How to Get a Girl to Kiss You by Arousing Her

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First kisses are scary business. But if you know these 10 steps on how to get a girl to kiss you by arousing her, there’s no way you can go wrong!

A first kiss is never easy.

It’s confusing and tricky, and one of those times that can go either ways.

She could kiss you back.

Or she could move her head away instantly, which is every guy’s biggest nightmare.

If you want to skip the scary part and get right to getting her to kiss you back in no time, here’s all you need.

If you want to know how to kiss a girl on a first date, read how to make out with a girl on a date.

How to get a girl to kiss you

Girls almost never initiate the first kiss. So even if you want to get a girl to kiss you, you’ll still have to work your magic and make a few moves first.

If you’re dating a girl, it’s always easier to take the plunge.

But if you want to kiss a girl on the first date, or kiss a girl you’re attracted to but haven’t yet asked out, you’ll have to take it slow and read the little signs she gives away before puckering up for a first kiss.

Arousing a girl and getting her to kiss you

Building the sexual chemistry is the easiest way to warm her up.

Use these ten steps when you’re with her and she’ll be wrapped in your arms within an hour’s time!

The best part about using these steps is that you can always back off the second she doesn’t respond to any of your moves. [Read: How to accidentally kiss a girl]

It’s safe, and you’ll never ever find yourself in an awkward situation.

#1 Get some alone time

If you want a girl to kiss you back, you need to build the moment. Take her to your place or see if you can get some quiet time in her place when it’s just the both of you. There should be no distractions, be it your cell phone or a stranger walking in when both of you are trying to get cozy. A dimly lit room would definitely work in your favor.

#2 Don’t ask her to kiss you

While this may seem like the easiest and bold thing to do, it almost always never works. Girls need to feel the sexual tension and arousal before making out with a guy. Unless you already know she wants to kiss you, don’t ask her to.

#3 Sit close and flirt sexually

For starters, sit close to her. And eventually, find an excuse to sit really close, either to read a book together or to show her something on your phone. Be discreet and never let her know what your intentions are, just yet.

Don’t get sexual straight away. Talk about how nice a person she is, about the time you first saw her, or about a few memorable events that both of you share. Once you’re warmed up, get personal with your talk. If you’re not dating her, talk about her relationships or the last time she made out with a guy. If you’re dating her, just talk about anything, it really doesn’t matter. [Read: Tips to flirt with a girl like a friend]

#4 Touch her now and then

Delicately touch her fingers or just play with her nails. She’s not going to mind it. Compliment her skin or her perfume. This is where you build the sexual tension by touching her softly. [Read: How to touch a girl and turn her on]

#5 Don’t laugh or try to be funny

You may be a funny guy, but this is not the time to show off your funny bone. It kills the mood. Lower your voice and speak softly. Watch out for her expressions and if she’s warming up to you, you’d see that she’ll reciprocate and start talking softly too.

#6 Get her in the mood

If she’s laughing, fooling around or excitedly talking about something in a high pitch, she’s definitely not warming up to you. Hold her hands and play with her fingers. Clasp her fingers with yours, and just stroke her palm or her forearm. Even if she’s confused about what you’re up to, she’ll start to calm down and get right into the mood.

#7 Place a small kiss on her cheek

This is the first tricky step, but it’s the one that can pave the path for getting her to kiss you back. Once you feel like she’s warmed up to you, talk about your relationship with her. Have a conversation about both of you and tell her you’re really happy to have known her. And just as you say that, turn towards her and softly place a quick kiss on her cheek and smile. She’ll involuntarily smile back. Whew! You’re almost there now. [Read: Tips to compliment a girl the right way]

If you’re too scared to kiss her cheek, you can clasp her hand and kiss the back of her palm. It does the same trick, only a lot safer.

#8 Watch her reactions

How does she react to your kiss? Is she blushing or does she look shocked? You just kissed her cheek, so she can’t really hate you for that.

If she blushes, she likes it! If she looks confused, don’t worry, you just jumped in too fast.ย Go back to stroking her fingers or play with her hair. And while you’re keeping your hands busy, keep talking about something that’s flirty or even sensual.

#9 Kiss her cheek again

If she was excited by your kiss, it’s time to take the plunge again. This time around, kiss her on her cheeks but let your lips almost touch her lips. Linger for a few seconds with the kiss.

#10 Watch her reaction again

Now you’ve taken it one step further. Does she like it? Are her eyes closed in pleasure or is she wide eyed and staring at you like you violated her?

If she looks confused, kiss her cheek again. If she looks offended, back away and pretend like it was just a friendly kiss. You got this far, but maybe you’ll have better luck the next time around. [Read: A first kiss story gone wrong]

If she blushes or comes closer to you, kiss her on her lips. You know she likes it and she definitely wants it.

Don’t break the sexual tension by moving away after the first kiss. Stay close to her lips. If she likes you and wants to kiss you back, she’s definitely going to make a move and kiss you back.

And there we have it, ten easy steps on how to get a girl to kiss you back even if you’re not dating her. Want to take it to the next level? Read how to touch a girl’s breasts after kissing her.

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35 thoughts on “How to Get a Girl to Kiss You by Arousing Her”

  1. Dater Boy says:

    An easy way to kiss a girl or make out with her is to get her wasted. Take her to your place, make a few strong cocktails, and play a shooters game. She’ll be drunk and totally tipsy in no time. You can then kiss her and do whetevr you like!

  2. Derek says:

    Dater Boy, are you out of your mind? Seiously, WTF?! It’s guys like you that give other guys a bad name! Asshole!

  3. True says:

    Nice clear explanation. I’ve always had a hard time timing my first kiss with a girl. Now that I look back at it, there have been several instances when I could have kissed a girl on a first date. It sucks because I did date a lot of sexy girls before I settled into a long term relationship. Now my hands are tied.

  4. Drunkard says:

    @Dater Boy, sweet! Why don’t you get the girl drunk and strip her off too? You could make a video and post it online, you fuc*ing pervert!

    Now you’re just making me jealous!

  5. Sebastian Loevaas says:

    Seems good, until the kissing cheek thingy. I would skip that part and just hold the tension, untill you know she thinks its okay (Both of you will probably have some kind of awkward feeling of wanting something more than just to talk) and close in to her face slowly. If she backs away then let it go, if she does’nt then go on and take what you desire! ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Caitin says:

    This is good, but too much cheek kissing…and please don’t kiss my hand either, this isn’t 1920.

  7. Cody says:

    im going to try this on a girl i really love

  8. Cody says:

    lover boy u r a perv…what u gonna rape her 4 fun u perv

  9. Trevor Bane says:

    Dater Boy, WTFing hell?! If I tried that on a girl, as soon as she got sober again she`d whoop my ass!!! Hell is wrong with you…

  10. Pods says:

    calling Dater Boy a perv isent going to get u any ass. if u want to get with girls u need to stop being such prudes, get off ur ass, go to a hot bar or club, have a few drinks, buys some girls some drinks, leave with one, and enjoy a wonderfully regrettable drunken hook-up…

  11. Jon says:

    Dater boy? They’re right. Not that you’re a perv, but it’s wrong to get someone drunk for your own pleasures.

  12. Meghan says:

    I think Cody and Trevor are the only sweet an sane guys in the comments but really wtf getting a girl drunk is nucking childish!

  13. Purple Helmet Soldier says:

    Great advice Dater Boy! Personally I think with the rate the economy is going, alcohol is a bit too expensive though. Have you considered using a household utensil or tool? Perhaps a couple of forks to pin her down or just a bog standard hammer to club her in the head until she’s unconscious, 2 or 3 should be the maximum you need. Then she’s down for everything! Anal, fisting.. you name it! If she starts to regain consciousness just hit her again, not to hard though, otherwise she will die and you’ll only have 15 minutes of warmth before she goes cold. If it happens, just reheat her and bang her with a drill!

  14. James says:

    so i like this girl with a boyfriend…i am about 90% sure that she likes me but i dont know for sure…we flirt alot but that is kind of our nature…i want to try this just to see if we feel the same way…what should i do???

  15. Alex says:

    This is the 21st century, Obadiah – skip the cheek/hand-kissing…
    Everything else is fine.

    Position your face close to hers and alternate looking into her eyes, then down at her lips. Back and forth a few times then go for it.

  16. iga peterz says:

    Love the tricks

  17. Truth says:

    Listen kids, this isn’t rocket science, nor is it computer science…If both of you have sexual attraction, and if she allows you to sit close to her, then you have a chance..Don’t be a barbarian, don’t force yourself onto her or rush her. Allow her to be comfortable with you and before you know it…shit is going down..

  18. JJ says:

    I like the whole cheek/hand kissing. I would be putty in any guy’s hands by then.

  19. Charles mushili says:

    Man the tips are cool,but the hand thing is not just going to work men.

  20. eddis says:

    u re d best.

  21. Cameron says:

    Good Advice but no hand kissing I’m going somewhere with my girlfriend soon and I’m planing to kiss her and I’m not going to get her drunk because as soon as she’s sober she would kill me

  22. Connor Turner says:

    This is really good advice. I love this girl and I want her to know that. But the thing is that my friend does and she loves him. So im going to try this and I hope it works

  23. Emilia says:

    @daterboy i know a lot of girls who when they came sane would .a) will call the cops because that is illegal and b) will try to kill you.

  24. Gifton says:

    Dater boy is really sick…

  25. Richie Casanova says:

    ok, hum too much cheek. kissing, go first normal accidented kiss, start dancing do something else, drunk wasted second option. if she tipsy like other guys said. Just do it, cause mind end unlucky and alone! fuck those bi@ches

  26. xXfirebug1402Xx says:

    Dater boy that is illegal and I hope you go to jail

  27. xXfirebug1402Xx says:

    I’m going this weekend with my girlfriend, and I’m gonna try short kiss, then a French kiss

  28. davie says:

    there’s this one girl I love,but just too scared to make a move,though she has shown some signs,but the shy thingy wont let me go for the kill, I will try this out,but no hand-kissing

  29. John says:

    Getting her drunk may seem kinda wrong, but face it, if she comes with you to your home to spend time with you and she wants to drink with you and both get wasted together in your house… well it is not perverted, it is a party.

  30. Jay C. says:

    Dater boy, that is completely immoral and wrong. Also, I am thoroughly disgusted that you would even consider something as degrading as that. It is Because of people like you that girls and women everywhere unwillingly Lose their virginity. Congratulations, sir, you have all the makings of a rapist.

  31. niall h says:

    well, lover boy i think you are right. get her wasted then slowly move from base 1 to 4 and then ta da,she is f***ing giving u a blowjob

  32. Darkestlight says:

    I think my ex read this… Because he did all these steps with me but we didnt kiss so it didnt work on me XD

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