How to Flirt with Your Girlfriend: Make Her Feel Wanted and Sexy

how to flirt with your girlfriend

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop flirting. Here are 20 fantastic and foolproof ways to learn how to flirt with your girlfriend!

We’ve all been there. That bit of your relationship where you’ve been seeing someone for a while and got a bit too comfortable. You know the feeling, right? When you realize you used to enjoy fantastic dates, amazing conversations, and flirting the night away before you jumped into bed for some hot and steamy sex. Now you sit in silence in your pajamas and eat your dinner straight from the saucepan? It is possible to reignite the flames and learn how to flirt with your girlfriend again.

Why effort matters in a long-term relationship

Unfortunately, most long-term relationships change with time. While there are lots of nice things about being totally comfortable with your other half, one of the negatives is you stop making an effort to flirt with one another.

Lack of effort usually manifests itself in the way you treat each other. While you still love each other dearly, you stop bothering to go on dates, spend evenings watching television, and barely talking to one another. Even when you do get out of that cozy nest you call home, you spend your evenings talking to friends and not connecting, flirting, or having fun in the same way you did. [Read: The 14 common reasons why relationships fail]

How to flirt with your girlfriend – 20 tips that work like a charm

Of course, just because you don’t do this doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with your relationship. However, it starts to be problematic for some couples who miss the passion and the spark they once experienced.

There is no denying that relationships take work. Keeping your relationship flirty is a good way to keep your partner interested in and attracted to you, so it’s well worth making the effort.

But if you’ve been in a bit of a relationship rut, what can you do to get that spark back and inject some flirty fun into your relationship once more?

#1 Tell her how attractive she is. If you haven’t complimented her in a while, now is the time. It’s hard to feel attractive if your partner never bothers to tell you. Make sure you tell her how attracted you are to her, particularly when you see she’s made the effort. But, also when she’s got no makeup on and just hanging out in her slobbing clothes. [Read: 100 sweet things to say to your girlfriend and make her feel loved]

#2 Show affection. Flirting doesn’t have to be about what you say to your girlfriend. It’s about physical affection too. Make sure that you kiss and cuddle her throughout the day. Take her hand when you go out and snuggle up on the sofa together in the evening. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved]

#3 Have flirty foreplay. Introduce flirting into your bedroom routine, being flirty and fun and teasing one another a little before you get down and dirty makes sex extra hot and passionate, and more fun too.

#4 Make eye contact when you’re out with friends. So, it might be that you go out and sit far apart to catch up with friends. You see each other all the time after all! That’s all well and good but make sure you look at her from time to time and give her a cheeky smile to let her know she’s still the girl that catches your eye.

#5 Try flirting over text. To spice things up a little why not get a bit flirty via text? This is a great way to initiate flirting if you feel a little nervous as you have all the time in the world to think of what to say!

#6 Be confident. Remember, confidence is everything. Even if it’s been ages since you last flirted with your girlfriend, now you’ve made the decision, go about it with confidence. Don’t worry about making a fool of yourself either. Worst case scenario is she finds your efforts sweet and funny. You still earn plenty of brownie points for trying. [Read: The 9 subtle differences between a confident and arrogant man]

#7 Be spontaneous. Often in long-term relationships the spontaneity stops. So if you want to know how to flirt with your girlfriend again, why not surprise your girlfriend with an unplanned date, or just do something silly and spontaneous when you are out and about?

#8 Turn off your phone. Make sure you aren’t distracted with day to day life. When you are together, turn off your phone and leave laptops at bay to make sure you give each other attention. And you are more likely to have a fun and flirty conversation.

#9 Smile. Sometimes something as simple as flashing her a cheeky, flirty smile from time to time works wonders. Why not give it a go?! [Read: 15 cute things to text your girlfriend when you’re missing her]

#10 Appreciate her. Being flirty isn’t just about winks, chat up lines, and being all touchy feely! Showing your girlfriend how much you appreciate her and how lucky you are to have her makes her feel valued to.

#11 Buy her flowers. Every girl loves a bunch of flowers and this flirty gift puts you in her good books for sure!

#12 Go on dates. Taking time to go on dates with one another reminds you what it used to be like in the very beginning. It takes you back to a time where flirting with your girlfriend came naturally.

#13 Write her a love letter. Something super romantic like writing her a love letter is flirting old school style!

#14 Get protective. Girls love to feel safe and protected when out with their men, so putting an arm around her or guiding her when you walk makes her feel weak at the knees. [Read: How to seduce your lady like a gentleman]

#15 Be gentlemanly. If you want to know how to flirt with your girlfriend the classy way, forget being the cheeky chappie. Instead why not try being a good, old-fashioned gentleman type?

#16 Leave notes. Leaving cute post-it notes around the house or even just writing a message in the steamy bathroom mirror is a super cute way of flirting with your girlfriend.

#17 Make her laugh. Never underestimate how effective humor is when it comes to getting that flirty spark back in your relationship.

#18 Give her your full attention. Remember if you embark on a flirty mission with your girlfriend put a proper effort in and give her your full and undivided attention.

#19 Get dressed up. Making an effort will not go unnoticed. Why not both get dressed up and go out somewhere fancy for a treat? [Read: How to surprise your girlfriend *and score some brownie points*]

#20 Have interesting conversations. Having intellectually stimulating conversations is another great way to flirt. Make sure you make time to actually talk to one another. You’ll soon find yourself flirting anyway.

[Read: The 15 ways you can make your girlfriend feel loved and needed]

Of course, if you are really out of practice it might feel a little forced and awkward at first, but stick with it. She’ll appreciate the effort you make regardless. Soon learning how to flirt with your girlfriend will come more naturally until it’s effortless and exciting—just like it used to be!

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Bethany Locke
Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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