Sex is one thing, but do you actually know what to do to orgasm? You’ll need extra techniques to hit the big O, so read on for orgasmic tips for girls.
It’s time! It’s time to learn some extra tips for orgasming. Whether you are learning tips for masturbation or you want to please your partner, it’s time you understood these orgasmic tips for girls.
Orgasmic tips for girls
Yes, women have sex, but at the end of the day, only a handful of us actually orgasm. Kinda sad, right? I mean, it’s sad for everyone. Guys think that the women they’re sleeping with are orgasming, and well, women aren’t. To be honest, it took me years to literally figure out how to orgasm. I didn’t know how it was supposed to feel and what I should do to get myself to orgasm. Sure, guys tried and half of the time I faked it *sorry, fellas*, but eventually, I got tired of it.
So, what did I end up doing? I stopped relying on men to help me orgasm, and I experimented with myself during masturbation. You know, figuring out angles, pressure points, techniques. Sure, a guy could help me orgasm but how would they know what to do if I don’t even know my own body? Exactly. It’s time to hit the big O with these orgasmic tips for girls. [Read: This is why orgasms actually make you feel so good]
#1 Everyone can do it. When I was having sex, pre-orgasm period of my life, I tried to accept the fact that maybe it’s just not for me. Maybe I’m not meant to orgasm. But that’s bullshit. You can orgasm, and if some guy tells you that you can’t, he doesn’t know anything. You just need to figure out your own body and practice, because it’s not always easy or natural in the beginning. [Read: How to learn what turns you on]
#2 Relax. Here’s the thing, if you want to orgasm, you’ll need to relax. Now, you’re probably thinking, I am relaxed. I’m not talking about your body, I’m talking about your mental state. If you want to orgasm, you’ll need to learn how to mentally relax.
It’s like playing the piano. If you’re scared of screwing up, you’ll mess up the song. But if you relax, you’ll be able to get through the piece until the end. [Read: How to relax and free your mind during sex]
#3 Take your time. This isn’t a race, thankfully. No one is sitting in front of you with a timer waiting to see how long it takes you. Women take longer to become aroused to begin with, so, just chill out. Our sexual culture is usually based on men which doesn’t work for us because men have a shorter sexual response time. So, whether you’re masturbating or with a guy, go your own pace.
#4 Don’t think about him. Trust me, he’s probably enjoying himself. But are you? If you’re not, then what’s the point in having sex? You’re not a people pleaser! Of course, you want to make sure your partner is having a good time, but the only way to do that is to be having a good time as well. If not, you’re just a hole for them. Doesn’t that sound wrong? [Read: 16 sex tips for women to make it so much more exciting]
#5 Try it out alone. If you want to orgasm, you need to learn about your body. Yeah, sure, you can do this with your partner, but to be honest, the best is when you’re alone in your own space. That way, you can experiment and completely relax without having to worry about them. Self-pleasure will help you discover what you really need.
#6 Be expressive. If you want to really enjoy yourself during sex, then you need to be able to show it. When we’re enjoying ourselves sexually, it’s normal for us to makes sounds. They can be moans, screams, whatever. The point is, whatever you want to express, you should. Sounds can help in terms of communication as well. If you’re moaning, your partner now knows that what they’re doing is working. [Read: How to moan sexily in bed without sounding like a dying walrus]
#7 Use those pelvic floor muscles. They’re there for a reason and that’s when you come in. Inside your body, you have muscles which hug your genitalia. When you squeeze to stop yourself from peeing, for example, you’re using your pelvic muscles. The muscles then squeeze and rub your genitalia. Who needs hands! The more you use these muscles, the better it will be during sex. [Read: The complete guide to using geisha balls]
#8 Extend foreplay. Foreplay is extremely important. If you’re not wet during sex, it’s going to be a painful experience for you. And once it’s painful, that’s really all you can focus on which completely distracts yourself from orgasming. So, if you want to make yourself wet, you need to stretch out the foreplay and give yourself more time to become aroused.
#9 Breathe. Who would have thought that breathing would be so important? Well, breathing is actually key to having an orgasm. You should be focusing on your breathing, as it’ll distract you from thinking about orgasming. In addition, it will also help you to relax and calm down. So, it’s basically a win-win.
#10 Oral sex. If you want to be aroused, a great way is through oral sex. Now, what I’m talking about is your partner going down on you. If you’re struggling with orgasming, oral sex can help you become more aroused as it focuses on the clit. That way, when you’re penetrated, the feeling is much more intense. [Read: What oral sex really feels like for a woman]
#11 Masturbate more. Not bad advice, right? You may be already masturbating, but if you don’t know how to orgasm then you need to masturbate more. Practice makes perfect, at least that’s the saying. But seriously, you need time in order to learn how your body works and what works for your body. So, dedicate more alone time to yourself so that you can experiment with your body.
#12 Arouse yourself ahead of time. You don’t have to become aroused the minute you see your partner. No way. Instead, start ahead of time by sending him a sexy text message or photo. Not only will this put you in the mood before anything happens, but it will also show your partner what you want them to do to you. So it knocks two birds out with one stone. [Read: How to perfect the art of foreplay from afar]
#13 Try new positions. Here’s the thing, if a position isn’t working for you, then try out a new one. There’s nothing wrong with you if one position doesn’t make you feel aroused. Everyone is different, so find the positions which work for you. It could just be a slight angle change, and poof, it feels amazing.