Inner beauty is such a misnomer if you give it a second consideration. While it’s easy to think that inner beauty was created to feel better about ourselves, that’s not the reality. Unlike outer beauty, it’s not something that’s tangible. You can’t touch or see inner beauty, but that doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate it.
Inner beauty isn’t just inner beauty. As you dwell on the idea for a while, you’ll realize that it’s the only beauty there is. This isn’t to imply that outer beauty doesn’t matter. However, when comparing the two, inner beauty gives more significance than you think.
[Read: The science of attraction and 17 things that are way more important than physical beauty]
The premise of inner beauty focuses on everything within you – heart, mind, and soul. More than your physical appearance, these are the things that make you even more beautiful and attractive. You can have the most perfect body and face, but if you don’t love yourself or have beauty from within, then that beauty is pointless.
Inner beauty is the real beauty of a person that goes far beyond just physical appearances. Inner beauty might not be seen with the naked eye, but it goes beyond what you can see and touch. Most people think that it’s a joke.
They think it’s a way of reassurance if you’re not lucky enough to have the looks. While this makes perfect sense, this isn’t the case entirely.
Whether or not you have the looks or not, inner beauty is what encourages someone to love or befriend you. People may appreciate you for your looks, but it’s your inner beauty that dictates whether a person stays in your life or not. [Read: The different types of attraction and which ones plays the most important role in true love]
There’s a big confusion between outer beauty and inner beauty. In all that confusion, we’ve overlooked the true essence of inner beauty and given all the credit to outer beauty. Outer beauty might be easier to notice, but as soon as you interact with them, that’s when inner beauty takes centerstage.
Every conversation and every action behind someone’s external appearance, inner beauty takes credit. You want someone to be your friend because of how kind they are, or you stay in a relationship because of how big their heart is. These things can never compare to outer beauty as inner beauty is much more substantial.
You may speak to someone for a minute and find them pleasant or not-so-pleasant at first. As the conversation goes on for a minute or two, you may start to pick qualities, traits, or even cute quirks.
Without even realizing it, you may start to find them more and more beautiful or charming. This is all the works of inner beauty. [Read: How to get someone to like you immediately]
You may think it’s a chiseled face or a gorgeous physique that makes a person attractive. But more than anything else, it’s a person’s inner belief that they’re attractive that makes them more appealing to others.
You don’t choose someone to be part of your life because of how pretty or tall they are. You choose someone because of their kindness, wisdom, generosity – all of which are part of inner beauty.
The glow of confidence and sex appeal comes from within yourself. You’re confident because of how you present yourself to the world and how you maintain your authenticity. A lot of people assume that confidence has everything to do with your physical appearance, but that’s not true.
Some of the most fancied personalities like Oprah, Lady Gaga, or Tom Hanks aren’t really the prettiest of people. But their glowing confidence and self-belief make them attractive to every member of the opposite sex. Society has led us to believe that everyone will judge you based on your physical appearance.
However, first impressions don’t always depend on your physique, but you need to believe that from within yourself. And that’s where your true beauty lies. More than what you look like, your true worth lies within.
Inner beauty helps you appreciate outer beauty. If you feel good about yourself, you would feel more confident about facing and interacting with other individuals. Even if outer beauty is tangible, it’s not enough to make someone stay in your life.
The factor that really makes you attractive is your capacity to use your heart and values when it matters. People are more attracted to you when you speak up with courage or when you become selfless. Remember, outer beauty can give you a glance, but it’s inner beauty that makes someone stay.
No matter how flawless your outer beauty is, it’s not enough to make others stay. This is also why the things that truly matter are the things that can’t be seen with the naked eye. [Read: How to make new friends when you can’t find any friends]
Beauty is all a matter of perspective. If you’re someone who believes that outer beauty is the only beauty that matters, then that’s all you’ll ever see. When you fill your thoughts with positive energy and inner beauty, you’d appreciate the things that are around you a lot more too.
You need to be the type of person that sees beauty in even mundane and ordinary situations. An average person might be ugly to the rest of the world but if you’re capable of seeing all their beauty, then that makes you different.
Even when you look at an inanimate object like a painting, or even a view of the ocean, it seems more beautiful to you because you see the beauty that overflows within you reflect in everything else around you. And that’s when you’ll realize that the ability to see beauty comes from within yourself.
If you tend to see the glass half empty, this could also reflect your inability to see beauty in people and things around you. This also means if you perceive yourself as lacking inner beauty, then that perspective could reflect on everyone you cross paths with. If you truly feel beautiful on the inside, you’d never seem unappealing to anyone else. [Read: How to be more attractive – 31 ways to play up your best features]
Even when we’ve talked about inner beauty not being seen by the naked eye, it can be seen if you choose to acknowledge it. You see it every time someone gives a piece of food to the needy *without recording it for social media!* or every time someone displays their love for someone.
This is just one of the reasons why outer beauty can never compare to the depth that inner beauty can give. [Read: 10 steps to a more graceful and elegant you]
Flaws are perceptive and it’s a flaw only because you believe it’s one. A girl who wants to lose 10 pounds may think she’s fat, while another girl who wants to be size zero may think she’s fat.
To a third girl’s eye, both those girls may already be skinny! Beauty is just a perception that begins from within. What is considered ugly by one person might look completely beautiful to another – it’s all about changing your perspective.
If inner beauty is the true beauty that everyone sees, why is it even called inner beauty? Shouldn’t it just be called outer beauty then, because that’s what everyone notices anyway? In the first place, both inner and outer beauty shouldn’t even be separated.
The real definition of beauty should be focused on what makes a person their most authentic selves, regardless of whether this refers to their looks or their characteristics. You’re beautiful if you believe you’re beautiful. You’re attractive if you feel attractive. Everyone only sees you as a projection of what you see when you look into the mirror.
It’s the main reason why you’ll never live a confident life if you don’t love yourself initially. If you always focus on everything you lack, confidence isn’t something you can find within yourself. And you’ll find everything around you ugly and only worthy of criticism.
You have to feel beautiful to look beautiful. In this sense, both inner and outer beauty has always been connected.
Without the right mindset and heart, without the right set of values, you can’t feel beautiful. If you still feel like there’s a flaw holding the beautiful you back, learn to overcome it. [Read: How to be perfect in everything that you do]
Outer beauty will never compare to the depth that inner beauty can provide. It focuses on everything regarding your physical appearance. No matter how much effort you put into your makeup or the clothes you wear, it’s not going to make you more beautiful than a second glance, any kinder or have a better personality.
Outer beauty might give others the first impression that they need you, but inner beauty reflects your worth more.
Outer beauty might encourage you to take several perfect Instagram photos, but it’s still very superficial and surface-level compared to inner beauty. Outer flawlessness can’t make someone stay in your life or admire you more.
While outer beauty is external, inner beauty provides more meaning than any other beauty. It’s what defines you even more than having the perfect external features.
Inner beauty is what represents the kindness of your heart or the purity of your soul. This is why inner beauty can never compare to any other beauty. And at the end of the day, call it what you want, inner beauty or outer, there’s just one kind. And it’s the kind of beauty you see when YOU see yourself in the mirror.
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A true believer in the beauty of life and the world we live in, Preeti Tewari finds every excuse to lose herself in nature, be it smelling flowers on a stree...
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