Signs He Thinks He’s Losing You: Is He Right About Your Feelings?

Your partner has been acting a little strange lately. But you’ve also been acting weird. What are the signs he thinks he’s losing you and your love?

signs he thinks he's losing you

Now, before we jump into the signs he thinks he’s losing you, let me start by saying that I don’t know your relationship with your partner. Sometimes, we try to get our partner’s attention by pulling back from the relationship in hopes of them seeing what they’re going to lose. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t.

When we pull back, we come up with all sorts of tactics and tricks to let our partners get the wake-up call we think they need. I get it. I’ve done it before. But, you know what, it didn’t work for me.

If you’re trying to get your partner to see what they’ve taken for granted, the best way to do that is by moving on. [Read: Being taken for granted? 71 BIG signs, why it happens & ways to stop them]

Clear Signs He Thinks He’s Losing You

Now, I know you’ll still want to know the signs he thinks he’s losing you. After reading these signs he thinks he’s losing you, what’s important is to ask yourself whether these signs even matter. If someone doesn’t see how special you are, why bother trying to get them to see that? Now that’s the question you need to answer for yourself.

Sometimes, this may be because you’re actually losing interest in him. At other times, it may be because your mind is occupied with something else.

Or the most painful of all, you’re hurt by the way you’ve been treated by him. And now you’re trying to distance yourself from him and are giving him the cold shoulder so he can see your worth.

On one hand, he may realize he’s losing you and start making amends. Or on the other hand, he just just start backing away too. No matter what the reasons behind your distance are, ask yourself if you see any of these signs in your relationship.

If they’re unintentional and you’ve just been busy, start focusing on getting closer again. But if you’re doing this to see if he’ll make the effort, well, you’ll know the answer soon enough.

So does he think he’s losing you? Here are all the things you could be doing that makes him wonder if the two of you are drifting apart.

1. You don’t reply quickly to his texts

You used to reply right away to his texts and phone calls, but now, it’s radio silence from you. [Read: 34 signs, why we feel disconnected in a relationship & ways to reconnect]

2. You’ve Been Spending More Time With Your Friends

You used to give him a lot of your free time, but you’ve decided to invest that time into other relationships. And those relationships are clearly more important than him. And he sees that, and he responds by assuming it’s one of the signs he thinks he’s losing you.

3. You Stopped Liking His Social Media

You used to creep on his social media, check what he was doing, like every post and story. But that’s come to a stop. It looks like you’re no longer interested in what he’s doing with his time. [Read: Signs of resentment in a relationship that hurts both & how to fix it]

4. You Asked For Space

If you’ve told him you need space, well, that’s a huge sign that tells him he’s losing you. We all know what space means, and when someone tells you that, you know it’s not going to end well.

5. You’re Suddenly Busier

You used to make time for him, but now he realizes you’re busier than ever. And you’ll start noticing the signs he thinks he’s losing you. Nothing has really changed in your life; instead, you’re giving your free time to friends, family, and hobbies.

6. There’s No More Sex

When you stop having sex with someone, that’s a clear sign something is going on. Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship, and when you stop that, you’re sending a message that you’re no longer interested. [Read: Bored in a relationship: 78 signs, reasons & ways to make it fun ASAP]

7. Your Plans No Longer Include Him

You used to make plans with him for the future, but those plans have changed. Now, it’s about you and your friends making plans, whether it’s traveling or taking up a new hobby. Either way, he’s not included.

8. Your Eyes are Wandering

You’re starting to look at other men in a different light. You’re feeling more free to flirt with them and maybe even give one of them your number. If he sees this, it’s clear he’ll show signs he thinks he’s losing you.

9. You Cancel on Plans With Him

You had a date night planned out, but you’ve canceled it. Maybe you wanted to stay home in your PJs, or maybe you wanted to go out with friends. Either way, you canceled plans with him. Do you like him? If not, why don’t you let him go?

10. You Started Saying No

Now, it could be that you’re trying to be more confident and define your boundaries. If that’s the case, great. But it could also mean you’re losing interest in spending time with him, which is giving him the impression he’s losing you. [Read: Boundaries in a relationship: 43 healthy dating rules you MUST set early on]

11. Talk to Him

If anything, you need to sit down and talk to him. If you’re trying to make him appreciate you more, or if you’re trying to move on either way, you should have a serious conversation. It’s time to be mature and have that talk.

[Read: 21 honest reasons why your relationship is drifting & why it happens]

He’s definitely going to be showing some of these signs he thinks he’s losing you if things are tense. Now, what are you going to do?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer, and the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degr...
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