You’re ready to hit the dating scene, huh? Congrats on that, lady! Whether you’re looking to hook a guy you have more-than-friendly feelings for or you want to entice a sexy stranger tonight, I think I know what question bothers you the most.
Is there a guaranteed way to blow his mind and make him crazy about you?
There’s no such thing as a “guaranteed way” to make him fall head over heels for you. There are, however, a few pointers, which, if considered and followed properly, can make your new colleague from work, or the guy you met last night at a bar fall in love with you.
How to make a new guy fall in love with you
A strong perfume and hot dress are important head-turning elements, but right now, we need stronger ammo than that. Take notes, ladies.
#1 Confidence. A smile, wit, sexy body, or some sass – what do you think you need the most to attract your man? None of them! I mean yes, your sexy body and hot dress may draw him in, but in order to make him want to attach himself to you, you need something else – confidence. [Read: 14 easy ways to feel sexy and confident all the time]
Only a confident woman knows she’s worth it. When you’re confident, you know you’re great, and what’s more important, he will see the confidence vibes around you. Let’s face it, men want to feel like they scored, like they are the luckiest dude in the room. If your attitude is self-deprecating and insecure, would he feel like he won the prize?
My point exactly.
Confidence is everything when it comes to attractiveness and sex appeal. Being super confident is great, but whatever you do…
#2 Don’t be desperate. He doesn’t want to feel like your happiness depends on him. Make sure you’re keeping everything under control because many acts caused by desperation are a turn off for men.
There are three important don’ts beside the don’t-be-desperate advice: Don’t get too drunk. Don’t dance too sexily around him. And don’t laugh excessively at the jokes he makes.
If you mention something like marriage after the first few dates, you may as well have the words “gosh, I’m so desperate for love” written on your forehead. Act like you’ve already been here before. Own the space around you like you really mean it. This way, he will be naturally attracted to you, without you having to perform magic tricks to catch his attention. [Read: 8 signs you’re coming on way too strong]
And once he notices you, it’s time for our next little trick. I present you, the vibe behind the feminine…
#3 Show poise. Did you know that attracting men is closely associated to the qualities that emanate from you? As a matter of fact, every time you come across a person you want to attract, you don’t have to try that much. It’s all about your elegant and graceful bearing. Once you show these traits in all the things you do, he will be yours.
Poise can be defined in different ways, but all explanations come to one thing: composure of manner and dignity. If you manage to radiate your worth from the very start, your man will sum you up before you even say hello. Make sure your focus is on you, and be aware of the image you’re showing in every moment. This way, it will be easier for you to create a mysterious aura and make him want to find out more about you. [Read: 10 small changes that can make you a lot more graceful and elegant]
The most important thing for you here is to be subtle because otherwise, you might look like you’re desperate for his attention or come on way too strong and self-absorbed.
#4 Flirt. Want to know how to cause anyone from the bartender to your new colleague to do whatever you say? With just a few flirting tips, you can have any man melting in your arms. When you see him, look his way a few times, and let him catch you in the act. Oh, and to make things clear from the beginning, look his way, don’t stare at him. There are two important rules when it comes to flirting:
– The first rule of the flirting club is to avoid being creepy.
– The second rule of the flirting club is to avoid being creepy.
Both men and women are huge fans of flirting. Some men, however, can be nervous wrecks, and thus, they might be afraid to flirt, so they wait for a sign. [Read: How to catch a guy’s attention no matter where you are]
So yeah, let him catch you in the act, give him a shy smile, look at him for a second or two more, and then look away. He’s already yours – he will know that you’re interested in him, which means most of your job here is done.
When flirting, make sure your body language is on point. Your moves can tell a lot of things. Use your eyes, your smile and your feminine, flirty facial expressions to your advantage, and I assure you that words won’t be needed to impress him. I know you’re at that point when all you want to do is jump him, but please, resist the urge. [Read: 10 flirty moves girls think are cute but guys hate]
We can’t talk about flirting and not mention…
#5 Eye contact. A little bird told us that nothing turns men on more than when they are sitting across a woman they are attracted to, and they are looking right into her eyes, and she’s looking back seductively. Every man wants a woman who loves challenges and is not afraid to be herself.
Want to get him to be intrigued by you? Use your eyes! He will wonder what you’re thinking, and believe me, that will drive him crazy. He loves it when you’re being you and not afraid to show it. He loves it when he’s turned on physically and mentally. He loves it when he doesn’t know what you’re thinking.
Don’t be one of those women who avoid staring into their man’s eyes. Unfortunately, some women out there believe that eye contact takes away their power, when in fact, nothing is more powerful than long and seductive eye contact.
Don’t forget, seduction starts with your eyes. But remember, seductive eye contact, not a creepy look. The two of you looking at each other at the right moment can push things forward. [Read: The all-in woman’s guide to making eye contact with men]
#6 Be approachable. Please don’t tell me you’re one of those women who blame men for not having the initiative. We are now living in an era when the advice “be approachable” is no longer weird and new-agey. Women who are more approachable seem to glow because their body language is more inviting.
Now, if you’re surrounded by more than one or two friends, you will look less approachable because he will be scared of being rejected in front of your friends. That’s why you should give him the chance to approach you alone.
How can you do that? Offer to grab the next round of drinks for the girls. Find him in the crowd, gaze into his eyes, smile a bit, and before you know it, he will be waiting for you at the bar. Show this man that you’re confident and comfortable with him approaching you.
When he does strike a conversation with you, tell him about yourself. Opening up with him will get the ball rolling. Then ask him something about himself, because remember, the disclosure should come from both sides. [Read: 15 easy conversation starters you can use with a guy]
The more the two of you share, the closer you will get to each other. Plus, it will be easier for you to get to know him better. His favorite director is David Lynch? Grab some popcorn and watch Mulholland Drive tonight, girl! He enjoys the NBA? Brush up on which players are playing for which team.
Being approachable results in exchanging phone numbers. So remember to smile, laugh, compliment him sincerely, and have fun. [Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable to guys]
#7 Touch. Whatever you do, don’t underestimate the power of a close and gentle touch, especially if he’s not prepared for it. An unexpected touch will create a positive physical connection that will not only leave him wanting more, but something that he will remember for days.
Several studies have found that touching while flirting creates attraction and liking. Simply put, when you “accidentally” touch your guy, he becomes more attracted to you. So always be on the lookout for those cute but flirtatious moments to touch him “by accident.” These sneak attacks when you’re touching his hands work like a charm. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and overly sexual flirting moves for girls]
While you’re putting your heart and soul into the conversation and describing something really exciting, touch his hand or arm. This little, innocent trick isn’t needy nor is it straightforward, but it can do magic. Don’t think twice, graze his arm when reaching over him for something.
And finally, while sticking to these seven maneuvers, don’t forget to…
#8 Be feminine. Contrary to what many people think, being “one of the guys” won’t help with the “make him crazy about you” tactic. So, don’t be one of the guys – be the total opposite of it! Yes, it’s fun to be a little boyish for sporty things you two might do on some of your first few dates, but while you’re still in the first phase, keep it simple, sweet and girly. [Read: 25 ways to look cute and melt a guy’s heart]
Show him your best feminine qualities, but don’t be too obvious about it. Flip your hair and show your neck. That’s right, your neck. Men find that body part very attractive. Expose your neck, move your hair to one side, and lean slightly into him while speaking softly, and he will be forced to do the same.
Your femininity will make him feel masculine. Show him your tender, sensitive, graceful, positive, nurturing, and confident spirit. Be careful with the whole confidence and self-assurance thing, though. Make sure you’re doing these little feminine tricks in a genuine and moderate way, not look-at-me way. [Read: 20 hot tips: The ultimate guide to being a lot more feminine]
Last but not least, stop while it’s still fun. Flirting is all about having fun, but remember to always leave the flirting interaction between you two while you’re still feeling victorious.
If you say goodbye while your conversation is on a high point, your man will think of you often, and he will do anything to see you again. I know that saying goodbye to this handsome man is the last thing you want to do now, but we want him to look forward to seeing you again, don’t we? Make sure the goodbye is confident, sexy, and flirty!
[Read: Things you should never do to get a guy to like you]
With these tricks, you can seduce any guy you want. And the man in your crosshair won’t have any idea what’s coming, but I assure you that he will be all over you before you can even order your next.
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