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Do Women Like Anal Sex? Hint: It’s Not a Yes or No Question


Men are typically more enthusiastic and excited about anal sex than are women. But do women like it? The answer may not be as simple as yes or no.

The truth is that there are very few women who like anal sex. I know that is not something that many guys want to hear. There are many things about it that can outweigh the uncomfortable nature of anal sex and can make women want to try it until they get the hang of it. They may end up finding that it is a heightened sexual experience that they can’t get from any other sexual act.

But keep in mind, guys, that anal sex is uncomfortable. There is no way to sugar coat it. The anal region is designed to be a one-way door, and going the wrong way doesn’t generally feel very great. If you want to be able to enjoy it, then it’s all about the preparation and the mentality of it. There has to be some greater feeling that supersedes the pain to make her want to try it and even do it again.

The mentality of anal sex

The reason that men like anal sex may be the same reason why women do not. Not only does it confuse her body physically, but it is also mentally perplexing. Most women see sex in a different light than men. They see it as a way to connect and find pleasure in making each other feel good.

What she may object to is the fact that only one of you is gaining pleasure from it. A purely physical act, it doesn’t feel very much like love to someone who is on the receiving end of it. She may be asking herself why you would find pleasure in something that may hurt her.

The key to getting a woman to enjoy anal sex is to communicate how you feel and what it is that you enjoy about it. The internet is full of anal sex porn, but the typical experience of the women in those videos who appear to be loving it is not the reality for most women. Not many of us like to feel like we are nothing but an object. Anal sex can make a woman feel like her mind doesn’t even need to be present. [Read: The bottom of it: 10 misconceptions about anal sex]

Why do men want to have anal sex?

There have been numerous studies to find what it is about anal sex that men crave. The truth is that there is no specific thing physically that points to why a man wants to engage in anal sex. There are, however, many theories on the subject.

One such theory is that a man enjoys anal sex specifically because there is no possibility of pregnancy. That takes it out of the realm of an act with a purpose and turns it into one that is purely done for the raw feeling of it. Mentally, a guy knows that a woman is not having sex with him for the intention of procreation. Not a conscious thing, most men are unaware of the drive that leads them to want it.

Another theory is that it is that for a guy, anal sex is the ultimate way that a woman can give herself to him. It provides him with both power and dominance over her. In practical terms, there is no more intimate act that a woman can give to a man.

Although it is believed that a man is only guided by the purely sexual act without any emotions, it would appear that a feeling of vulnerability is a huge attraction for many men. [Read: Why do guys like anal sex and should I give it a try?]

Why do women want to have anal sex?

The reason a woman would want to have anal sex is mostly for the experience of it. Some explain that it touches the clitoris from a different angle. Like an inside-out feeling, it is definitely something that is like nothing else. From an emotional standpoint, if a woman is in love, she wants to give her mate the things that no one else can give him. Sometimes, anal sex can be like giving your virginity away all over again.

Statistics say that only about 30% of women will ever engage in anal sex. There are varying reasons for that. Not mainstream, not every woman is willing to be adventurous enough to give it a try.

Not socially acceptable to most women, the experience is a huge turnoff. Also, although many guys want to try it, the subject is not something they are comfortable enough about to bring up. There are still some stigmas attached to a guy’s wanting it. [Read: Does anal sex have to be painful? The ass lover’s guide]

The key to anal sex for both of you

The key to having an anal sex encounter is the ability to communicate. If you don’t feel comfortable asking for it or are worried about her reaction, then you have to first come to terms with your fears. Do you think that she isn’t ready, or are you ashamed of your desire for it?

Although only 30% of women engage in anal sex, some statistics say that as many as 70% of men desire to try it. If you want to convince her to give it a try, it is going to rest in your hands to communicate to her what the benefits are for you both. [Read: A guide on effective communication in a relationship]

Don’t have unrealistic expectations

Just like anything new, it’s important to have realistic expectations about how anal sex will feel and what the outcome will be. Since it is an intense experience, it may take more than one try and a lot of patience for a woman to find it pleasurable.

Be prepared for her to experience discomfort and know how to best react to it. Being responsive to her needs and respectful of her feelings will make the difference between her never wanting to do it again and it being a pleasurable experience for her.

Let her know that it is her choice

If you want her to experiment with anal sex, it’s important that she feels in control of the situation. Tell her in no uncertain terms that if at any point she wants to stop, it is her prerogative. Just because she said she would give it a try does not mean that she can’t stop it at any point. If you communicate that she is in control and that you will respond quickly to her needs, it will make her feel safer, less anxious, and more willing to relax, which is key.

Make every effort to make it pleasurable to her

Remember that what you see in porno is probably not the experience you are going to have your first time. Make sure you address her needs by providing her the stimulation that she needs to feel good. Stimulating the clitoris while attempting anal sex will distract her from the intensity felt and will also let her know that it isn’t just about you. Using vibrators to increase her pleasure is an excellent way to make it a more enjoyable time for her. Although it is something you are asking for, if you focus on her needs and wants, it can be a much better experience for you both.

The question of whether or not women like anal sex is a difficult one to answer. Some women report that it is an orgasm that is like no other, but it may take some time to get to that point.

[Read: The curious guy’s and gal’s guide to first-time anal sex]

If you want to convince her to give anal sex a try, make sure that you are honest and open with her. If she is willing, the key is going to be communication, your response to her needs, and focusing on making it pleasurable not just for you, but for her as well.

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