Meeting a Guy at the Gym: 8 Essential Dos and Don’ts

Looking to find love and get fit while you’re at it? Here are 8 things to keep in mind if you’re looking to find a potential partner at the gym.

Contrary to popular belief, the gym is not just a torture chamber where we go to sweat away extra pounds, or, if you’re more fitness-inclined, a hub at which to train for your favorite sport. It’s also a hotbed of interesting people to meet, including many attractive, athletic guys with powerfully muscular or slim and trim bodies that are guaranteed to get you drooling.

If you’ve been trying blind dates, speed dating, online dating and other common methods of finding a significant other, but none of these have been working for you, your next boyfriend may actually be right in front of your nose, chugging along on an elliptical trainer.

Quite a few women have proven that you can even end up married to a guy you first spoke to in front of an exercise machine. If you want to partner up with a quality guy at your own gym and float off in an endorphin-induced state of bliss with this new man, there are some important guidelines that you need to follow, so the guys you interact with won’t think you’re annoying or insane.

How to attract a hot guy at the gym

Below are the essential dos and don’ts to keep in mind when scanning the workout room for someone you’d be interested in snuggling up with on cold winter nights.

#1 Don’t wear overly revealing clothing. A great deal of exercise clothing coincidentally shows off the body, by virtue of the fact that it’s often tight and is designed to keep you cool. But you shouldn’t show any more skin than you need to at the gym.

Few things look tackier than a supposedly athletic girl strutting around with her cleavage literally thrusting out of her yoga tank or wearing a sports bra that barely covers more skin than a string bikini. If you dress like this while working out, some greaseball might constantly ogle you, but most athletic men will think you look ridiculous and assume that you don’t take the gym seriously, which will be a turn-off for them. [Read: 9 silly things women do to attract the worst guys]

#2 Do wear attractive clothing. While you shouldn’t have too much skin showing at the gym, you should try to look attractive if you want to catch a guy’s eye. You can certainly do this while leaving the majority of your body to the imagination. If you can afford to, invest in some new exercise outfits in flattering colors at least every few months, and take good care of the ones you have.

When buying new ones, make sure you get the proper size, so you don’t look like you’re drowning in your gear or have been stuffed into it. You may love working out in the Mickey Mouse shirt you’ve had since you were 12 along with a ratty pair of sweatpants, but very few men will find you sexy if you show up at the gym in that.

#3 Don’t change your schedule to match his. If you’ve randomly gone to your gym at a different time than you normally do, and a certain guy happened to catch your eye, you may be tempted to change your routine so that you can see him more often. However, as you’ve likely picked your regular gym times in accordance with what you need to get done in a given day or week, it’s not worth it to inconvenience yourself in this way.

It’s okay to alter your schedule once in a while, but, for instance, if you start showing up in the morning instead of in the evening all the time, it’s not unlikely that he’ll notice. This may make him wonder if you’re a little bit of a stalker, especially if you give off the impression that you’re interested. Once you’ve been labelled as stalker material, all your efforts to rearrange your schedule will have been for nothing.

#4 Do complete your workout as usual. When a special guy does happen to be working out at the same time as you, don’t modify your workout in order to be closer to him or to get his attention. If you normally do cardio first, and weights second, stick to that, even if that means he’s more often than not on the other side of the room.

Don’t leave early, just because you see him head to the locker room and you think he might strike up a conversation with you on the way out. For those girls who like to work out intensely, never ease up your workout’s pace so you can look less sweaty for him. On the other hand, if he’s extremely athletic and you’re not quite there yet, don’t ramp up your efforts in order to compete—pushing yourself too hard could cause you to injure yourself.

Keep your own abilities and goals in mind, and if a sexy guy is really interested, he’ll talk to you when it’s convenient for you both. [Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable to guys]

#5 Don’t stare at him the entire time. Would you like it if a guy’s eyes were boring holes into the back of your head as you did squats, curls, and lunges? Won’t you start to find this incredibly irritating, no matter how hot the guy was? If you continually stare at an attractive guy at the gym, he might feel a bit flattered, but if he’s like most of us – he’ll also start to feel a tad uncomfortable.

When you’re conscious of the fact that you’re gaping at an especially fine member of the male gender, force yourself to turn your eyes away and find a distraction. Read a magazine, put on your earphones, or focus your attention on the gym television instead.

#6 Do let him know you’ve noticed him. Although acting like you’ve entered a staring contest is an absolute no-no, you should let the object of affection know that you’ve taken notice of his existence. If you’ve never spoken to him before, make eye contact for just a few seconds when you two happen to be exercising within the same area.

Smile a bit when you do so, and then when you pass him by on the way to another station, flash him a smile again. After a few smiles, make some small talk if you come upon him while you’re both taking a breather. If he’s a friendly guy, you’ll at least become gym buddies, and that may lead to something more. [Read: The all-in woman’s guide to making eye contact]

#7 Don’t get in the way of his workout. The majority of men will consider dating women from the gym, but the primary reason that most of them show up is to get a workout in, whether they’re in training for an athletic endeavor, want to get rid of a beer gut, or simply believe in the importance of staying in good health.

Therefore, regardless of whether it seems like your gym crush might be interested in you too, don’t hang around him too much while he’s getting down to business. Even if he doesn’t seem particularly bothered by this, he may become so distracted by your allure that he drops a weight on his foot or slides backward off his treadmill. You wouldn’t want to be responsible for his injury, would you? Things will go much more smoothly if you stay away until he’s on a break. [Read: 11 huge turn offs that will make him run away from you]

#8 Do accept his friendships with other female gym-goers. You may feel as if your heart is being ripped out when you see a man that you admire talking to or even flirting with other women. However, try to keep these feelings at bay while at the gym.

If the guy you’re interested in is so attractive, you shouldn’t be surprised that he would have other female acquaintances around the place. You may be tempted to leap off your machine and plant yourself in front of him when you see him talking to that insanely flexible chick doing stretching exercises, but whatever you do, don’t. You’ll just make yourself look like a jealous, possessive clinger and ruin any budding friendship or relationship that you may have with the guy in question.

[Read: How to get your crush to notice you and like you back]

If you manage to come across as a fit and fun sweetheart who doesn’t have a stalker’s bone in her body, a date and a relationship with your gym crush may soon be yours. However, if you don’t follow the advice above, your new crush may feel that he has to change gyms to get away from you! 

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