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How to Tell if a Woman Is Attracted to Another Woman

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It can be confusing, but do you ever feel like your female friend is hitting on you? Well, here’s how to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman.

I’ve been in situations where I checked out a guy. Suddenly, I watch him make out with his boyfriend. I didn’t know, I mean, prior to them making out, I had no clue. There’s also been times where I thought a woman was simply talking to me casually. Instead she was massively hitting on me. I think we’ve all had these experiences, and they’re normal. But this is your guide for how to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman or to you.

How to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman

Maybe you’re straight and just don’t want to send the wrong message, or perhaps you’re bisexual/lesbian and want to know the subtle hints behind knowing how to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman. Like with anything, there are signs.

#1 You feel it. If you’re a woman, and you try to figure out if your female friend is into you, well, you’ve already felt it. Come on, it’s time to listen to your gut instinct and intuition.

You know when someone is into you, and you know when they’re not. It’s that’s simple. Now, your ego comes into play and tries to distort your perception so that you don’t get hurt. At the end of the day, you know. [Read: Help! My gay friend is coming on to me!]

#2 A lot of compliments. It’s normal for women to compliment each other, but there’s a line when it becomes more than just, “Oh hey, I love your bag.” If a woman constantly compliments another woman on her appearance or internal beauty, well, then obviously someone has a crush. Think about it, when you like someone, you always try to tell them how amazing they are.

#3 She’s awkwardly nervous. When you really like someone, you have problems forming sentences. You’re stuttering, you’re nervously sweating, it’s mayhem. If she’s talking to a guy and she’s calm around him but then when she’s with another woman she can’t properly function, well, she’s probably not as into the guy as it may appear. [Read: What it means to have a lesbian fantasy as a straight woman]

#4 Remembers all the small things. Women pay attention to things that are important to us, just like men. People always think men and women are very different, but in this case, we’re very similar.

If you like someone, you’re going to remember every stupid little thing they said because you actually care. If you care, you remember. If she remembers those little details, sure, she could be a good friend, or she could have feelings for you.

#5 She stays close by. If you see two female friends together, they hang out but they also have time apart and aren’t anxious when they’re at a party talking to different people. They don’t care. But, if a woman is unable to leave the side of another woman, she wants her close by, she wants to be next to her. [Read: 10 answers to dumb questions that people ask lesbians]

#6 She gets touchy. It’s normal to touch your friends and people you’re talking to. Maybe you touch their arm when you’re laughing, but you usually only touch people you’re attracted to. I mean, I can’t remember the last time one of my female friends rubbed my arm while I was talking. See? That’s a good hint that she’s into women.

#7 There’s some flirtation. Women flirt with other women without having any sexual intentions, and it’s not easy to know how to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman. I believe that women are slightly more fluid than men. However, if there’s some serious flirting going on, that isn’t just for fun.

Flirting is all about building sexual tension, so, don’t be surprised if something happens. [Read: Flirting tips to get you some girl on girl action]

#8 It’s in the eyes. It really is all in the eyes. Everyone knows the look when someone wants to have sex with you. It looks like they want to rip you apart—in the single best way possible. If she’s giving you eyes like she wants to eat you, it’s because she wants to eat you. Just think of those moments you’ve had with people before they kiss you—that’s the look. You know it very well.

#9 You have all her attention. People may come in and out of the conversation, but her eyes are locked onto you. You have every ounce of her attention, and she could care less about anyone else joining your conversation.

You’ll notice this during parties since most people don’t have any issue socializing with other people. But, she doesn’t want to talk to anyone else but you. [Read: What is it really like to have a lesbian experience]

#10 She brings up your sexual preferences. Maybe you two never talked about your sexual preferences, but she brought it up. Now, why would she do that if she isn’t interested in you?

She may be seeing how open-minded you are and what your boundaries are. I mean, I have never asked a friend of mine if they prefer men or women or both. Never. Why? Because I’m not into them in a sexual way.

#11 She laughs at everything. Sure, you could be hilarious, but mix this with touching and flirting, and it’s not just because you told a good joke. People usually laugh at the jokes of people they’re attracted to. Now, like I said, you could just be funny, but if she’s rubbing your arm while laughing and looking deeply into your eyes, you know.

[Read: Is she a lesbian? 6 clear signs to know for sure]

Now that you know how to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman, it’s time to go out and see if you can spot them. If she’s displaying a couple of these signals, then it’s safe to say she’s into women. Now, that doesn’t mean she’s not into men, she could be bisexual. Not so easy to figure out, eh?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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One thought on “How to Tell if a Woman Is Attracted to Another Woman”

  1. The Truth Is says:

    Yes it is very obvious why so many of us straight men are still single today.

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