If you’ve been seeing a girl for a while now and are ready to take things to the next level, you’ll need to know how to cuddle with a girl.
Girls LOVE to cuddle. Most girls, anyways. I am one of those girls who just LOVES to cuddle – with anyone, really. It brings me comfort and happiness, and it’s just downright warm and snuggly.
Not only do we enjoy cuddling, but if you get us to cuddle with you, it means you’re one step closer to closing the deal with us. If you increase your chances of us cuddling with you, then you’re increasing your chances of getting laid.
Why do girls like cuddling so much?
Most girls are like me. In fact, my old roommate – who’s a girl – and I would just hang out and cuddle and watch movies simply because we were both single but wanted to cuddle SO bad. There’s something about human contact that makes us extremely happy to be in the arms of someone else.
It also has a lot to do with feeling safe and secure. What’s why even though I enjoy cuddling with my female roommate, I enjoy being in the arms of a man much more. When a woman feels safe and like she can trust the person she’s wrapped up in, it’s more likely that she’ll also feel safe about hopping into bed with you. [Read: The best cuddling positions for being a cuddling lover]
How to cuddle with a girl and have it lead to more
Girls are not the type of creatures that you can just stick your boner out to and expect that they’re going to want to sit on it. As harsh as that sounds, it’s the truth. We need more than that. We need contact and to get warmed up to you first.
And cuddling is the perfect way to do that. This guide on how to cuddle with a girl and have it lead to more is just what you need if you want to take the next step with a special girl and have a sexy night.
#1 Make sure she’s comfortable around you first. You can’t just expect that some random girl is going to want to come over and cuddle before having sex. You have to get to know this girl first and make sure your feelings are mutual beforehand. Ensure that she’s comfortable with being alone with you. I would advise that you take her on a couple of dates before moving things along. [Read: A clueless guy’s guide to cuddling after sex]
#2 Get her to come over alone. Girls like to travel in packs in order to avoid being alone with someone they might not be totally comfortable with. That being said, invite her over for a fun game and movie night, and see if she’ll come alone. Make sure she knows it’s a totally casual evening so she doesn’t have too many reservations about it.
#3 Sit really close to her. Obviously, if you want to know how to cuddle with a girl, you have to start the evening by sitting right next to her. In order to do this, you have to make sure she sits down first so you can position yourself next to her.
This can be done by making a drink first, putting the movie in, grabbing the games, or anything else that ensures that she has to sit on the couch first. It’s a lot harder to scoot close to her when she’s on the opposite side of the couch. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
#4 Throw on a suspenseful or even scary movie. This can seem like it’s out of context, but it can actually mean the difference between close cuddling and you spending a couple hours with your arm draped over her shoulder.
If you pick a scary and suspenseful movie, she’ll look to you for security when she’s too scared. So it will make it a lot easier for you to grab her and cuddle her close when she’s terrified.
#5 Turn the thermostat down. This is a trick an old boyfriend used on me once, and he definitely knew how to cuddle with a girl. After all this time, I still can’t get over just how clever it is. When a girl is cold, she’ll be more likely to cuddle with you in order to warm up. So turn the thermostat down and make sure it’s pretty chilly in there!
#6 Give her a cold beverage to drink. Just like turning the thermostat down will make her colder, so will giving her something cold to drink. If you have both of these going for you, she’ll be freezing and WANT you to cuddle up to her in order to warm up. [Read: How to flirt with touch without making it obvious]
#7 Pick the right time to put your arm around her. If you’ve accomplished the above two tips, this opportunity should come when she mentions how cold she is. Another great moment to put your arm around her is when there’s a frightening part in the movie that made her jump.
#8 Pull her into you. Now that you have your arm around her, settle into the couch and pull her closer to you so she’s resting against you. This will not only be more comfortable for the both of you, but you’re initiating a lot of physical contact that will ultimately help in your quest to get laid. [Read: How to touch a woman’s breasts on a date]
#9 At this point, gauge her reaction. Did she snuggle into you easily or did she stiffen and stay seated upright? Her comfort is the one thing that will make her want to move to the next step. And if she’s feeling a little stiff, then chances are she’s not comfortable with the situation, and she’ll be less likely to give it up to you.
If she seems a little nervous, relax and give her some space to back away. Once she gets comfortable, she’ll cuddle into you. And then you can proceed with making the next move.
#10 Compliment her. Don’t just tell her that she looks beautiful. While this is always something girls love to hear, it doesn’t make much sense after pulling her into you. Say something along the lines of how great she smells. This will put the idea in her head that you’re really into her, and it’ll instill more trust in her for you. [Read: 28 turn ons for girls that’ll make them melt in your arms]
#11 Lean to the side and transition into laying down. Of all the steps involved in how to cuddle with a girl, this one is pretty crucial if you want to get laid. Once she has leaned into you and is practically putting all her weight against you, lean into a position that is more like laying down. This should leave her mostly on top of you while you’re under her. [Read: Get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]
#12 Get both of your hands on her and work some magic. By now you should be able to have both of your hands brush against her body in different areas. Giving her light massages and running your hands down her arms is a great way to get her to relax and feel good. If she likes your touch on her skin, she’ll start thinking about what’s to come.
#13 Kiss her. If everything has worked well thus far, you’re now ready to plant one on her. If you’ve been on a couple of dates with her prior to this and have already kissed her, this part will be easy.
But if you haven’t kissed her yet, it could be a bit harder. If you look at her to talk to her and she holds your gaze for a while – and even glances down at your lips – she wants you to kiss her. So make your move! [Read: How to build the sexual tension and make out with a girl]
#14 Move so you’re laying on top of her. Now that you know how to cuddle with a girl up to this point, the next step is to lay on top of her. And if you were in the clear to kiss her, then keep doing that for a while until you two are completely making out. This should give you the opportunity to flip on top of her and take control with how things go for the night.
#15 Let the night take you to where it shall. If you’re making out on top of her, then chances are, she’s really into it – and you. Now you can make different moves that suggest your intentions. And if she doesn’t stop you, you’ll be getting laid in no time.
If you know how to cuddle with a girl, it can lead to sex awfully fast if it’s with the right person. But don’t get discouraged along the way. If you continue with these tips multiple times, you will get you laid in no time!
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Bella is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog, p...