at the checkout. Get those juices flowing way ahead of time. [Read: Foreplay done right – The art of really turning her on]
#11 Don’t judge her. If she’s into something that you’ve never done before or something that surprises you, don’t judge her. Be open minded because everyone has different levels of naughtiness.
Maybe she’s more naughty than you thought, which is great, so don’t try to repress it. You tried to open up her naughtiness, so now that she’s open, you can’t go back. You opened Pandora’s naughty box.
#12 Let her do something forbidden. Remember when your mom said you couldn’t eat a cookie from the cookie jar? Would you say ‘okay’ and walk away? Hell no, you would wait for her to leave and then you’d swipe one.
#13 We want raw sex. Women want raw, emotional, messy sex. We want to lick you, we want you to grab us, flip us over, we want your sweat all over our bodies. We want it all. So, don’t reserve yourself and keep it clean. If you want to bring out her naughtiness, just go full animal. Not only will it open her up, but it’ll probably be the best sex you’ve ever had.
#14 Be vulnerable. If she’s shy about her sexuality and you’re shy about being open, it’s not going to work. You need to be vulnerable. Tell her your deepest fantasies, tell her the things that really turn you on.
#15 Oral sex. Another great way to turn that naughty switch on is to give her orgasmic oral sex. So, brush up on your skills because if you do this right, you’ll unleash a beast of sexual energy. These feelings build up inside of her while you’re going down on her, and of course, she’ll have to release them somehow.