The biggest question most people have about anal sex is whether or not you can actually orgasm from it. While there is plenty of information on the web about anal sex, the answer to this highly sought after question seems to go unanswered on most sites.
Anal sex is becoming more and more popular in today’s society for a number of reasons. Firstly, it used to be considered extremely taboo. Only “slutty” people ever did it, and nobody wanted to be associated with that sexual act. Now, it seems to be becoming much more accepted and less frowned upon.
Orgasming through anal sex
You’ll hear a lot of different answers regarding this specific topic because when it really comes down to it, every person is different. What makes one person orgasm isn’t going to do the same for another. It really depends on the individual and how open they are to the idea.
Whether you’re a male or female, anal sex can be extremely pleasurable, but can it actually produce an orgasm on the same level as having traditional sex?
There is an argument for both answers to this question, so understanding both sides before coming to a conclusion about the correct answer can be helpful.
Reasons it IS possible to have an anal orgasm
There are plenty of people out there who practice anal sex regularly and enjoy it a ton. Those people will tell you that they can, without a doubt, have an anal orgasm. Here is why they find it not only possible, but easy.
#1 They think they can. Mind over matter! That’s not just something people use as a means to motivate themselves to study when they want to sleep. It’s true. If you tell yourself that you can do something and that it will happen, it’s actually more likely that it will. Many people who are able to have an anal orgasm do so because they believe they can. [Read: The art of edging: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms]
#2 There are other factors included. The majority of people who have anal sex also use toys—anal beads, vibrators, the whole lot. This not only mixes things up and makes it fun, but it also adds extra stimulation that’s needed to get to the finish line. [Read: 13 must-have couple’s sex toys for naughty first timers]
#3 In the right position, the G-spot can be reached through the anus. The wall that separates the vagina from the anus isn’t all that thick. In fact, if you’re in the right position *which is different for everyone*, you can actually hit the G-spot through that wall, allowing some women to reach orgasm that way.
Men also have a “G-spot,” so to say. It’s actually called their prostate gland and it’s located inside the anus. Men have reported having mind blowing orgasms from this spot being pleasured from anal penetration. [Read: Does anal sex have to be painful? The ass lover’s guide]
#4 The idea of it turns people on enough to have an orgasm. Some people have erotic fantasies about anal sex that turn them on so much that it really doesn’t take much more for them to reach completion after they’ve begun anal sex. There’s something about the primal aspect of this sexual act that has a lot of people feeling extremely turned on when they get to actually experience it.
#5 They have practiced it. Most people are not going to orgasm their first time having anal sex. It takes a while to get used to the idea, the feeling, and even figuring out what position works best for it. But people who can have an anal orgasm have practiced and perfected it enough for themselves to make it happen. [Read: The bottom of it: 10 misconceptions about anal sex]
Reasons it is NOT possible to have an anal orgasm
Other people will tell you that there’s no way they could ever have an anal orgasm. Although they’ve tried, it could never happen for them. These are the reasons why some people just can’t reach completion through anal sex.
#1 They don’t like it. It’s plain and simple, no reason to sugarcoat it. Some people just dislike it completely. If it’s not the idea that turns them off, it’s the feeling of it. It’s not for everyone, and those who dislike it aren’t going to orgasm… obviously.
If it hurts or if someone just doesn’t enjoy the sensation of it *since it is a lot different than vaginal sex*, they’re not going to have fun or find pleasure in it. And no pleasure=no orgasm.
#2 They don’t do it correctly. Having anal sex is a LOT different than vaginal sex. You can’t just slip in and let the fun begin. There’s prep work, it’s a slower process, and there’s a lot of trust that has to happen between two people in order to fully let go. Those who don’t experience an orgasm are missing something or doing it incorrectly. [Read: Risks and dangers of anal sex: What to watch out for]
#3 They feel like a “slut.” In order to have an orgasm *in any capacity*, you have to feel good about yourself and you have to feel sexy. Those who don’t orgasm from anal sex usually feel “slutty” or ashamed of what they’re doing. In today’s society, it’s hard to push past those taboo acts.
When you’re not in a positive mindset going into any kind of sexual act, you’re not going to feel as much pleasure as you might if you were happy and excited about it. So those who feel like they’re doing something wrong aren’t going to be able to have an orgasm. [Read: 10 reasons why women don’t admit to watching porn]
#4 They aren’t trying the right positions. Anal sex is a lot about trial and error. You have to figure out what works best for your body before you’re able to finish. Those who give up on the idea of having an anal orgasm usually don’t do enough experimenting to help themselves get there.
Certain positions are much better for anal sex than others, but it also completely depends on the individual and their body. Trying out a different position can make things much better, or even worse. [Read: 13 spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps]
#5 They don’t think it’s possible. The mind has a funny way of playing tricks on the body. If you truly don’t think you can have an orgasm through anal sex, then you just won’t. You can’t do something when your mind is telling you that you’re unable to. [Read: 10 surprising benefits of anal sex you had no idea about]
The short, simplified answer to the question of whether or not it’s possible to have an anal orgasm is yes, it is possible. Many different factors will need to go into the equation in order to make it happen, but you can do it if you want to. Just remember that being with a caring, trusted partner can oftentimes make all the difference.
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