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Wondering How to Get a Narcissist to Chase You? Don’t Bother!

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Wondering how to get a narcissist to chase you is nothing more than wishing for pain. It’s far better to avoid narcissists altogether.

The fact that the word ‘narcissist’ is practically trending these days doesn’t mean you should invite one into your life and learn how to get a narcissist to chase you. As someone who has been involved with such a person, let me tell you, it’s far better to avoid them completely!

However, there are some people who simply like drama. In that case, a narcissistic in your life will certainly add a dramatic element.

Narcissists prey on the vulnerable, but they’re also not too fussy about manipulating someone who is strong and confident either. It’s all too easy to fall into the clutches of a narcissist simply because they’re ultra-charming at the start. They charm you and twist everything, creating a life that you can’t believe is real. The thing is, it’s not real, it’s all a lie.

With that in mind, why would you be wondering how to get a narcissist to chase you?

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The very thought that someone wanted to have a narcissist in their life startled me… and worried me. It basically means that you don’t know what a narcissist is or what they can really do. Trust me, it’s better to avoid it. Find someone who treats you with respect and has empathy and love for you, the real kind, not the fake kind.

Wondering how to get a narcissist to chase you is like wishing for agony

When I was first asked how to get a narcissist to chase you, I was confused. Then I figured it out. The only reason a person would want a narcissist to do the chasing is because it’s flattering. This is someone who will pull out all the stops to charm the life out of you. Of course, that feels good. It will boost your confidence and make you feel like the most special person in the world.

The problem is, that’s what they want you to feel. And it’s the key to getting their claws into you and manipulating you from that point onwards.

If you’re wondering how to get a narcissist to chase you, I beg you to stop and think about why you even want this in the first place. Surely, it’s a no brainer?

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Let me paint a very real picture for you here. A narcissist will appear wonderful and charming at first, as mentioned, but as the weeks and months progress, they will slowly show their true colors. Then, when you wonder why they’re not being their usual charming “self,” they’ll revert back, so you don’t suspect anything.

In the middle of all of this, the gaslighting will begin. This is a form of emotional manipulation that basically causes you to slowly doubt and question your own sanity. At the same time, they will pull you away from your family and friends. As they start to wonder what is going on, and maybe warn you, you won’t listen, because you’re completely hooked by this point.

As the gaslighting and manipulation continues, you’re completely reliant upon your narcissist, and they love it. This is exactly what they wanted.

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Is a narcissist a bad person?

That’s a tough one. On the surface, it certainly looks that way, doesn’t it? However, it’s a little deeper than that. A true narcissist is suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In actual fact, the way they are isn’t truly intentional. Does that make it okay? Not at all.

Just because someone in your life has a personality disorder doesn’t mean you should put up with it and be a toy for them to play around with whenever they want to. By asking how to get a narcissist to chase you, sure you might get the initial thrill, but you’re playing with fire. They’re experts at manipulating even the strongest of people.

It’s far better get someone to chase you who doesn’t fall into the narcissistic category!

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Spot a narcissist and avoid as best you can

Okay, the fact you’re asking how to get a narcissist to chase you is worrying. I’m going to turn this around and help you to learn how to spot one, tell you why, and then you’ll want to avoid naturally.

The main feature of a narcissist is someone with a very inflated sense of self; however, the problem here is that you won’t spot it at first. They’ll be charming and might even come over as vulnerable. Listen to your gut! If they seem too good to be true, that means they are.

The next is that they literally have zero empathy within them. It’s not possible for a narcissist to love or care in the same way as someone who isn’t affected by narcissism. That means a relationship with a narcissist can never be real, honest, or healthy. It will always be one sided and will always mean that you’re under their control, whether you know it or not.

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Asking how to get a narcissist to chase you means that you want the power over the narcissist, but you’ll never get it. Narcissists are sly, and the only way to really get ‘one over’ on a narcissist is to come to the realization that you need to leave and do it. That’s the single best option you have, and there really is no other one available to you.

Narcissists also only want people around them who make them look good. Again, ask yourself this, if you want a narcissist to chase you, does that mean you want to feel good because someone has chosen you? Trust me, you deserve better than this and don’t need to be chased by a toxic person to know it. It doesn’t end well, truly it doesn’t.

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If you do happen to become entangled with a narcissist, your friends and family will start to warn you about them. They can see you changing and probably also see what this person is doing to you. Narcissists might be sly and manipulative, but they’re not perfect at their negative ways. It’s normally people on the outside who can spot what’s really going on.

The problem is, by the time your nearest and dearest spot these signs, you’re probably going to be so hooked on the narcissist that you won’t listen to them. Again, that’s part of their plan. [Read: What causes narcissism? The facts and theories to read a narcissist’s mind]

Now can you see why asking how to get a narcissist to chase you is truly playing with fire? Come on, you’re literally asking to be in pain! Why do you want that? Is it because you don’t actually understand narcissism? Hopefully by this point, you will know more about it than you did at the start, and if you want to learn more, I urge you to do so. [Read: 16 characteristics of a narcissist that gives them away instantly]

Becoming connected to a narcissist isn’t pretty, it doesn’t end in the way you want it to, and, no, you cannot change them. They have a personality disorder which cannot be cured unless they choose to cure themselves, which is extremely unlikely to ever happen. Seriously, focus your attention elsewhere.

[Read: How to quickly recognize narcissistic traits in a relationship]

Asking how to get a narcissist to chase you is almost narcissistic in itself! Don’t push pain onto yourself for no reason! 

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...

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