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What Makes a Man Want to Kiss a Woman? 18 Traits to Intoxicate a Guy

Sexual attraction can be a mystery sometimes. So, what makes a man want to kiss a woman? Here is the perfect guide for how to know he’s into you.

What Makes a Man Want to Kiss a Woman

The whole dating, attraction, and crush thing might give you butterflies and feel great, but let’s be honest, it’s also confusing, appetite-stealing, and ultra-stressful at the same time. You like him, you think he likes you back, but you can’t be sure. He hasn’t kissed you yet, and you don’t feel like you can make the move and kiss him first. What makes a man want to kiss a woman then?

When you know what makes him want to kiss you, you can adjust your behavior and have him leaning in for the smooch whenever you want!

However, the situation is complicated by the fact that not all guys are the same. What might make one guy weak at the knees may have zero effect on another.

Who said this whole situation was easy?! The only way forward is to go with the general approach. So let’s check out exactly what makes a man want to kiss a woman, then you can use what you’ve learned and have him in the palm of your hand.

[Read: The perfect first kiss: The 22 tips to make it amazing]

What makes a man want to kiss a woman and deeply lust for her lips?

Different people are attracted to different things. For example, you and your best friend might not find the same guy attractive because you have different tastes in men. So, how do you know what he is looking for when it comes to kissing you?

You want to get him leaning in, but you’re not sure how to go about it. While every single move may not work on every single guy, these are some of the ways to make a guy weak at the knees in a subtle yet seductive way.

[Read: How to get a guy to kiss you at the precise moment when you want him to]

1. Don’t give it all up at once

We’re not talking about sex here, because you really should have shared a kiss before you get to that point. We’re talking about telling him everything about you. There has to be a little held back and that’s what makes a man want to kiss a woman on so many levels. 

He wants to learn more. The way you’re standing, what you’re wearing, how you smell, it’s all building up to this crescendo of pressure that he can’t take. The next move is a kiss!

2. Be a little mysterious

Moving along the last tip, be a little mysterious. It’s super-sexy and makes a guy go crazy.

However, there is a line here. Mysterious means giving a little away, holding just enough back, and having that naughty glint in your eyes with a coy smile. It’s the combination that hits the spot. [Read: How to be mysterious and leave every guy smitten and craving for more]

3. Highlight your lips in some way

This doesn’t mean layer so much gloss on your lips that they shine from half a mile away, but it does mean subtly turning his attention to your lips.

A pop of red lipstick might do it, biting your lip might do it, or maybe a nude lip with a liner to accentuate and plump them up. 

Every guy is different. But drawing attention to your lips means that his mind is on moving closer and kissing you. [Read: Lip biting – What makes it so hot and the subtle secrets to bite your lips in a sexy way]

4. A good amount of eye contact

Eye contact means that you’re interested. If he’s holding your gaze back, it’s a good sign. However, staring is not a good thing!

If you combine eye contact with a bite of the lip, his mind will certainly be moving towards kissing. It’s definitely on the list of what makes a man want to kiss a woman! [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and extremely sexual flirting tips all guys must know and master]

5. Being approachable, but only to him

Make it a little easy for the poor guy! If you’re stand-offish and playing hard to get, he will feel far too worried about approaching you. As a result, you’re not going to get a kiss.

Simply make it clear that you want to talk to him, and he will feel more comfortable making the first move. The trick here is to make it clear that it’s only him you want to be approached by.

Avoid flirting up a storm with other guys. That won’t make him want to kiss you! [Read: 23 clear signs he really wants to kiss you and how to recognize the moment when he’ll do it]

6. Gaze at his lips

We’ve already mentioned highlighting your lips in some way, but if you gaze at his lips every so often, you’re basically showing him that you want him to kiss you. 

That gives him confidence that if he makes a move, you’re not going to turn him down. What makes a man want to kiss a woman? Desire and the knowledge that she isn’t going to push him away!

7. A few tactile touches go a long way

Again, it’s about confidence. Guys might seem super-confident, but they’re just as scared of being knocked back like everyone else. When you’re talking to him, a few playful touches to his arm will show him that you’re interested. 

When you combine it with biting your lip and eye contact, he’ll be more inclined to take things a little further. Of course, all of this also gets his engine revving and he’ll definitely want to kiss you! [Read: 22 subtle ways to touch a guy on a date and in bed and turn him on in seconds]

8. Have confidence

Attraction is so much more than just how someone looks. Sure, it starts there, but having self-confidence makes a woman highly desirable to a man.

In fact, a lot of men would rather kiss a woman who radiates self-love, over a woman who is a supermodel but has low self-esteem. So, make sure that you exude your self-confidence so much that he finds you irresistible.

9. Laugh and smile

No one likes to hang out with a “Debbie Downer.” In other words, people like other people who are happy! So, when you laugh, smile, and have a great sense of humor, it makes a man want to kiss a woman.

He feels good around you when you are acting joyful, and that is very attractive to anyone. So, the more you can smile, the better chance he will kiss you. [Read: Fun questions to ask a guy to make him laugh and smile around you]

10. Flirt

Flirting means different things to different people. But it certainly will make a man want to kiss a woman. So, you should behave in a way that shows him that you think of him in a romantic way.

So, you can bat your eyes, touch his arm or leg, and laugh at his jokes. You can even flip or twirl your hair while you tilt your head and smile at him.

11. Smell good

Believe it or not, someone’s body scent can either attract or repel someone. It goes without question that you should shower and maintain good hygiene. But beyond that, you could try putting on some perfume. [Read: How to smell good and attract anyone you deeply desire]

The right kind of perfumes *ones that make you feel sexy, not give you a headache!* blend with your body’s naturally produced pheromones and increase your sexual attractiveness. Just don’t put on too much because you don’t want to overwhelm him.

Instead, you want him to have to come closer so he can smell you… and then go in for the kiss.

12. Look good

You don’t want to look like a slob around a man, do you? When a man wants to kiss a woman, he does it because he likes what he sees. So, don’t just focus on your smile and laugh.

Think about what you are wearing, how your hair looks, and what kind of jewelry you wear. The color red is also a very sensual color and draws men in. [Read: How to be sexy, look sexy and feel sexy without even trying too hard]

13. Share your photos with him

You could snap your photos to him, or even post a photo or use an Insta story to get the same effect. While you’re using all of these other tips to get a guy to kiss you, one of the most subtle and yet powerful ways to make a guy lust for your lips is by giving him the option to stare at your lips without you around.

And how can you do that? Very casual, but sexy selfies, of course! Just don’t make it obvious you’re trying to seduce someone with your photos though. That just makes you appear easy to get. [Read: The sexy thirst trap – How to master it without appearing too thirsty]

14. Great conversation

Sure, a man will want to kiss a woman based on how she looks, but equally important is what she says. He won’t want to kiss you if you are a total bore or are hard to talk to.

So, you should engage in interesting and deep conversation if you want him to plant one on your lips. Have some good questions in your back pocket so you are never at a loss for words.

15. Good listener

No one likes someone who talks all the time and doesn’t listen. Even worse, if a woman talks about herself and never asks the man any questions. So, make sure the conversation is two-way.

There should be a good give-and-take, and you should look very interested in what he says and convey that you are a good listener. [Read: How to talk to a guy – 34 tips to sweet talk any man and leave him smitten]

16. Kindness

When you are around other people, he will be watching how you interact with them. It’s one thing to be nice and kind to him, but he also wants you to be that way with everyone. [Read: How to be kind to yourself and others and love life instead of hating it]

If you show a little bitchy side to you, then that will probably turn him off. So, watch what you say and do when you are with him.

17. Genuineness

Men can smell a fake woman a mile away. And that is very much a turn-off for them. So, just be yourself.

Be genuine and don’t try to put on an act to impress him. You might not think you’re being obvious if you’re not acting normally, but it usually is.

18. Makeup

Just as important as wearing nice clothes to attract a man, you also should pay attention to your makeup. Let’s face it – men like it when women look feminine and “dolled up.”

You might be beautiful without makeup, but why not try some that accentuate your best qualities? So, use some mascara to bring out your eyes and as we said earlier, lipstick to highlight the lips that he wants to kiss. [Read: How to dress sexy – 29 subtle and classy ways to make them lust after you]

Or, you could just tell him…

It could be that the guy wants to kiss you, in fact, he’s desperate to. But he’s scared you’ll turn him down, worried he’s reading the signals wrong, or he’s just lacking in confidence. 

If you’ve tried all the moves, and you’re pretty sure that you want this kiss, just take the pressure off the poor dude and tell him! [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on]

Some guys love it when a woman takes control, so simply say in a playful manner “are you going to kiss me yet?” Combine that with a playful smile and all the pressure will disappear, leaving him free to just move in and do what you’ve been wanting him to do all night!

As before, knowing what makes a man want to kiss a woman varies from guy to guy. Generally, the suggestions above will usually hit the spot time after some time. 

If you’re vibing with the guy, if you think there’s a spark between you, and you’re sure that you want things to move a step further, you’ll usually hit the jackpot by displaying body language that communicates your desires to him.

[Read: What are bedroom eyes? How to master the art of seductive eyes]

You can make it obvious that you want to kiss him too!

Flirting is such a minefield. You can never be sure if you’re thinking what they’re thinking if you’re on the same page, or what is going to happen next.

Some find it exhilarating. Some find it exhausting, and some just find it totally confusing! However, those first few flushes of attraction are exciting. When it moves in the direction you want it, it’s a feeling like no other.

The kiss is the first major milestone. And when a man wants to kiss you and you want to kiss him back, that’s a confirmation that you’re both heading towards something, whatever that may be, and that you like each other in the same way too. 

Remember, he’s probably just as embarrassed or scared about the whole thing as you are, so don’t expect him to take the reins completely! Take some of the pressure off and help him out. You can kiss him too, it’s not against the rules!

[Read: 12 sensual and secret moves to instantly make a guy hard while kisisng him]

What makes a man want to kiss a woman varies from guy to guy. Nevertheless, there are some points that are pretty universal. If you use these suggestions, big chances are, he’ll be deperately wanting to kiss you in no time!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...