Sometimes you may feel like the love is gone in your relationship. Don’t worry, here’s how you can defy the odds and get it back.
Everyone goes through periods in their lives when their relationship isn’t exactly perfect. Some go through this more than others, and it can often feel as if the love is gone altogether with no hope of returning.
But there is good news for those of you who feel like this is a reality. Love can always be found in a relationship if people are willing to look for it again. If you choose to accept that love is truly lost, then it will be. The first thing to remember is that if you want it back, you can get it back.
Keeping the love to begin with
Some of us get too caught up in our own lives to notice that we’ve let the best thing in it slip through the cracks. Instead of working so hard to get the love back once you think it has been lost, you should avoid losing it in the first place.
Communication and appreciation are two of the best ways to do this. If you regularly communicate with someone you love and show how much you appreciate them, your love will not be gone, and you won’t have to go through so much trouble to get it back. [Read: 15 reasons why you’re bored with your relationship]
How to get it back when the love is gone
Unfortunately, not all of us know how to do this. We might be in a situation where we feel as though the love is gone – permanently. If that sounds like you – which I’m assuming it is since you’ve found your way here – you can get it back.
Here are all the different ways you can get the love back in your relationship and spark those feelings that you had from the very start. It won’t happen overnight, but by implementing these practices into your daily life, you’ll start to feel that love rekindle. [Read: How to prove you love someone the right way]
#1 Apologize. The very first step to getting back the love if you’ve lost it is to apologize for that. Go to your partner and tell them how sorry you are for the way things have ended up. You’ll see them start to open up after this.
#2 Take responsibility. When you’re apologizing, take responsibility for what has happened. Explain that you don’t know how you let it get this out of hand, but you’re ready to make things right again.
Even if you think it’s all their fault, the truth is that it takes two people for love to be lost, and you’re just recognizing that you know you were at least partially responsible. Do this and then you can start to get the love back again. [Read: 10 steps to reignite the lost spark in your romance]
#3 Work to solve any outstanding issues. If there are any issues that may have been the cause of you two losing the love, you have to fix it. If there’s anything you did or they did, you have to get to the bottom of it, and repair the damage before you can hope to get it back when the love is gone.
#4 Talk to them – all the time. Like I mentioned in the introduction, communication is key to keeping a relationship happy and healthy. You have to talk to them about your day, your problems, and most importantly, you have to listen to what they tell you, too. If you do this daily, your love will start to come back into the relationship.
#5 Show your appreciation daily. If your significant other doesn’t feel appreciated, then the love is gone. You can’t feel love for someone who doesn’t appreciate you at all.
#6 Surprise them. Surprise them with little gifts and fun dates! Don’t let them think that you no longer value their happiness. Even slipping a cute love note in their lunch for work and surprising them in this way can do wonders to get the love back in your life.
#7 Find something thrilling to do together. When the love is gone in your relationship, it can be hard to get excited enough to do anything together. In order to get it back, you’ll have to find something new, exciting, and thrilling to do with them.
Take them on a skydiving date, to an amusement park, or do anything that gets your adrenaline pumping. It’ll help them realize that you’re the exciting person they fell in love with in the first place.
#8 Take them on regular date nights. You need to make time for them and JUST them. This requires regularly scheduled date nights that will help you to reconnect with them in ways that I’m assuming you no longer do. [Read: How to create sexual chemistry and make it stay forever]
#9 Remember why you fell in love to begin with. Think back to when you were just crushing on them without them even knowing about it. How did you feel? Why did you feel that way? Remembering these emotions can help put them in perspective for you, and you’ll be able to bring that love back easily.
#10 Relive your first date. Actually plan a date night that is exactly like your first date. Take them to the same place, have the same movie playing with the same snacks you ate – if you can remember – and show them that you want to start your love new again.
#11 Get your sex life back on track. Sex is a huge part of a healthy and happy relationship. If you don’t have a healthy sex life, you lose that connection with them and then the love is gone.
To get it back, start initiating intimate moments, and put their pleasure above your own. Doing this is a great way to bring that spark and liveliness back to the love you once had. [Read: How to stay in love forever with your partner]
#12 Admit when you’re wrong. You are wrong. Maybe not all of the time, but you ARE wrong sometimes. Admitting when you’re wrong and apologizing for it will make them see that you’re really trying to recognize your faults and notice their strengths. Then the love will soon find its way back into your relationship.
#13 Let them be right even when you’re NOT wrong. Occasionally, there may be an argument when you know you’re right about something, but they just won’t give up. If this is the case, you just have to give in and accept that they won’t admit to being wrong – even if they are. Sometimes, getting the love back is a lot about sacrificing your own pride. [Read: How to make a relationship last: 19 love commandments]
#14 Give them 3 honest compliments a day. Surprisingly, this can be the hardest thing for people to do. You’re so focused on seeing their flaws and faults since the love is gone that you can’t see their values.
Tell them 3 honest compliments throughout the day. It can be as simple as the dinner they made tasting delicious, or as big as telling them you’re proud of their accomplishments at work.
#15 Love them and show it. This seems like an obvious thing to do, but when couples notice that the love is gone, they don’t realize that one of the causes could be that they forgot to give their love. Love them every waking moment – and even sleeping moment – of every day and show them that you do. This will bring the love back.