There will likely be many times in your life when you ask yourself, why do I like him? Maybe he isn’t that cute or he isn’t your type. Or maybe you don’t know him that well.
This can drive you insane if you let it. You’ll end up creeping on their social media and get nervous every time you see them. What will you wear? How should you style your hair? But, with all of that, you still don’t know why you even like him.
It can be a lot to handle. But, knowing the answer to, why do I like him? can really help you learn whether you do like him or just have a crush. Do you want to pursue something? Or will this pass with time?
[Read: Do I really like him? 13 questions to reveal the answer in 2 minutes!]
Before we get into why you like him, let’s discuss if you actually do. I can’t tell you how many times I thought I liked a guy and let myself get so worked up, just to realize I barely knew him.
So, do you like him? Maybe you like something about him. Perhaps you like what you do know about him. Or maybe you like that he is charming, funny, or even hard to get.
These things don’t mean you like him. They mean you’re interested. You may like how he makes you feel. You could like that other girls like him. But there is a good chance that when you think you like a guy, but can’t quite put your finger on the reason why, it is because you actually don’t. You just think you do for one reason or another.
Consider if you really like him before figuring out why. You could be on the way to liking him, or just forcing yourself to like him because he likes you.
If this sounds right to you, give it some time and see how your feelings grow or if they dwindle.
And, if you really do think your feelings are more solid than that, carry on and answer the question, why do I like him? [Read: How to know if you like him: 15 feelings you can’t fake]
Though you think the answer is easy, it’s not. There’s a lot that comes to mind when you think about a person you have feelings for.
In the beginning, you don’t really know why you like him. Maybe it’s his smile or his laugh. But usually, there’s something more to it. Unless he’s one of those crushes you never talk to but only drool over, there’s more to it.
So, if you’re asking yourself why you like him, look no further. It’s time you looked at some of the reasons why. It may help you understand your feelings and where they are coming from.
Let’s get to the bottom of it and answer, why do I like him! [Read: How to understand the science of attraction – 17 things that are far more sexy than just looks]
Let’s get right to it. One of the reasons you like him is because you find him attractive. There’s something about his face, his body; the whole package turns you on. He may not look like Channing Tatum or Chris Hemsworth, but he doesn’t have to.
Attractiveness is completely subjective. What you find attractive, someone else may not, and that’s perfectly fine! [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like?]
Well, this one is important. One of the reasons why we like someone is because they make us laugh. And, of course, this makes you feel good and happy.
So, naturally, you’re going to develop stronger feelings for him. If he makes you laugh and you’re smiling all day, this is why you like him. [Read: 12 types of humor and how it affects relationships]
You don’t see him as just some guy. No way. In your head, you already have the future planned out. You see him as your boyfriend, maybe even someone you want to marry. And these thoughts only fuel stronger feelings for him, which makes sense.
You want to make plans for weeks or months from now. You picture him at all your big life events and want to call him when you have news. You like him because he could be the one. [Read: How to know for sure if he’s the one who’s perfect for you]
When it comes to a potential boyfriend, you want a partner who’s honest with you. You don’t want to feel like there’s always something they’re hiding from you. Their honesty makes you feel relaxed, and that’s how it should be. You find him genuine and authentic.
You trust him and that has a lot to do with what your feelings are. [Read: 10 signs he’s a good guy and deserves your trust]
Now, you probably liked him before he met your friends or family, but knowing that they approve makes you feel even more emotional. Everyone has given him the golden seal of approval, and now you’re even more relaxed around him.
Not to mention his friends and strangers. When people light up around him, there is a greater chance you’ll like him. Whether he is charming, friendly, or just someone that puts everyone at ease, when he is popular with others, it tells you he is worthy of your feelings too.
When you’re with him, you two really talk. Not just about how your day was, but also about more personal things.
You feel like you can talk to him about anything, and he’ll be there to listen without judging you. Not to mention, he opens up to you as well. This is why you like him. [Read: 41 deep conversation starters for new couples who are just getting serious]
Whenever you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, he’s right there. And that’s one of the reasons why you like him.
He’s there when you need him. And even when you’re doing fine, he’ll show his face and make sure you’re okay. That sweetness is what makes you all mushy inside.
What can we say? He’s one charming guy who knows how to flirt. Of course, this is why you like him! He’s turning up the sexual chemistry, and you’re losing your mind – in a good way! He’s that guy that makes you smile when he sends a cute text.
That feeling of butterflies, tension, and giddiness is what creates a bond between two people. It goes beyond attraction. It is just the way he vibes with you that makes it hard to resist him. [Read: 15 intense signs of chemistry that reveal an instant connection]
This one is important. This is the one that makes liking him different than liking anyone else.
When you’re around him, you feel completely natural, like you can really be yourself. When you feel like home when you’re next to him, that’s when you know what you feel is true. Sure, he’s funny, cute, and smart. But when you’re beside him, it feels like you don’t have to worry.
Another reason why you like him is that he’s so woven into your life. He doesn’t just pop in from time to time. No way. If anything, he’s around you all the time and knows everything about you. You can’t imagine him not in your life.
Whether you’ve been friends for ages or he’s in your group of friends, you’re used to being around him. You may even work with him or go to school with him. He is already a part of your life, and you like that. [Read: Are we just friends or is he interested? 16 signs to read his mind]
Not in a creepy obsessive way. Instead, he makes sure you get home safely, doesn’t let people talk disrespectfully to you; it’s the small things. And when you’re around him, you feel safe. Of course, this isn’t the only reason why you like him. But it’s one of them.
When a guy cares about what happens to you and shows that with both, his words and actions, you feel safe and secure. That security really makes you like him. [Read: 20 qualities in a guy that make a really good man]
Sure, dating and having butterflies and nerves can be exciting, but the real feelings come out when you feel comfortable.
You know you like him when instead of nerves, you feel comfortable around him. You want to see him after a bad day so he can cheer you up. And you want to be with him on good days to celebrate.
You don’t just bond over a love for Harry Potter or traveling. Your bond has grown on many levels. You can crack up at the same jokes, complain about the same things, or really connect over your beliefs and ethics.
When you can keep things light and fun, or get deep with your conversations, it is easy to like him. [Read: 18 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get closer]
This may not be a good reason to like him, but it can be true. When you have a type, sometimes you like someone simply because they fit your comfort zone. Even if all your exes hurt you, you are more likely to fall for someone similar to them because it is what you’re used to.
Until you move on from the past and really figure out what you want, you may like someone because they remind you of someone else, even subconsciously.
You can convince yourself into liking him. Maybe he is sweet and cute and is just great on paper. All of that may be great, but it doesn’t necessarily inspire feelings. Sometimes, if you want it to work because he likes you, you can convince yourself you like him too. [Read: 15 feelings you just can’t fake if you truly do like a guy]
You know what you want in a man, and he fits that and more. He is everything your exes weren’t. He treats you right. You agree on the important things, but have your disagreements and handle them. He communicates well. You laugh together, and he shows up for you.
You may not have an actual list, but he just seems to have all the characteristics you want in a guy. [Read: 33 traits of a good boyfriend that’ll make him the best ever]
You just aren’t questioning it, at least not at the moment. When you’re with him, it feels right. You aren’t questioning his sincerity or your feelings. And the only thing you do question is if it’s too good to be true or it feels too good because you haven’t felt that before.
Sometimes, we don’t really know why we like someone. Maybe he’s not your type at all but, for some reason, you just happen to like him. There isn’t always a reason. Now, that could be a good or bad thing. Sometimes having no reason means your love is just so intense. That is amazing and romantic.
But, it can get dysfunctional, codependent, and even dangerous fast if you’re not careful. So, even though all these are reasons why you may like him, it doesn’t always mean they’re good ones.
[Read: What to do when something doesn’t feel right in your relationship]
Still questioning yourself? Why do I like him? Well, hopefully, now you know. So is it real or is it just a little crush?
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