13 Signs He Just Wants to Be Friends Even if You’re Hoping for More

signs he just wants to be friends

There’s a time where we think he’s really into us, then… well… nothing happens. But the thing is, the signs he just wants to be friends are always there.

I’m here to show you the signs he just wants to be friends, but it’s going to be up to you to remove your ego and accept the situation for what it is: friendship.

Listen, no one wants to be in the “friend zone.” But the friend zone doesn’t actually exist. I know, you’re probably shocked, but it’s true. The friend zone was basically created to soothe our egos. But in reality, someone just didn’t want anything more with you than friendship. [Read: Is he playing hard to get or just not into you?]

13 signs he just wants to be friends

Now, they may have played around and teased you, which isn’t nice, that’s for sure. Still, they were never interested in something serious with you.

This is why you’re here. He’s probably been flirty with you, showing you signs of interest. But there are some solid signs showing you he’s full of shit. I know that you may be thinking, “but he did this” or “he said that.” But here’s the thing, if you see these signs he just wants to be friends, it’s time to get with reality.

#1 He’s not making any moves. Listen, if a guy likes you, he’ll do almost anything to be with you. I’ve dated a lot of guys, and really, this couldn’t be truer. If he’s just kinda there, playing around with you but not actually making any moves, then he’s not serious about you. In other words, he actually isn’t interested in anything more than friendship. And if he wants more, it’s only physical. [Read: 14 signs he’s playing mind games with you]

#2 He doesn’t flirt with you. Flirting is used as a way to develop sexual tension. Now, if two people really like each other, they flirt with one another. But, if this guy isn’t doing anything, not making any flirtatious comments or gestures, then he isn’t interested.

Of course, even if he flirts with you, that doesn’t mean he wants something serious with you either. Pay attention to flirtatious behavior but don’t just assume that he wants to be with you. [Read: 12 signs to reveal if he is actually flirting with you]

#3 He doesn’t really text you. Now, friends do text each other, but not on a two-minute basis. Sure, he texts you, but if he’s not texting you very often, he probably just wants to be friends. Think of it like this, if a guy likes a girl, he keeps in contact with her. But if not, then he doesn’t really care as much. He may like you as a friend, but that’s it.

#4 He introduces you as a friend. If he’s using words like “friend” or “buddy,” well, you’re a friend. If he was into you, he wouldn’t call you his friend because he doesn’t want people to see you as a free agent. By using the word “friend,” he makes it very clear that he only sees you as a friend.

#5 He doesn’t react to your hints. Maybe you flirt with him or touch him playfully, but he doesn’t make any moves back. He doesn’t flirt back, he doesn’t touch you–nothing. Well, either he’s awkward and doesn’t know what to do back or he just wants to keep you as a friend. [Read: Dammit, why doesn’t he like me? Here are 20 real reasons why]

#6 He talks about other women. If he’s showing you his Tinder account and the girl he wants to ask out then he’s obviously not interested in you as more than a friend. If he was, he wouldn’t ask your opinion about other women. He may tell you about his date or ask you what he should do next. Another huge sign you’re just friends.

#7 You tend to hang out only in groups. When you ask him to hang out, he never suggests to hang out one-on-one, it’s always in groups with mutual friends. Now, though he sees you as a friend, he also sees your feelings towards him. Even though he likes spending time with you, he doesn’t want to lead you on. This is why he avoids intimate hangouts. [Read: How to deal when he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship with you]

#8 You tend to make the first move. Now, he might call you to hang out, go see a movie, or coffee, but it’s usually you that calls him and arranges a time to meet up. If he never asks you to hang out, it could be that he doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression, so he steps back instead.

#9 He keeps his physical space. When someone likes you, they want to be physically close to you. But if he keeps his respectful distance and doesn’t try to get closer, he’s probably not interested. Maintaining personal space is a huge sign he only sees you as a friend. If not, he would find a way to get closer to you. [Read: How to decode his body language and if he likes you]

#10 He checks out other women. Specifically, when you hang out with him. If you’re both into each other, you wouldn’t be checking out other people. Instead, you’d be completely infatuated with your partner. But he doesn’t see you as someone he can be with. So, he checks out other women blatantly.

#11 He’s only flirty when he wants to hook up. Here’s the thing, he may flirt with you and show many signs that he’s into you, but only when he wants to hook up with you. If he’s only interested in spending time with you when he’s horny, well, he’s not even a friend. He’s just a guy using friendship as a way to get into your pants. [Read: Why do guys only want to hook up with you when you really want a BF?]

#12 You feel it. Sometimes when we like someone a lot, we ignore our feelings and the gut instinct telling us he’s not interested. Instead we try even harder for his attention. This is more of our ego talking. We want the guy we like to like us, and if they don’t it’s a hit to our ego and self-esteem.

#13 He tells you. There’s nothing clearer than him telling you he just sees you as a friend. Though you may feel shitty about it, this is actually the nicest thing he can do for you. He’s not trying to play you or give you the wrong impression. Instead, he wants you to know how he feels. Time to move on because he can’t give you what you want.

[Read: Why you shouldn’t turn your crush into a villain when you’re friendzoned]

Now that you know the signs he just wants to be friends, if this is the case, it’s time to move on! Why wait around if he wants nothing more?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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