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Find yourself getting sexually attracted to a great girl? Use these ten steps on how to get a girl to have sex with you to arouse her and seduce her. By Jake Francis

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Getting to have sex with a girl you desire is a dream come true.

You may want to date her or you may find her extremely sexually attractive.

Firstly, the nicest way to get to have sex with a girl is to date her and take things forward with that.

You’ll fall in love with a great girl and you’ll have fun in every step of the way.

But whether you’re dating a girl or sharing a sexually exciting friendship, making a move to have sex is tricky business. [Read: How to have sex with a friend and make her your fuck buddy]

You can’t really talk about it too soon.

Neither can you make a move to have sex with her unless she approves your moves with reciprocation.

How to get a girl to have sex with you

One of the biggest issues with getting a girl to have sex with you for the first time is the trepidation associated with it.

One wrong move and it could tear a big split in the relationship.

[Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and seduce her in no time!]

Use these ten steps to get a girl to have sex with you and you really should have no trouble arousing her or having sex with her.

But if she does hesitate at any point, back away and apologize for rushing it. You may not have timed your moves to perfection. [Read: 6 ways to accidentally kiss a friend and get away with it!]

Get these ten moves right, and she’ll be more than happy to have sex with you!

#1 Let her see your great side. If you want to have sex with a girl, you definitely have to be good enough to get her attention. If she thinks you’re desirable and everything she wants in a great guy, half your work’s cut out for you already. [Read: 10 things women want in a perfect man]

#2 Let her know you’re interested in her. Talk to her, spend time with her, and let her catch you staring at her discreetly now and then. Make her wonder if you’re interested in her without revealing too much.

If you ask her out without making her like you first, she’ll lose the excitement of the mysterious relationship. Make her wonder what’s on your mind and you’ll make her fall in love with you without even asking her out. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

#3 Get out of the friend zone. Unless you’re dating her already, the friend zone is a scary place to be. Friends don’t have sex with each other and they avoid getting sexually attracted to each other. Be her friend, but don’t be just another friend who’s got no sexual interest in her. Make it clear that you find her attractive and sexy.

Tease her sexually, compliment her outfit with sexy remarks and talk dirty with her. Both of you may be friends, but let her feel the sexual tension when you’re around her. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and arouse her instead!]

#4 Spend more time with her. If you want to have sex with a girl, the only time you can work your magic is by getting some alone time with her. You need to flirt sexually and make her feel comfortable to be with you. But you can’t do that when there are other friends around.

Behave normally when there are other friends with her, but the second they walk away, say something like, “whew… now I get to spend some alone time with this sexy girl…” or something else that makes it clear that you find her attractive in a more-than-just-friends kind of way. [Read: 10 safe and flirty ways to build the sexual tension with a girl]

#5 Go out with her. You don’t have to fix a date to take her out. Grab lunch together at work or help her run an errand now and then. By doing that, you’re already taking the place of her boyfriend in her mind. [Read: How to attract a girl who has a boyfriend]

But always remember to keep the sexual excitement on a high. Or she’d just look at you as a friend.

#6 Touch her. And excite her. The touch is a very powerful way to send the right signals across without seeming desperate. Look for ways to touch her arm or clasp her hand at the opportune moment. The more you touch her delicately and sensually, the more sexually turned on she’d get. [Read: Tips to touch a girl when you’re out with her]

#7 Invite her to your place. Invite her to your pad, or get invited back to her place. You’ve built the sexual tension already. She knows you’re not just a friend, and she definitely knows you’re attracted to her already. By getting comfortable in each other’s places, it’s taking you one step closer to her bedroom and into her pants. After all, if you’re going to get a girl to have sex with you soon, you need to make her feel comfortable with you in each other’s private spaces.

#8 Give her a few sneak peeks. So she thinks you’re a nice guy who’s attracted to her. But that’s really not enough. You need to arouse her and force her to take little glances at your sexy side.

Look away from her and stretch casually when you have a hard on inside your jeans. Let her catch a sneak peek of your obliques and your rather low trousers when you’re changing your shirt at your place. Always look away when you’re flaunting your body to her. It gives her enough time to admire you sexually without the fear of getting caught. These moves will involuntarily make her get sexually attracted to you and desire you. [Read: A guy’s real life public flashing confession]

#9 Watch a movie together. Go out on a date or stay back at home and watch a movie. A movie involves a few hours of quiet time where both of you sit really close to each other. This is where you can touch her ever so slightly with your arm or your foot. Do it the right way and be patient, the chemistry can be electrifying. If you want to seduce a girl, absentmindedly graze your arm against hers with the slightest of touches while sitting next to her. It’ll turn her on before you know it! [Read: The art of flirting by touch]

#10 Arouse her the right way. If you want to know how to get a girl to have sex with you, you really need to remember that all the focus is on sexually exciting her and arousing her into making out with you. Never seem pushy, instead play it safe and slow instead of going too fast.

[Read: 8 sneaky ways to make a girl wet and horny just by sitting next to her!]

These ten tips on how to get a girl to have sex with you can help you do more than just kiss the girl you like or touch her breasts. There’s just one thing left to do now, read how to arouse a girl and make her kiss you to know the finer details of the next delicate move.

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  • jeff
    July 31, 2012 | Permalink |


    I asked this girl out two years ago. She turned me down saying that she couldn’t see us as being more than friends. She got into a relationship with someone else about a week after this, and they just broke up last week after a year of dating.

    I still like her, perhaps even more than I did before, and this may be a huge mistake on my part. How do I subtly let her know that I am still interested in her without coming on too strong like I did before?

    In 3 weeks from now, I will more than likely NEVER see her again…:( so I need to figure out how to take me seriously, AND FAST.

    Any help is greatly appreciated, fellas!

  • Jet
    August 25, 2012 | Permalink |

    How to get a guy to have sex with you in 4 easy steps:
    1. You: “wanna have sex?”
    Him: “are you for real?”
    2. You: “yes”
    Him: “is this a joke?”
    3. You: “no”
    Him: “is this one of those scams where i go back to your place and get robbed?”
    4. You: “no, we can go to your place”
    Him: “omg, let’s go”

    Thanks for this guide, i think it’s good, but i wish it was a lot easier. Trepidation is the perfect word for it.
    I also think that men are made to feel sleazy if they try to instigate a sexual relationship.
    Men are programmed in their dna, to have feelings which are socially frowned upon. I see women in the supermarket for example, that i wish i could walk up to and say “do you want to have sex with me?”.
    I am on testosterone replacement therapy because my body doesn’t produce testosterone naturally. And at times in the past, i have not taken it because i am sick of the frustration that comes with an unattended sex drive.
    30yr old virgin. :(

  • rev
    August 26, 2012 | Permalink |

    what if they consider you “like a brother”? theres this girl i like and we were in track together i helped her get over a bad break up and now she thinks of me as an older brother. if i let her know i like her im scared she’ll think thats the only reason i was nice to her and it isn’t.please help. 17 year old virgin

  • Suicide Jack
    October 4, 2012 | Permalink |

    I am 36 yo virgin, tried and tried to get laid, the answer is “NO,” so I’me about done with this putrid life.

  • ChaD
    November 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    WHen I was 16 Iwas so close of having sex with my girlfriend dams shes so hot.
    But I only fingered her yep thats true.

    My parents Felt something and talk about it.
    They told me to break up with her or else I would live with her my entire life already.
    Shes not rich after all.

    So I broke up with her.
    damn If only I didnt broke up with her.
    I wouldnt really be still a virgin today.

  • Adrian
    December 28, 2012 | Permalink |

    In 2011, there was this girl at university that I really fell in love with because she was not only really beautiful but also a very kind and caring person. I tried all sorts of things to try and get her attention, including the flirtatious touching and complementing her, etc. But, I’m not all that attractive, and it was not long she started going out with this older guy in my class who is so full of himself and a real playa – I don’t have proof but I’m pretty sure he even cheated on her with this other girl in my class that he’s being eyeing for years. The thing is, I imagine girls think he’s attractive and good looking and it just makes me wonder about how shallow girls really are. They supposedly have all this criteria that you as a guy has to sweat bullets about but in the end, it seems if a another guy whose a playa and a party animal just looks in their direction, all that crap goes out the window and they’re all over him. I’m really cut up about this girl because I didn’t just like her, I actually loved her and at the end of 2011 we were all done with our course and I’ve never seen her again. I did have her number and it took me a whole year to finally scrape enough courage together to tell her how I felt about her. She hardly answered me, just saying she didn’t know that’s how I felt and now I haven’t heard from her since – she probably hates me now for doing that, because it’s ruined the friendship. I just don’t see the point because if you’re like me you have to do all these things (as listed on this huge website) to get a girl and then some other guy can just walk in and walk out with her hanging on to his belt buckle.

  • Guy
    January 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    Friendship is a priviledge, first have sex with her, THEN consider friendship. Spare yourself lots of wasted time. This will eliminate 364/365 women, but the 1/365 will be a true friend, and not just someone who uses you for social proof, coffee, or entertainment.

  • Austin Aries
    January 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    Wow! “Whew finally some alone time with this sexy girl” is a great line to avoid the friend zone.

    I’d love to see a list of example lines to show you’re interested in a friend featured on this site. My main issue is (a lack of confidence) in knowing what to say.

  • Joe
    February 1, 2013 | Permalink |

    Those steps make it sound like it will take weeks. You can do it in 8 steps or less and usually in one to two days (some shy girls like to think about it overnight before doing it). I decide in the first 15 minutes of meeting a girl whether she is going to sleep with me. Whether it is within the hour or years later, I have a 95%+ accuracy rate (I have been surprised a few times, both ways). If I don’t get the feeling she will, I say goodbye and move on to the next one. If she is into you, you’ll know it immediately, so go for it. If she is not into you, she never will be so don’t waste your time. Don’t give any girl more than an hour to make her desires known on where things are going, it just costs time and money and you’ll get nothing out of it. My rule: if we are not having sex by the 2nd date, I dump her. If you look hard, you can find girls who you know will sleep with you before you even say hello. It is the eyes.

    The real steps are like this: 1. Smile. If she smiles back -> 2. Say Hello. If she responds -> 3. Say some chit chat (it takes practice to figure out what kinds of words work on what kind of girl), if she is looking into your eyes -> 4. Ask her to join you, if she does -> 5. Buy her a drink, a snack, or a meal, if she is engaged in the conversation -> 6. Ask her to join you in your room, if she does (and she will if she can) -> 7. Get her aroused (L-B/N-C). -> 8. She won’t stop unless it is that time of the month, but you can make do. This typically takes 4 to 12 hours all the way through, but for anything that goes past a day, you can do more than one in parallel. Don’t tell her your real name unless you think you might want to see her again and never your home or work number. Sometimes you can skip 4 and 5. If you make it 6, you’ve made it.

    Southeast Asian girls are the easiest to bed. It doesn’t matter whether they are rich, poor, younger, older, single, married, beautiful, homely, slut or virgin. If you are white, talk to her nicely, and don’t smell bad, chances are she will sleep with you if you can get her alone long enough (I have been able to get a girl I just met into bed with her sister in the room and awake, but that is unusual). You don’t even have to understand each other’s language if you have a dictionary. My record from smile to bed is about 20 minutes.

  • This is how it goes…
    February 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    Learn to ask woman out like a man.
    (If you are worry about your little ego might get hurt by rejection, you shouldn’t even start. So called subtle ways are a wussy ways.)

    Learn to respect woman.
    (Every woman who eye contact you or smile at you doesn’t mean they want to have sex with you. You do! It means she have confidence in herself and have good personality.)

    Learn to know what you want.
    (If it’s sex that you want stick with it. So called “playa” wants to challenge themselves with great woman only realized that they don’t have what it takes to get that great woman’s attention. Frustrated by themselves and give up. Great woman are not for your fling. Better the woman she is more she will look at your characters. She will not match up to someone less than.)

    Please don’t be that guy. Racist!
    (Fun women and great women are in every race. Just because that great woman you didn’t get to have sex with was Asian doesn’t mean you have to be the racist. And for your information white guys are not any better than any other race guys.)

  • babu
    March 2, 2013 | Permalink |

    my marriage is 5 years over, still not having any baby. Kindly suggest what is the problem. and all doctor check up is ok noa ny problem in my wife. first year only one baby is born for 4 days afterthat expire in hospital , afterthat 4 years no any child. still not found what is the problem.everytime take medicine for doctors suggest.


  • Jojo
    March 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    Damn ~All you Guys are deeply inlove… and yet Still a Virgin ?
    I wish i was that lucky to be loved.
    I’am attractive, women even find me pretty.
    The problem is that Iam divocred the man i love is also divocred has a son.
    I have tried sooo hard to get him like/love me.
    ButI see that, I’am not good enough for him….!! :( :(

  • Devok
    March 26, 2013 | Permalink |

    Well, I’m my opinion, girls that are virgin are harder to get into bed and have sex with you, the ones that are easy are the ones that had sex before, once they have done it, they always do it again.

  • Amy
    April 5, 2013 | Permalink |

    @Joe: You should have said “Some or many Southest Asian girls”. Sorry I am just prone to jumping in when people tend to stereotype. Apologies if it wasn’t the case. I am from Southest Asia, my guy was like you when we met, he tried to bed me after our first date to which of course I rejected. And you know what? Even though he was only seeking for sexual flings, he changed his mind because he was into me and wanted to take me seriously for a committed relationship and it took him A YEAR to have me agree to have sex with him. And you would be surprised more, after I agreed to have sex with him, he still waited for a few more months because he respected me and wanted me to feel comfortable.

  • marvinzz
    April 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    Don’t give up guys. I am very sexually frustrated too but had a very interesting experience in tolerating the frustration – They say if a girl makes eye contact and twists her hair, that means she’s interested. Well I am in deep shit here, there were 6 of them doing that and dipping soda straws into ice cream drinks and sucking on them. How do I pick the first one out of the bunch?

  • Adrian
    April 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hey guys, I noticed something similar to what marvinzz is saying. I’m not a particularly attractive guy, but I always thought girls really don’t dig me – I can never get past the “friend zone” and I just have that feeling that if I ever asked one of the girls I know out on a date, they won’t take it well. But, what does it mean when random, really hot girls, whom I’ve never met before, just smile at you in passing – they don’t know me and I don’t know them, but they seem so keen! Some even insist on saying hello. Does this mean anything? What must I do from that moment on? I really don’t want to make a fool of myself again, because I’ve made some really bad calls in the past where I thought I could ask a few girls out and they were really shocked or even asked me what the hell I was thinking. These girls that smile at me are really some of the hottest girls I’ve ever seen though. I’m so confused…

  • Zack
    April 30, 2013 | Permalink |

    Ok, So I tried having a romantic relationship with this girl then she said she doesn’t feel the same way even though she kissed me once then the next day…she goes out with my brother…I feel like killing myself…how do I fix this?

  • Brandon
    September 27, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have a friend that I dont get to see a lot how would I be able to flirt & seduce her in to a relationship

  • Beth
    November 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    Dear men,

    Just because a woman is being nice to you, it does not necessarily mean she likes you. Girls do this weird thing where they are actually polite to people they have just met, even when they’re not interested sexually. I feel like this needs to be said. It makes us feel really awkward when we have to explain that our politeness was misinterpreted as “signals”.

  • drake
    November 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    i had a girl friend and we broke up.I was his first boyfriend and she was mine first girlfriend i loved her a lot.She thinks i was cheating on her but now i want her back to my life what i should do no please help me thank you !

  • corey
    January 7, 2014 | Permalink |

    Dear guys, the only time you will know if a girl wants to have sex with you is when you and her are talking, and get deep into conversations, and she throws the first flirt. Girl who want it try to get it. Some are better at hiding it, but some arent. “signals” are obvious. If you misread them, then you have horrible judgement. And if you know you and a friend/girlfriend want to have sex, just grow big hairy balls and make the first move. If she stops you, you know its a no go. Just dont be pea-brained douchebags and try to fuck a girl and then never talk to her ever again or treat her ike shit. Thank you. Have a nice day guys.

  • razor
    February 13, 2014 | Permalink |

    I got into a relationship wit dis gal….n den v broke up for my current girlfriend…..i still lyk her….n may b have very strong feelings fo her even now, while i m dating a previous gf of mine…ii still find her very attractive,….n c likes me too….ive kissed her n played with her tits too….bt as of now v r not in any sort of contact though v c each other almost everyday…..i just want her back..please could you suggest me anything…..she is really pissed at me……coz i called her nasty words wen i found her tokin to some1 else…please suggest something soon

  • Calcitonin
    September 2, 2014 | Permalink |

    The best way to get a girl to bang you Is to keep the conversation going. I know it’s tough but listen to her stories and be interested. Keep the slut away from her friends on your date because they will never help you. Be excellent and act like having sex is the last thing you’re trying to do till you get that kiss. Now it’s time to take charge, girls get horny too just take it slow. It takes them a little longer to be ready and you can blow it by grabbing the vag too early.

  • Raymond
    December 23, 2014 | Permalink |

    I want to fuck a rich girl. I see many of them in pub, spoke with them. I’m not rich. I’m just a bouncer. I’m Male, 29 Years. How is it possible. Can anyone help in suggestions ???

  • drake smith
    December 26, 2014 | Permalink |

    raymond use your advantages as a bouncer

  • John Cobalt
    January 18, 2015 | Permalink |

    If i am making out with her and i am fingering her and she is touching me should i ask her if she want’s to fuck or should i go ahead and put it in?

  • Rex
    January 20, 2015 | Permalink |

    If your fingerings a girl she’s ready to fuck. U still need to work your way to it but she’s halfway there. She needs to feel comfortable with u. Use the foreplay to get her extremely aroused find out what makes her moan tease her and take her almost to her peak then lay her back and climb on top and dive in if she doesn’t jump on top of you first

  • Roxy
    February 19, 2015 | Permalink |

    I wonder if I’m the only girl posting here. My take on this after I read all the replies is this: young girls won’t date a guy if they don’t admire them and find them attractive. Being nice or smart is not enough when you are young. If you as a guy are very tired of being let down and pushed aside then you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Is it your skin? Is it your breath? Are your teeth crooked? Is is your body, as in, are you fat? Does your appearance look groomed or do you have greasy hair? Women look at all of this and if you really don’t take time to go to the gym and to take a good bath, sometimes minutiae things disenamor people.

  • lucky
    February 21, 2015 | Permalink |

    Men,,I m of 17 virgin one of the most frozen guys sticking in love matters,,once I got in love with a rich girl in 12the class & dumped hard I dont know that was deception or what else,,what the holy shit was that she gave all the pleasure by eyes & words she looked interested too in me but always rejected my proposals,,the shy girl I m talking about,,,at last we get parted after 12,,I was totally in despair & tried to forget her & finally I got a most glittering girl ever,,so beautiful & what shy u say guys she is solemn dupe I stuck again,, I met with her in a marriage of my maternal uncle,,she is not rich,,not literate,,not fashionable but i like that lout most even in village “lehnga chunni” dress,,she was infatuated towards me too much & I was too towards her,,she always starred at me,,but tried to ignore bcz I already was in pain,,but she was getting on my nerves on day by day,,& how far could I control myself I again tried to do the mistake did in 12 I threw a proposal to her & she wept so bitterly at least 3 hours continuously(I think she wept bcz I was literate but she wasn’t & without saying anything she also got apart & making me weep daily,,,guys fucking the girls may be the better thing than love plz don’t love plz don’t love it hurt deeply it gives pain I want the girl always at my front I don’t care what do my parents say about my marriage(finding a white & literate girl for me) I love her & want her back at any lost,,,fuck the sluts but not talk such shit to that girl who love u the most & will feel pain after knowing your bad intention…….(if one can suggest me to get me some zest & confidence therefore I might tell my parents about the girl,,I love her,,no bad intension I adopted about,,,help me friends)
    Thnx guys

  • rahul
    February 21, 2015 | Permalink |

    Ok, So I tried having a romantic relationship with this girl then she said she doesn’t feel the same way even though she kissed me once then the next day…she goes out with my brother…I feel like killing myself…how do I fix this?

  • dragonbomberguy
    February 24, 2015 | Permalink |

    So um if Im A shy and fat teen will they still date me BTW I’m a boy

  • unkown??
    February 28, 2015 | Permalink |

    im just 18…..i have no look at all! i mean im not ugly and im not handsome,im just normal
    i have an eyeglass (P.S: not nerd!) and a girl just liked me by not the outside! by the mood i have, the kindness i give outeveryday even if im picked off by bullies in school i still smile and looks like nothing happened,then she came to me and bang! S.E.X

    thx guys for this!!


  • Mad Dog
    March 4, 2015 | Permalink |

    Im 16 and had sex like 5 times this past December witch means you guys dont know how to work with girls

  • genriv
    March 17, 2015 | Permalink |

    well Im not a nerd its just weird I never hook up maybe I of the kind that never looks up a girl skirt even if shes bendover
    for fear of being disrespecting I always feel its safe to wait for a lady to initiate the conversation its so sad they never do please some one help me out pump me up yo be the ladies man complementing my looks please do sil vous plait

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