A perfect meet cute is almost as elusive as a perfect romance.
And yet, we see it all the time.
We see it in romantic movies, in books and when our happily dating friends tell us stories of how they met their lover.
And the more we see it, the more many wonder why their own lives can’t be more like the movies.
But is life really being unfair to a select few?
[Read: The real reason behind why some of us can’t find love easily]
What is a meet cute?
Meet cutes are cheesy and the stuff romantic comedies are built on.
It’s when a girl and a guy meet each other accidentally, in the most fascinating of circumstances.
They don’t expect to run into each other, but somehow, they just bump into each other as if someone up there was holding their strings and pulling them closer.
The movies glorify this moment and weave plots around it all the time.
And in real life, a few lucky friends of yours may have their own share of happy meet cutes in their life.
Meet cutes can be annoying for someone who hasn’t experienced it even once. But then again, who really doesn’t want a meet cute in their own life? [Read: How to fall in love like you’re in a fairytale]
The importance of meet cutes in love
The first time I heard about the meet cute was while watching the movie, ‘The Holiday’ several years ago. It’s been used in the film industry for a long time, but only when I watched the meet cute scene in the movie did I actually realize what it was all about.
But I didn’t really need to know what it’s called to understand the fact that a cute and coincidental start to a relationship always makes the relationship feel more important and meaningful.
If you’re in a relationship with someone you met through a romantic meet cute, it makes you feel special and the coincidence feels like destiny *well, unless you break up soon*. And let’s not forget this, meet cutes always makes for some great conversation makers when both of you are with friends who want to know how both of you met in the first place.
Meet cutes are great to meet strangers
The best part about a meet cute is the fact that it helps both the involved people drop their guard down. If you’re sitting in a café and try to make eye contact with someone else sitting in the next table, you’re already paving the path for a meet cute. [Read: 10 eye contact flirting tips that always work]
When you try to get someone’s attention, everything about that moment becomes more exciting and heart racing. For you, and for the person whose attention you’re trying to catch *as long as this person is interested in you too*. A meet cute isn’t always about the first sentence, it’s the flutter in the heart that both of you experience.
If you try to speak to someone you like without building the connection, they may be more wary to speak with you. But if you create the chemistry without even exchanging words, the excitement you experience will create the meet cute for you. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance]
Different ways to create a meet cute in your life
Meet cutes happen naturally if you’re prepared to take a few chances. But you won’t experience a meet cute if you just sit back and wait for destiny to play its part. A meet cute is a two sided experience. So if you really want to experience it, you need to take the initiative.
#1 Ask for help. If you find yourself confused about something, don’t feel awkward to ask an attractive person of the opposite sex for help. As long as you seem genuine, they’d definitely be willing to help you out. And once the conversation starts, all you need is the chemistry. [Read: 15 conversation starters you can use with a guy you like]
#2 Fun activities. There are so many fun activities you can participate in that would lead you straight to a meet cute. Adventure sports, bungee jumping, or dancing classes can provide you with a lot of opportunities to meet someone you fancy. And even if you do initiate a conversation with the one you like while indulging in an activity, it would be completely acceptable.
#3 Travel. Go out there and explore the world around you. If you go to a new place with your friends and see another group of backpackers or travelers, you can approach them effortlessly. In fact, they’d be happy to talk to someone and share experiences.
#4 Meet new friends. You may have your own group of close friends, but every now and then, get introduced to new friends. Eventually, those friends may introduce you to other people, and somewhere along the way, without even realizing it, you may experience your own perfect meet cute.
If you wait for a meet cute without making the effort to find a special someone, you may never find it, because meet cutes are everywhere only if you make the effort to look for it. [Read: Perfect ways to meet the one without making a lot of effort]
All love stories have a special meet cute in it
Most people who don’t believe in fairytale romances may not believe in a happy meet cute. But if you think about it, meet cutes are all around us, all the time.
A meet cute is the spark that sets off a new relationship. But would you ever realize it even if you experience it? Every friend you’ve met or every date that’s ever been set up for you has the chance of being a perfect meet cute, if only you choose to see it that way.
A meet cute is a perception, and is created only when you believe you’ve experienced it. Even the most mundane of interactions could be the most beautiful meet cute, but a person who’s waiting for something more magical would never realize it.
When you ask someone for directions, when you pick a piece of paper someone dropped on the floor, when you step aside to let someone pass you into the elevator, every single one of these circumstances is a potential meet cute. But it’s a meet cute only when you choose to see it that way, and take the initiative to get to know the person. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a girl and a girl]
Your meet cute can predict your relationship’s longevity
Do you believe you’ve experienced a meet cute that led to you meeting the special person in your life? Most couples who are truly happy with each other are usually convinced that they met each other in a special manner, or under the perfect coincidences.
Do you enjoy telling your love story to others when they ask you how both of you met? Are both of you excited to share your meet cute story?
If a couple isn’t happy in love or if they’re experiencing difficulties in the relationship, the way they explain their first meeting would be different from the way a happy couple in love would explain their first meeting. [Read: 25 rules you need to follow for a successful romance]
An unhappy couple, even if they’ve had a perfect meet cute that’s reminiscent of a chick flick, would dull the story down to an uneventful story like “…yeah, we met each other at a grocery store, and well, here we are…. ho hum…”
How do you talk about your first date or the first time you met your lover? The way you tell the story of your meet cute can tell a lot about the direction in which your relationship is heading.
The reality remains though, there’s a perfect meet cute in all our lives, but how you interpret your encounter with love will help you experience the meet cute you want in your life.
[Read: 9 relationship stages all couples go through]
A beautiful meet cute isn’t just stuff that movies are built on. It exists in real life. Go on out there and take the initiative. And if you’re already dating someone, you need to understand that even if both of you met in the most boring of circumstances, there’s a perfect meet cute in your life, as long as you choose to see it that way.
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A true believer in the beauty of life and the world we live in, Preeti Tewari finds every excuse to lose herself in nature, be it smelling flowers on a stree...
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