You have fallen head-over-heels and are in love with her. But you’re asking, “does she love me?” Here are the signs to know if a girl loves you without saying it.
It’s great to be in love, isn’t it? But sometimes, it’s difficult to know someone’s true feelings. It may be that you just have a crush on a girl from afar. Or maybe you’ve been dating someone for quite a while, but you can’t read whether she feels the same way.
Girls can be mysterious creatures, and sometimes, it can be downright impossible to decipher the signs that tell you that she loves you. While there are plenty of tricks and tips for the ladies about how to find out whether a guy is interested in them, more often than not, guys can feel equally confused.
Love is a strange thing and can make us act in all sorts of odd ways. You would think that learning the signs that she loves you would be easy. Surely, you’d know, right? But sometimes, you need a little helping hand.
Luckily, there are ways to find out!
Telling someone you love them is a big step, and it is fair to say that many men take saying the big “L” word pretty seriously. Men want to feel loved the same way women do and are just as afraid to get hurt, too.
The last thing you want is to get rejected or to have your *actually pretty fragile* heart crushed if the girl of your dreams doesn’t say it back. Or worse, freaks out and dumps you, or responds with the soul-destroying refrain, “I think we should just be friends.”
Is she really into you? The little things and definitive signs she loves you
So, if you are one smitten kitten and want to know if your lady feels the same, here are all the signs that will help you understand if she has fallen for you, too. [Try: How to find out if a girl likes you in 12 ways]
1. It’s all in the face
If you look *and we mean really look* at her face when you’re with her, you’ll get all sorts of information about how she’s feeling.
It’s important to pay attention to her eyes, her mouth, and the way her forehead creases if she’s surprised or anxious or contemplating something. Her different expressions will tell you all you need to know.
If she stares into your eyes when you talk to her, and if she nods and smiles along, it proves that you’ve got her undivided attention. If you see her looking at you for long periods of time, then it’s probably a sign she loves you. [Read: Body language of a girl – 37 clues to instantly tell if she likes you]
2. She gives you all her attention
If a girl is focusing all her attention on you, then she is falling for you hard. Does it feel like you two are the only people in the room when you talk?
Do her eyes wonder, or is she focused solely on you? Does she pay attention to everything you say and hang on to your every word? If she does, then this is one of the top signs she loves you. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile, and like you instantly]
3. She knows all about you
Does she know exactly how you like your coffee? Why you hate that band? What you are doing tomorrow? If she knows everything about you, even the things you might not even remember yourself, it’s because you are the most important thing in her life!
4. Her body language tells you so
Looking at a woman’s body language can tell you exactly how she feels. This is one of the most important ways you can tell whether or not a woman has fallen for you. Is she affectionate?
Does she fidget when she’s talking to you? Does she act nervous? These are all signs that you’re having a seriously powerful effect on her! [Read: Clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]
5. She compliments you
If she showers you with praise and is quickly becoming your biggest fan, it’s likely because she’s trying to tell you that she likes you.
Women pay compliments to show that they’re serious about a guy. So if she starts giving you lots, it’s her way of saying that she’s into you.
6. She can’t keep her hands off you
This doesn’t mean that she jumps into bed with you every time she sees you. But she may give you hugs, nuzzle into your neck, hold your hand, or even simply brush her arm against yours every opportunity she gets.
If you make her feel loved and appreciated, she’ll want to be near you all the time. This is definitely one of the signs she loves you. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]
7. She’s asking a lot of questions
If she wants to get to know you better, it’s because she’s interested in finding out whether or not the two of you may be compatible partners. Why? Because she likes you, of course!
Women feel closer to their partners when they feel that they understand and know a lot about them. This is a surefire sign that she feels it’s definitely worth her while to get to know you a little closer. [Read: 60 get-to-know-you questions for a new romance]
8. She makes time for you
If she makes time for you, you’ll know it’s because she is interested in spending time together with you and that you are on her priority list. With her by your side, you’ll never feel alone. In connection, if you need her to help you out with something or to just be there for you, she’ll come, no matter how short notice it may be.
If she’s rearranging her schedule and taking time out of her busy life to be with you, it’s because she wants this to be a long-term relationship that is going well!
9. She does sweet little things
Another dead giveaway sign that a girl loves you is if she shows you small yet meaningful gestures. Maybe she brings you soup when you’re feeling sick to make you feel better. [Read: 67 small but sweetest romantic gestures for everyday life]
Or maybe she calls for an impromptu date and makes your favorite dinner when you come over. Sweet little gestures like these show that she really cares about your well-being.
10. She wants to get to know your friends
Showing an interest in your friends is definitely a sign of love. She takes an interest—not only in how they are doing but if all the little details you’ve told her still ring true.
Also, making an effort to get to know your friends shows that she wants to be a part of your life for the long term. She’s putting effort into getting to know them because she seeks approval from them. Trust us, many women don’t really do this unless she truly loves you! [Read: What is a true friend? 18 key characteristics of real friends]
By doing this, she is being thoughtful and caring and really listening to you and your friends. Making an effort to show you that she cares is her way of trying to impress you and let you know she loves you, too.
11. She wants to get to know your family
If she’s making an effort with your family, as well as your friends, then she’s definitely up for sticking around for a long time.
She wants to feel included, comfortable, and close to your relatives, and only a girl who has truly fallen for a guy would make that kind of effort and commitment! Talk about a sign that she loves you! [Read: Clear signs it’s the right time to meet the family]
12. She gets a bit jealous
While it’s not great if she turns into the green-eyed monster every time you so much as speak to another girl. However, if she looks a little displeased when you’re talking to another woman, it’s probably because she wants you all to herself!
Think about it, she won’t get jealous if she’s not in love with you and wants your full attention on her. It’s an obvious sign she loves you without saying it. [Read: Taming the green monster: When is a girl’s jealousy okay?]
13. She’s introduced you to all of her friends
If she didn’t think you were great, she probably wouldn’t bother introducing you to everyone. So if you’re a familiar face to all her best gal pals, it’s because she likes you and wants the world to know about it.
14. You’ve met her family
She’ll never invite a man she’s not in love with to a family dinner or any important event. If she feels ready to introduce you to her family, then she is ready to say the big “L” word for sure.
15. She calls just to say hi
If she texts you during the day just to see how you’re doing, it’s because she can’t stop thinking about you. Why? Because she’s seriously head over heels! [Read: 15 cell phone rules every couple has to follow to build trust]
16. She checks you out
Whether you’ve been dating only for a little while or for a couple of months, your woman should think you are super attractive. She thinks you are one hot piece of ass, so she obviously can’t help but give you the once over every now and again.
So, if you catch her giving you an appraising eye, it shows she is still completely into you and totally loved-up. [Read: How to increase your sex appeal instantly]
17. You have great trips away together
Trips away are actually a huge test of the strength of your relationship. If you want to find out whether she loves you, take a break somewhere with her and see how you get on.
Holidays are strangely pressured situations where you are “meant” to be having the time of your life and a chance to get to know each other better. If you bicker and fight constantly during your time together while away, she may not be the one for you. [Read: Reasons why traveling is a great test of compatibility]
18. You want the same things from your relationship
It is always a good idea to have this conversation as early as you can. There is no point in sticking with a girl who has a completely different view of the world and expects entirely different things from her life.
Sharing the same values and respecting, caring about, and enjoying similar things will indicate that you are a winner!
19. You hear her talking about you—and it’s good stuff!
If she’s constantly talking about you positively to her friends, co-workers, or just about anyone that will listen, it suggests that she is one smitten kitten!
She is excited to tell the world about you. She wants to show you off and let everyone know that she’s got the greatest guy in the world. Of course, that’s a good thing. [Check out: How to prove that you love someone the right way]
20. You don’t have anything to complain about
So, you hang around with your buddies down at the pub, and the conversation moves on to the womenfolk in their lives.
No doubt, they will all have something to complain about. If you never feel the need to complain, it’s because your lady is totally into you and just wants to keep you happy.
21. She’s your personal cheerleader
No, we don’t mean literally! However, if your woman loves you, she will show you by supporting you in everything you do.
She totally believes in you and has confidence that you can achieve your goals in doing whatever you want to do and being whoever you want to be. She is also right there to celebrate your victories, be they big or small.
When you are feeling unsure of yourself, she is right there by your side, cheering you up and giving you the confidence and support you need! [Read: When should you say “I love you” for the first time]
22. You talk about the future—a lot
If you can sit down and chat about plans that won’t happen until way, way in the future—we’re talking marriage, kids, or even just a holiday that you want to go on next summer—and it feels like the most natural thing in the world, this probably means you are both totally in love with one another.
People who don’t have intense feelings for each other generally avoid answering important questions. They especially don’t talk about reproducing!
23. She makes sacrifices for you
She loves you, and she wants to make you happy. If this means going out of her way or sacrificing something in order to do so, she’ll do it as a way to show you that you’re important. Just make sure you return the favor!
24. She likes you, just the way you are
That’s right, guys—a lady who truly loves you will always accept you for who you are. She isn’t looking for you to be any different. She won’t try to change you but accepts you just as you are. If she’s constantly nagging at you or putting you down about things she doesn’t like, chances are it’s not love. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you]
25. She doesn’t play games
A girl who loves you ain’t gonna mess around! She isn’t interested in playing games or toying with your emotions just out of boredom. She will let you know she wants to be with you, and that’s that.
26. Her friends are happy for you
Her friends are an important aspect of her life.
Everyone roots for a couple in love. If she loves you, her friends are going to be happy for you. If they aren’t, this might be a sign that she’s not sure, and telling them behind your back.
27. You can tell her anything
If she has made you feel comfortable enough that you can tell her anything, it suggests that she’s in love with you. [Check out: How to earn your girl’s trust without losing a limb]
Knowing she won’t judge you for whatever is on your mind is definitely a great indication of her love. Be it your hopes, fears, aspirations, or even sexual fantasies, she is cool with everything you say and will happily take it all in and make helpful suggestions, too!
28. She lets you watch the game
If she loves you, she’ll know how important it is to you, and even though there is an amazing, insightful documentary she’s been waiting for weeks to see at the same time, she’ll let you watch the game–and may even watch it with you, too!
29. She bakes you pie
Everyone knows the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If women go out of their way to cook your favorite meal, it is their way of telling you they love and care for you. Think about it: a huge, delicious pie. If that isn’t love, we don’t know what is!
There is no better feeling in the world than knowing for certain that there is someone who truly loves us back, but we can all get a little unsure at times. [Read: Cooking as a couple – romantic tips and date ideas to have fun together]
30. She remembers details pertaining to you
She is taking mental notes of everything you’ve ever said about yourself so she can remember every little detail. Whether it’s that you had an imaginary friend as a child or what your favorite beer is, she remembers it all. If she didn’t love you, she wouldn’t bother remembering all those things about you.
31. She thinks you’re perfect
Of course, no one is perfect. But if she has rose-colored glasses on with you and puts you on a pedestal, then there’s a great chance she is in love with you. She will even tell you how perfect you are and give you endless compliments. This is a huge sign to watch out for.
32. She’s honest with you
It’s not easy for people to be 100% honest sometimes. That’s because there are always things that they have done in the past that they’re not particularly proud of.
But if she’s talking to you and telling you things that you don’t think she has shared with other people, then she really cares about you, and it’s probably love that she’s feeling. [Read: Keeping secrets in a relationship – 42 must-know rules and exceptions]
33. She treats you with respect
Okay, everyone should always treat other people with respect. But let’s face it – not everyone does. Some people pick fights and call their partner bad names. So, if she’s always respectful to you and never does anything to harm you, then that’s probably because she loves you.
34. She shows physical affection by touch
Most girls like physical affection. They like to hold hands, cuddle, and spoon at night. Of course, she wants you to do that too.
But when a girl is around the man she likes, she naturally expresses her affection by using touch with her man. It’s a way she expresses love and is instinctual as part of our human mating drives.
35. She dresses up for you
She feels lucky to have you, so she wants to look her best. It’s much more important to her that you think she’s hot enough to lust after. So, she puts in extra effort to look good around you.
If she didn’t care so much, she wouldn’t bother getting all dolled up every time she sees you. [Read: 20 sexy ways to flirt with your girlfriend and make her feel desired]
36. She laughs at your jokes
You may or may not be the funniest guy in the world. But if you find that she laughs at everything you say when you’re trying to crack a joke or tease her, then you know she’s very smitten with you. Girls don’t laugh at dumb jokes unless they are really into a guy.
37. Her voice gets higher
Research has found that when girls like or love a guy, their voice tends to get higher. They theorize that this is because it triggers the protective instincts in a man. So, if you notice her voice getting higher around you, then that could be a good sign that she loves you. [Read: Different ways to say I love you without saying a word]
38. Her pupils dilate
Another physical reaction that indicates a girl loves someone is that their pupils dilate when they make eye contact with you. It’s just an unconscious thing that happens to someone who’s aroused and may be in love with a specific person. So, check out her eyes and decide for yourself.
39. She tells you!
If a girl tells you that she’s fallen for you, then believe it! And say it back, too, if you feel the same way and are ready to reciprocate the feelings!
[Read: When should you say “I love you” for the first time?]
These 39 signs are fantastic ways to find out whether the woman of your dreams feels the same way, too. If you are in doubt as to whether she loves you back, just go through this list and see if any–or all of them–apply to you.
