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15 Sweet Ways to Tell a Guy You Like Him and Win Him Over

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So, you’ve found that special guy but he has no idea you like him? Join the club! Here’s how to tell him how you feel and win him over in the process.

Some guys are just complete imbeciles *no offense* when it comes to knowing when someone is into them. For some reason, they think that the least interested person is basically fawning over them. This is seriously the most frustrating thing to those of us who actually are interested.

We can dress up, get our hair done, and buy a whole new outfit just for them, and they would still have no idea that we were in fact doing it for them. *Sigh* Doesn’t this exhaust everyone else when it comes to trying to get a guy to take a hint?

Finding a way to tell a man that he’s caught your fancy isn’t always easy—especially when you don’t know him ALL that well. And it’s even worse when you’re shy *AKA: me*. But somehow I’ve managed to get my point across just fine.

How to tell a guy you like him and win him over

It’s not always easy. Sometimes, men are so blind to everything other than their current obsession *cough cough, fantasy football, cough cough* that it can be like pulling teeth just to get them to look at you for more than half a second.

I’ve been there, done that, and have put all of my special strategies together so you can try them out for yourself. Here’s how I tell a guy I like him and *hopefully* win him over! [Read: How to get a guy to notice you and fall for you in no time]

#1 Straight up tell him. Men are very direct creatures. If you just flat out tell him you like him, he will obviously get the hint. Now, this takes some guts on your part, and it’s not usually the route most girls take, because they’re looking to make more of an impression. But hey, if nothing else works—go for it!

#2 Have an interest in his interests. One way you can show a guy you like him is by taking an interest in the things he’s interested in. If he’s really into music, talk about some concerts you’ve recently been to. He may not readily notice that you’ve taken up his interests, but he will start to see you as compatible—and that’s close enough in guy world.

#3 Compliment his looks. Obviously you find him attractive, so tell him! If there’s one thing that will get a guy’s attention, it’s telling him that you find him sexy. This will also make him take notice of how you look, and it will get the wheels turning in his head about you. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never forget]

#4 Compliment his work. Probably the one thing that men love to be complimented about more than their looks is their work. Tell him he’s doing a great job at whatever his current project is. He will definitely be grateful for the compliment, and grateful that you took notice. It’ll make him take notice of you, too.

#5 Ask him about himself. Whenever someone has an interest in another’s personal life, it’s taken as a sign of interest. Ask him about his family, his childhood, and his personal aspirations. He will definitely notice that you’re trying to get to know him more, be touched, and take it as a sign that you’re interested.

#6 Use body language. Men are way more in tune with what your body is doing than what your mouth is saying. It’s sort of sad, but certainly true. When you two are talking, lean in closer, flip your hair flirtatiously, and sway your hips when you walk away. These are all ways to show him that you’re interested, and he will definitely be paying attention. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and overly sexual flirting moves that’ll work every single time!]

#7 Smile more. Smiling is basically a universal sign of happiness. And if you’re doing that an awful lot around him, he will start to notice that you’re happiest around him—and that must mean something! And hey, if you’re really that interested in him, this might just be automatic.

#8 Make eye contact. Holding someone’s gaze is basically demanding their attention. Now, I’m not saying you need to have a staring contest; that might be creepy. But I am saying that you should make a point to look him in the eye. It’s a perfect way to get him to notice you and it’ll work toward winning him over. [Read: The complete girl’s guide to making eye contact with a guy]

#9 Ask if he’s single! I mean, if he doesn’t get the hint after that, then he’s hopeless and you should probably look for someone else. Just ask him if he’s seeing anyone. By being curious about his relationship status, you’re making it clear that you are interested in him romantically. If he has any sense at all, he will get the hint.

#10 Be confident. Confidence also demands attention. If you’re confident around him and you’re self-assured, he will take notice. Men love confidence and if you have it, you will win him over—no problem. [Read: 12 things guys like about a girl beyond her appearance]

#11 Talk to his friends. Guys talk to each other just like girls do. If you’re asking his friends about him—is he single? What is his background? What does he like? His friends WILL go and tell him you were asking. And they will probably do you the favor of telling him that you like him—because they’ll be able to tell.

#12 Laugh at his jokes—even if they suck. Science says that you’ll do this if you like him, anyways, but it doesn’t hurt to put in the extra effort. Laughing at his jokes is sure to get you noticed by him and he’ll see that you must like him enough to laugh at his lame jokes.

#13 Be a tad bit jealous—and let him know it. Men may not understand a whole lot about emotions *again, no offense*, but they do understand jealousy and the feelings associated with it. If you’re asking about a certain person that’s been spending an awful lot of time around him, he’ll notice the signs of jealousy and immediately know that you like him. He might even be flattered! [Read: Does he like you? 18 signs to decode his body language]

#14 Surprise him. Show up to his work with a cooked meal or his favorite treats. Surprising a guy in any way will show him that you’ve got a thing for him. It will also put you higher up on his list of favorite people, for sure. You will definitely win him over this way; after all, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

#15 Ask him on a date. If all else fails, ask him out! Get tickets for his favorite band and ask him to go with you as your date. Any guy in their right mind will know that a date means you like him. And you’ll get bonus points toward winning him over if you go to one of his favorite places.

[Read: 9 sneaky and really fun ways to get a guy to ask you out]

Sometimes men are just completely clueless…which can make telling them you like them a bit difficult. Take it from me: try everything above, and you’ll be sure to not only get your point across, but win him over in the process!

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Bella Pope
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4 thoughts on “15 Sweet Ways to Tell a Guy You Like Him and Win Him Over”

  1. Tuesday says:

    I am not very good at being direct when it comes to a guy so I may shy away from some of these suggestions. However I do think that I can speak volumes with my body language, eye contact, and my confidence displayed when around him. I know that if I show my flirtatious side with suggestive movements then he should get the message loud and clear. I also realize that eye contact is another way I can let him know “I want you.” Confidence in our growing relationship and what can be through planning special things just for us and taking the initiative to let him know I am the one.

  2. george resona says:

    I think if you really want to start a relationship with somebody, you should do it right. A romantic relationship cannot exist long term without a strong foundation of friendship- a genuine kind of friendship. Romance eventually fades away but friendship is forever. The problem with society nowadays is they are scared to be in the “friend-zone”. The problem is if you think you are in the “friend-zone” or if you think you’re going to, that means you don’t communicate with your friend well and don’t even trust him/her enough to say how you feel. I hate petty relationships- all superficial.

  3. Shelly says:

    I’ve found over time that guys tend to like the first tip. Just be upfront and honest with what’s going on in your mind and they won’t have to read between the lines and all those things guys just tend to really suck at lol. When they know where they stand, then they tend to be far more appreciative of the relationship as a whole, too. That’s how I dealt with my current boyfriend of three years and we’re slowly moving towards getting married. Hmm, maybe I need to be upfront about when I want to have that, too.

  4. Shelly says:

    So I was best friends with this dude. Probably the coolest guy I know and just an all around great person. Somewhere around 7 or 8 months into our friendship I developed feelings. They sort of came out of nowhere and really surprised me, because they were sort of an intense attraction too. Like, I’d only ever been that attracted to one other person in my entire life. He had pretty much every quality I was looking for in a partner plus he was incredibly attractive. I was too afraid to tell him how I felt because I assumed he wouldn’t be interested in being anything more than friends. We had a little bit of an age gap, and I didn’t want to make things awkward by telling him my feelings so I stayed awesome platonic best friends with him for 2 more years. After all these years of friendship I was getting to the point where I either had to spill my guts or back out of the friendship for a bit until I got my feelings until control. I ended up confessing to a mutual friend my feelings for this guy, and she told me that it turns out he felt the same way. So, I decided I’d talk to him about it the next time I saw him. Talking to him about it was probably one of the most nerve wracking situations I’ve ever been in, but I did it. The next time we were alone I grew a pair and told him, “Hey, so I like you. And if you don’t feel the same way that’s cool, we’ll just pretend this never happened.” And he goes, “I like you too. What do you want to do about it?” Now we’ve been together for almost 3 months and we’re both incredibly happy. He’s an awesome boyfriend and I love him a lot.

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