Sexy Cuddling: How to Cuddle with a Girl So it Leads to Sex

Girls like cuddling. And guys like sexy cuddling! Want to know how to cuddle with a girl and make her feel loved, while you get naughty? Use this guide.

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If you’ve been seeing a girl for a while now and are ready to take things to the sexy cuddling level, you’ll need to know how to cuddle with a girl.

Of course, cuddling feels good. But your little man down there can’t help but want some action every time you cuddle with your girlfriend!

We get it, but there are ways to make sure she’s happy with your cuddling, and you are too! Wanna know how to cuddle with a girl so it leads to sex every time?

Sexy cuddling and loving cuddling – And the right balance

As a guy, chances are, you have a one track mind when you cuddle and as much as you may enjoy cuddling, your mind can’t help but look for some sexy cuddling after getting cozy. So let’s get straight to it!

Girls LOVE to cuddle. Most girls, anyways. I am one of those girls who just LOVES to cuddle – with anyone, really. It brings me comfort and happiness, and it’s just downright warm and snuggly.

Not only do we enjoy cuddling, but if you get us to cuddle with you, it means you’re one step closer to closing the deal with us and having sex. If you increase your chances of us cuddling with you, then you’re increasing your chances of getting laid.

[Read: The surprising benefits of cuddling and how it can make your life better]

Why do girls like cuddling so much?

Most girls are like me. In fact, my old roommate – who’s a girl – and I would just hang out and cuddle and watch movies simply because we were both single but wanted to cuddle SO bad. There’s something about human contact that makes us extremely happy to be in the arms of someone else.

It also has a lot to do with feeling safe and secure. That’s why even though I enjoy cuddling with my female roommate, I enjoy being in the arms of a man much more. When a woman feels safe and like she can trust the person she’s wrapped up in, it’s more likely that she’ll also feel safe about having sex with that person. [Read: The best cuddling positions for being a cuddling lover]

Sexy cuddling: How to cuddle with a girl and have it lead to more

Girls are not the type of creatures that you can just stick your boner out to and expect that they’re going to want to sit on it. As harsh as that sounds, it’s the truth. We need more than that. We need contact, we need affection, and most importantly, we need to get warmed up to you first.

And cuddling is the perfect way to do that. This guide on how to cuddle with a girl and have it lead to more is just what you need if you want to take the next step with a special girl and go from sexy cuddling to a really sexy night! 

[Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you by arousing her very subtly]

1. Make sure she’s comfortable around you first

You can’t just expect that some random girl is going to want to come over and cuddle before having sex. You have to get to know this girl first and make sure your feelings are mutual beforehand.

Ensure that she’s comfortable with being alone with you. I would advise that you take her on a couple of dates before moving things along. 

2. Get her to come over alone

Girls like to travel in packs in order to avoid being alone with someone they might not be totally comfortable with. That being said, invite her over for a fun game and movie night, and see if she’ll come alone. Make sure she knows it’s a totally casual evening so she doesn’t have too many reservations about it.

If she comes alone, chances are, she’s comfortable with you. And if you’ve already been flirting with her and she’s flirting back, bigger chances are, she’d be okay with a bit of sexy cuddling and foreplay too! [Read: 20 strong signs of sexual tension to know if you both make each other horny]

3. Sit really close to her

Obviously, if you want to know how to cuddle with a girl, you have to start the evening by sitting right next to her. In order to do this, you have to make sure she sits down first so you can position yourself next to her.

This can be done by making a drink first, putting the movie in, grabbing the games, or anything else that ensures that she has to sit on the couch first. It’s a lot harder to scoot close to her when she’s on the opposite side of the couch. [Read: How to get a girl horny and make her wet just by casually sitting next to her]

4. Throw on a suspenseful or even scary movie

This can seem like it’s out of context, but it can actually mean the difference between close cuddling and you spending a couple hours with your arm draped over her shoulder.

If you pick a scary and suspenseful movie, she’ll look to you for security when she’s too scared. So it will make it a lot easier for you to grab her and cuddle her close when she’s terrified.

5. Turn the thermostat down

This is a trick an old boyfriend used on me once, and he definitely knew how to cuddle with a girl. After all this time, I still can’t get over just how clever it is. When a girl is cold, she’ll be more likely to cuddle with you in order to warm up. So turn the thermostat down and make sure it’s pretty chilly in there!

6. Give her a cold beverage to drink

Just like turning the thermostat down will make her colder, so will giving her something cold to drink. If you have both of these going for you, she’ll be freezing and WANT you to cuddle up to her in order to warm up. [Read: How to flirt with touch without making it obvious]

7. Pick the right time to put your arm around her

If you’ve accomplished the above two tips, and you know the room is cold, this opportunity should come when she mentions how cold she is. When she mentions it’s cold, slide in closer to her and give her a second to react before saying anything. If she’s comfortable with cuddling you, she’d slide in closer too.

Another great moment to put your arm around her is when there’s a frightening part in the movie that made her jump.

8. Pull her into you

Now that you have your arm around her, settle into the couch and pull her closer to you so she’s resting against you. This will not only be more comfortable for the both of you, but you’re initiating a lot of physical contact that will ultimately lead to more sexy cuddling and help in your quest to get laid. [Read: How to touch a girl’s breasts for the first time and feel her up the right way]

9. At this point, gauge her reaction

Did she snuggle into you easily or did she stiffen and stay seated upright? Her comfort is the one thing that will make her want to move to the next step. And if she’s feeling a little stiff, then chances are, she’s not comfortable with the situation, and she’ll be less likely to give it up to you.

If she seems a little nervous, relax and give her some space to back away. Once she gets comfortable, she’ll cuddle into you. And then you can proceed with making the next move of sexy cuddling.

10. Compliment her

Don’t just tell her that she looks beautiful. While this is always something girls love to hear, it doesn’t make much sense after pulling her into you.

Say something along the lines of how great she smells. Or how soft her arm feels. This will put the idea in her head that you’re really into her, and it’ll instill more trust in her for you. [Read: 28 turn ons for girls that’ll make them melt in your arms]

11. Lean to the side and transition into laying down

Of all the steps involved in how to cuddle with a girl, this one is pretty crucial if you want to get laid. Once she has leaned into you and is practically putting all her weight against you, lean into a position that is more like laying down.

If you’re on the couch, you could just lean on the arm of your couch. Or if you’re in bed or on the carpet, just lean back to the point where you’re almost lying down, with your back or head propped up against a pillow. If you do this casually, and smoothly, the move should leave her mostly on top of you while you’re under her. If you get it right so far, you’re almost guaranteed to be indulging in a bit of sexy cuddling in a few more minutes!

12. Get both of your hands on her and work some magic

By now, you should be able to have both of your hands brush against her body in different areas. Giving her light massages and running your hands down her arms is a great way to get her to relax and feel good. If she likes your touch on her skin, she’ll start thinking about what’s to come. [Read: How to make out with a girl for the first time and make her love it]

13. Kiss her

If everything has worked well thus far, you’re now ready to plant one on her. If you’ve been on a couple of dates with her prior to this and have already kissed her, this part will be easy.

But if you haven’t kissed her yet, it could be a bit harder. If you look at her to talk to her and she holds your gaze for a while – and even glances down at your lips – she wants you to kiss her. So make your move! [Read: When to kiss a girl – 15 subtle signs to predict the magic moment]

14. Move, so you’re laying on top of her

Now that you know how to cuddle with a girl up to this point, the next step in sexy cuddling is to lay on top of her. And if you were in the clear to kiss her, then keep doing that for a while until you two are completely making out. This should give you the opportunity to flip on top of her and take control with how things go for the night.

15. Sexy cuddling and way more!

If you’re making out on top of her, then chances are, she’s really into it – and you. Now you can make different moves that suggest your intentions. And if she doesn’t stop you, you’ll be getting laid in no time. [Read: A clueless guy’s guide to cuddling after sex]

[Read: How to seduce a woman and make her really eager to get into bed with you]

If you’re looking for some sexy cuddling, and want to know how to cuddle with a girl, just use these steps. It can lead to sex awfully fast if it’s with the right person. But don’t get discouraged along the way. If you continue with these tips multiple times, you will get you laid in no time!

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer, and the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degr...
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