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What Is an E-Girl? The Answers, Dark & Happy Sides & How to Be One

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The advent of the online world has made it easier than ever before to coin your own persona and use it to pretend to be someone you’re not. So, if you’ve been reading a list of the hippest new terms on the block and come across the term e-girl, you’re probably wondering what is an e-girl, exactly?

There are a million and one different terms for various people, situations, and characters these days. Frankly, it’s difficult to keep up.

It seems like every day there’s something else we should know about. If you don’t have a clue what a specific term means, it’s easy to feel like you’re being left behind!

Never fear, we all feel that way sometimes.

[Read: How to get to know yourself and reveal your life’s true passions]

What is an e-girl?

You don’t have to be a girl to be an e-girl, you can be a grown woman too. This term refers to a female who has an online presence of some sort. Lately, we’ve seen the term used alongside videos of girls on TikTok, wearing heavy eyeliner, blush, and emo-style makeup, mouthing along to music videos they don’t really sing.

In some ways, the term e-girl can be used as an insult. Historically, this was a term used to describe a girl who had a strong online presence mainly used to talk to guys. Those into the online social scene will tell you that the term still applies in some cases. However, it’s mainly been adopted towards the teenage TikTok crowd.

An e-girl is likely to be heavily made up. Think emo/goth makeup that was so famous in the ‘90s, and you’re not far behind.

As an added extra, she might have a heart drawn on her cheek. She’s likely to be into the Kylie Jenner trend of over-drawing her lips. [Read: How to be comfortable with yourself – A guide to not giving a f*ck]

At the end of the day, an e-girl is someone who uses a false personality to communicate online.

They might not have the sole intention of communicating with men, they might simply want to be sociable with other people and virtually meet others in a world they’re never going to be a true part of. Whatever their motivation, e-girls are famous in online circles.

Should we really be focusing on fake personas?

What is an e-girl if not a fake personality? It begs the question, should we be encouraging these fake personas, or should we be discouraging them?

Personally, we think we should be discouraging, but that’s a personal opinion. [Read: How to be yourself – 14 steps to unfake your life and love being you]

If you feel that you must be someone else to attract attention, then you really should wonder why that is. Do you feel that you’re lacking when you’re yourself? Do you feel that you don’t have anything interesting to say? Why do you feel you need to put on an act?

The online world is a strange place. Sure, it’s ideal for meeting like-minded people you would never have come into contact with. How can you be sure that they’re like-minded if you’re putting on an act?

The whole ‘what is an e-girl’ question is a common one because it’s so confusing to understand why someone would pretend to be someone they’re not.

Perhaps you disagree. Maybe you feel that if someone needs a little escapism and they find that in the online world, then it’s okay. True, but in that case, why not just be who you are? Surely, you’re more likely to find people you really gel with in that case? [Read: How to make new friends as an adult – 15 ways to do it right]

The dark side of the e-girl world

The term ‘e-girl’ was used to slut shame many years ago. It used to refer to a girl who only went online to speak to guys in a provocative way.

Thankfully, we’ve thrown that meaning of the term away, and it’s now used in a much more socially acceptable manner. There’s nothing harmful about a girl wanting to dress up in a little makeup and pretend to sing songs on TikTok, that’s for sure, but who are they aiming this attention towards really?

Is it for validation?

The online world can be murky. The people who follow e-girls may not have their best interests at heart. They may not be like-minded people who are into the whole e-girl scene themselves.

You have to be so careful these days that having a fake personality on an online platform can actually lead you to some pretty dark places if you’re unlucky enough to end up in that situation. [Read: Who are you? How to fine-tune your internal compass]

Be who you want to be!

Okay, we’re not a downer on e-girls. We say be who you want to be, but do it for the right reasons.

E-girls are celebrities in their own right, in some cases. Provided they’re connected with people who are honest, open, and genuine, then there aren’t many reasons to complain.

If you spend your spare time dressing up and heading online to connect, perhaps your time would be better spent simply learning to love who you really are and heading out there into the real world to connect with actual people?

These days, we spend so much time online and attached to various electrical devices. What happened to real, honest, raw connections with other human beings? We’re missing out on the here and now!

Our lives are constantly on charge because these devices run out of electrical juice. We panic, waiting for the green charge light to show, so we can get our electrical online hit once more.

It’s quite worrying in many ways, and we’re all guilty of it! [Read: 15 things everyone should know about living a happy life]

Yet, remember to live in the moment

If you’re fascinated with the whole what is an e-girl question, hopefully you’ll now have a slightly clearer idea of what this term really means, and what it most definitely doesn’t. There should be no term out there to shame a girl or a woman for having an online presence. But, it’s important to examine what that online presence is for and make sure that it’s healthy and true, not erring towards being someone you’re not just to seek some kind of validation from followers.

We would truly be lost without the Internet, let’s be honest. It’s a way to connect with people we would never have met otherwise. We can stay in touch with friends and family who don’t live close by, and find out information that we would seriously struggle to find out any other way. What did we do in the days before the World Wide Web? [Read: Social media detox – 13 ways to wean yourself off social media]

It’s hard to imagine those days now!

The downside is that we become so obsessed with everything virtual that we forget to live in the moment.

So, what is an e-girl other than someone who is courting Internet fame, purely because it feels good to have a small army of fans? Is it an ego thing, or a self-confidence problem?

Perhaps only the girls at hand can give the answer to that. [Read: How to be confident – 28 life hacks to transform your future forever]

Do you want to become an e-girl?

Maybe you’re reading this and now you know what is an e-girl, you want to become one yourself. As we said before, as long as you’re doing it for the right reason, go do what you want!

It’s fun to immerse yourself in the online world – heaven knows we’re living in a pretty grim real world these days and a little escapism can often be worthwhile.

Before you jump into the e-girl world, you need to think a few things through. [Read: How to describe yourself online – The 30 best and worst words]

1. Work out what type of e-girl you want to be

Do you want to be a gaming e-girl? A musical e-girl on TikTok? Know what your niche is and that will help you create your persona far more easily.

It’s important to have a niche and not to chop and change. If you’re going to choose TikTok, as many e-girls do, are you going to talk to people about movies or celebrities? Are you going to sing? Will you talk about makeup? Perhaps you’ll talk about video gaming.

Whatever is interesting to you, choose that as your niche and make sure that you stick to it. Consistency is key!

2. Choose your look

We know there’s a general e-girl vibe, i.e. emo-style and overdrawn lips, but what do you want your look to be? You don’t have to follow the crowd if you don’t want to.

So, make sure that you add in hints of your own personality in your look and choose something which makes you feel confident.

Again, you need to be consistent here, so while you can mix up your hair occasionally, your general look needs to stay the same. For that reason, choose something you’re comfortable with and that makes you feel confident. [Read: How to look hot – 18 sexy tips to take you from boring to flawless]

3. Hone your personality

The best advice here is to stick to your own personality but just hype it up a little. However, some people like to create a whole new persona entirely. After all, what is an e-girl if not a break from the norm?

In that case, work out your online persona and make sure that it’s well-practiced. You don’t want to break your character and confuse your followers!

Many e-girls don’t act like themselves during their online interactions. They’re playing a part and that’s what gives them confidence and makes the whole thing fun.

If you’re going to do this, make sure you know your part very well. For that reason, simply enhancing your own personality is far easier to remember! [Read: 20 positive personality traits that can change your life forever]

4. Sign up to some platforms

Depending upon your niche, choose a platform that suits it and get signed up.

For most e-girls these days, that’s TikTok but if you’re a gaming e-girl, you should look for Twitch or a gaming platform instead. Take some time getting to know the site and of course, check out your competition a little too.

5. Work out what you can do differently to the compettion

As you’re familiarizing yourself with the platform, you’ll no doubt come across some of the other e-girls who are in a similar vein to you.

In that case, you need to look at what they’re doing and work out how you can use a different angle. You don’t want to copy what they’re doing, you need to be different and original. So, use this time to work out what that is. [Read: 10 ways you can stand out from the crowd]

6. Take some original and high quality photographs

Before you start interacting with people, you need some great photos to put on your page and to show off.

Make sure they’re of great quality and they show you in your best light. Remember, humans are nothing but visual at the start, so you need to show off a little to catch their attention. [Read: How to take a perfect selfie and look great every time you take a photo]

7. Start posting!

Once you’re comfortable, you need to start interacting with people on the platform and creating content. Make sure that you post regularly and that your content remains original and fun.

Keep everything edgy and you’ll stand out.

The more you stand out for the right reasons, the more people will follow you and start interacting with you directly. It’s time to have some fun!

Now you know what is an e-girl, it’s time to start embracing the term or maybe becoming one yourself!

[Read: How to love yourself – The 23 best ways to embrace self-love and find happiness]

If you’re still wondering, what is an e-girl, head to TikTok or search for the e-girl hashtag on Instagram. It won’t be long before you find one and see exactly what we’re talking about!

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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