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How Long Does it Take to Fall in Love?

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Did you know that when you’re in love, it actually shows on the outside? But for that to happen, you really have to be in love. But really, how long does it take to fall in love?

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“I’m so in love with him!”

“I’ve never felt this way about anyone… ever!!”

“He’s the one for me!!!”

Sounds familiar? I bet it’s something all of us have said at least twice in our lives.

How long does it take to fall in love?

We get into a relationship, and the first few months are all rosy and nice and we’re ecstatic, we’re in eleventh heaven and we get transported into a fantasy world.

All of us have been in love, but how many of us have actually been there? Think about it. Ask yourself this question, what exactly is love?

What is love?

Love doesn’t mean just romantic evenings by the seaside, having expensive lobster and wine, gifts or even 24/7 mush.

If there is anyone out there who thinks this is love, well, allow me to take those rose tinted shades off your face!

This four letter word, L-O-V-E, is probably the most over-rated over-used word in common languages. Most of us assume we’re in love already, but do we even know how long it takes to fall in love?

These days, people use it without knowing the actual meaning of the word. You’re with a person for two days, you think the two of you are meant to be, and the both of you move in together, get married, and BANG!

That’s it, you are in “true love”. Till now you’ve been seeing the world through those glasses. Once you take them off, reality hits you right between the eyes! You can’t compromise anymore, he snores in his sleep, and she nags so much she reminds you of your grand aunt who buried your uncle way before his time! Still in love?

Don’t mean to be cynical here, only realistic [Read: Why you can’t find love]. Just because you are with a person for two months and there are no glitches except the occasional lovers’ tiffs, doesn’t mean it’s true love and he’s your Prince Charming. Perhaps, he or she may be the one, but only time will tell. Attention doesn’t mean love. Many people mistake attention for love.

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For instance, when you first enter high school or college, you tend to “fall” for the first person who showers you with the slightest of attention. For all you know, that person could just be genuinely nice and probably wouldn’t be thinking of anything other than a platonic relationship. You jump to conclusions. That’s the reason most of us end up being disappointed. Because of free-wheeling assumptions.

So stop assuming, be certain about that flutter in your heart before completely losing yourself in this emotion. It makes life much better, simpler and fun!

So how long does it take to fall in love? Well, when it really happens, you’ll know. But here are a few pointers that can help you understand it better and stop you from falling in love fast.

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  • October 28, 2010 | Permalink |

    I guess if you are in love it can’t be a wrong person for you at that very moment. But with the course of time feelings go away – and here you are – the person becomes ‘the wrong’. We should just understand it and don’t blame anyone for the love to be gone.

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