When it comes to sex, most people want to experience the best. The best being the longest, hottest, and most intoxicating ride of their life. And what better way to achieve that than with a mind-blowing orgasm?
But how does one achieve it and is it even possible to have one that makes your brain fall out of your head? *Metaphorically, speaking that is* Well, the answer may lie in what experts call edging.
What is edging?
Edging is orgasm control. It is also called peaking or surfing. With those terminologies on the table, one can assume it is about manipulating one’s orgasm to the point of unbridled ecstasy.
It is done by stimulating yourself to the point right before orgasm and maintaining that state of arousal using different methods. When you’ve practiced it enough times, you can thoroughly experience the benefits of edging which is simply one big climax.
Mind you, this is not your regular orgasm that hits you like a train and then leaves you with your head hanging off the bed and your tongue lolling out. Nope. The orgasm that edging allows is one that gives you mini seizures and uncontrollable whole-body spasms.
Relax, because this will not lead to a medical emergency—most of the time. It’s actually just a powerful feeling pushing your nerve endings to the pinnacle of extreme sexual pleasure.
It can be performed alone or with a partner, but the best results can be achieved only if you are fully aware of what’s happening to your body. Some people might be able to pinpoint when their partner is about to climax, which allows them to perform edging on their partner almost perfectly. Others might not be so lucky, especially if their partner is prone to faking their enthusiastic responses in bed. [Read: 10 easy tips for women who want a mind blowing orgasm]
How do you perform edging on women?
There are a variety of methods one can use to perform edging, but the easiest would be with the use of the clitoris. A G-spot orgasm is just stimulation of the inner parts of the clitoris through the vaginal wall, so the external part would be a better marker to get you started.
You can perform edging using your conventional stimulating methods like rubbing and licking, but you have to know when to moderate your movements. Stimulating yourself too much can lead to a quick orgasm, while stimulating yourself too little would end up pushing you to an early refractory period without the orgasm *the refractory period is when you have to build yourself up to an orgasm again*.
You can try for a G-spot orgasm, but the sensitivity of your vaginal walls partnered with vulval stimulation can make it hard to control the extent of your orgasm. If you’d like to practice edging using that area, you can ask your partner to try it or you can use a vibrator or dildo instead. [Read: Clitoris stimulation – 10 sexy ways to please the clitoris the right way]
As we’ve mentioned, edging is not limited to a few strokes on your nether regions. There are a variety of methods you can use to experience edging, with or without a partner. Here are some of the most commonly used and also some new ones for the more experimental individuals.
#1 Old faithful. This is your run-of-the-mill clitoris-only stimulation. What you do is masturbate or ask your partner to touch you until you feel like you’re about to burst. Once you’re at that point, slow down and continue to rub the clitoris with less pressure. Be careful, because this is a delicate state. Any excessive movement will cause you to orgasm prematurely, but not enough could end up killing the sensation.
Note that you cannot continue to stimulate it using one speed. You have to increase it again to the point before orgasm and then turn it down a notch again. Do this over and over until it’s impossible to control anymore.
Once you’re ready, go to town and rub that one out until your eyes roll back in your head. By that point, the edging you’ve done will have been enough to elicit an orgasm that’s more powerful than the ones that you’re used to. [Read: 10 female masturbation tips for orgasmic bliss]
#2 Using lube. Assuming you didn’t need to use lube using the first method, doing so now will be much more pleasurable because of the slick and smooth feeling it gives. It helps stimulate your clitoris faster, which is a good thing for women who need a bit more time to get into the mood.
#3 Using a vibrator. The tricky part about using a vibrator is that the sensations you feel will be significantly more intense than it would have been using your hands or your partner’s hands. A good tip, when using a vibrator for edging would be to use a low setting or a vibrator that doesn’t gyrate or have only one setting.
#4 Dry humping. This method is quite useful for the more adventurous individuals. An over-the-pants edging session might take longer, but those who prefer doing it in locations where there is a greater risk of getting caught might be able to climax faster, if necessary. The best place to try this would be in your car. Nothing illegal about scratching down there, right? But just to be sure, check with your lawyer! [Read: Dry humping and the art of slow and powerful orgasms]
#5 During sex. The easiest way to do this with someone else, i.e., a penis in your vagina, would be to communicate your status honestly and clearly. Faking is not an option, if you want to make the most out of edging.
Before doing this with your partner, talk about how you’re going to do it and what you’re expecting. This is helpful in finding out how you and your partner can perform edging together because it’s different for every person. The methods may be the same, but the speed of stimulation, the location, and the technique will inevitably vary.
Once you’re at the point before climax, tell your partner. Tell them how you’re feeling and whether or not it’s working. If it’s not, you can always try again. That’s more than half the fun anyway. [Read: Simultaneous orgasms – 19 things you need to know about it]
#6 During oral sex. Again, the best way to perform this would be to instruct your partner and guide them along the way. To make yourself feel less like a drill sergeant barking orders, try to infuse some dirty talk into the process. It might make things a little hotter, especially if you’re the type who responds to sound, so try not to sound too enthusiastic when you’re not yet ready to climax.
[Read: How long should sex last? The real score!]
It’s going to take some time to perform edging the right way, and it might even take some time to experience it the best way for you and your partner. But with these six edging tips, you will be on your way!
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