Sometimes, what we want most is what we already have and don’t even recognize it. So, are you already in a cute relationship, or a not so cute one?
Most people have the wrong idea about a cute relationship. They want to portray a happy relationship, not because they’re happily in love, but because they want to project a fake sense of cuteness to make others jealous. *social media couples, anyone?!*
Now why some couples do that, well, they probably don’t know that themselves. But the reasons can vary all the way from wanting more attention, pretending to be happy to show off, or just to seek validation from others.
But if you’re truly in a cute relationship, people can tell just by looking at you two together. There’s a certain something about a couple in a cute relationship that makes people want a relationship just like theirs!
[Read: How to be a happy couple that’s envied by all other couples]
We all want to have a cute relationship. You know, the type where two people seem so in love with each other, finishing each other’s sentences, and seemingly can’t get enough of one another. But is that possible, or even real?
Often, the cutest relationships aren’t cute for very long. Reality and life creep in, and before you know it, all those cute things are the very things that turn you off the most. Maybe there are things about your relationship that other people think are cute that you don’t even notice. You may be in the cutest relationship and not even know it, yet you have something that people really admire and envy.
Other times, you may think you are in a really cute relationship. But not only is your relationship not-so-cute to others, it may even annoy them. In fact, people may even roll their eyes looking at the extent some couples go, just to appear cute in front of others!
If you’re looking for the cute relationship things that really happy couples do, and the ones couples use to fake cuteness, we have all of it here.
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There’s absolutely nothing wrong if you do any of these things. Sometimes, all of us indulge in these gestures and acts believing it makes us appear more cuter. Maybe you want to show off, or maybe you want to make others envy your relationship.
But we’re sorry, if you’re doing these things, you probably aren’t the cutest couple in town. You should know that you’d more likely be called a cringe couple than a cute couple if you do any of these. Consider switching some things up if you want to better your relationship, and actually be a real cute couple.
You aren’t cute if you’re ruining someone’s dinner by sucking the lips off of each other. Grabbing each other under the table, rubbing on each other, or generally doing things that you shouldn’t in front of others isn’t cute.
It only makes you look childish and makes other people uncomfortable. Save the excitement for closed doors. There are better ways to turn each other on. [Read: What is acceptable PDA in a relationship and what’s just not okay?]
There is nothing worse than *that* friend who refuses to admit that they never disagree or argue with their significant other. If you don’t have a single thing to disagree about, then either you’re not connecting at all, or there’s really no excitement in your life.
It’s amazing if you both are excellent communicators and problem-solve together. But saying you never have differences in opinions, that’s just you trying to be cute.
You aren’t twins, so why are you dressing like one? Dressing alike, unless it’s for a costume party, is just not cute at all. In fact, it’s a little bit creepy *well, unless you’re East Asian because it seems to be a rather big trend out there!*.
If it isn’t enough to see you eating each other’s faces across the table, now your friends have to put up with seeing 10 posts and stories everyday of you and your coochie-coo making out on social media. No, it’s not cute, it’s gross. Your friends may heart it, but you can be rest assured their eyes are rolling to the back of their head as they like your pic! [Read: The happy couple’s guide to real social media etiquette]
If you’re a couple, chances are, you’re sitting right next to each other and sniggering while commenting on each other’s posts with an infinite number of hearts and kissy faces. Why?! You’re literally next to each other, you can just say it out loud instead of posting those never-ending comments on your social account.
It’s like those couples who post really long “heartfelt” love messages on Facebook for their partner on their birthday. Share a picture, say something sweet, that makes you look cute. But if you’re writing a personal love letter for the whole world to read, you really need to ask yourself – who are you trying to impress? Your lover, or other people?
If a question is addressed to YOU, answer with I, unless it specifically involves your partner! If you’re answering every question with “oh, we love this…” or “yeah, we do that…” it’s not cute. It’s very annoying! [Read: 13 relationship mistakes new couples make all the time]
Do you and your partner plan vacations keeping your prospective Instagram photos in mind? Do you celebrate anniversaries and birthdays, not to celebrate the moment, but to splash photos of them on social media? Did you propose or do something sweet for your partner, and the first thing you did after that, was post the same thing online? You’re not in a cute relationship, you’re just seeking validation from everywhere!
Those couples that walk in the door and can’t ever leave each other’s sides don’t signal a cute relationship. If you’re so attached that you can’t be apart for even a minute, that’s a surefire sign that it won’t last.
Or worse, you’re in a codependent relationship and hurting each other’s futures with your behavior. You should never lose who you are as an individual just because you’re in a relationship. [Read: Am I codependent? The big signs you’re clingy and overstepping boundaries]
Calling someone “sugarbum” in public is not cute. It may be funny to you two or have some significance, but just like an inside joke is only funny to those who get it, your cutesy nicknames just aren’t cute to anyone else but you.
It’s okay to have pictures of your latest vacation on the wall, or a frame of your wedding day alongside other family photos. But if your home is covered in “us” frames, with quotes like “life laugh love” or some other fluff, it’s not cute.
To onlookers, that doesn’t show us how much you do together, it tells us that you may be more into the superficial side of making your relationship look good, rather than simply living it.
Using phrases so that your friends will overhear you so that you can prove how cute your relationship just sounds fake. Keep the cute phrases for text messages—we don’t need to hear them out loud. [Read: Sweet relationship goals all new couples need in their romance]
You should only have one voice to talk to each other, unless your partner is five. Talking in a special-weshal voice is not only annoying, but it can also make your relationship seem contrived and forced.
It’s totally okay for you to have fun in the bedroom by yourselves, but no one else wants to hear it. If you like to call it the thunder machine behind closed doors, that’s fine. But it isn’t cute to let everyone else in on it.
Dressing as a family goes along with the whole no-dressing-alike theme. It isn’t cute if you do it as a couple, and it’s definitely not cute if you’re trying to paint yourselves as having the most perfect family ever.
[Read: Are they too good to be true? How to tell if you’re dating a phony]
Okay, so maybe you’re guilty of one or two of the above qualities of a not-so-cute relationship. But hopefully, you’ll find many of these honestly cute relationship traits in your love life too!
Well, not all the time. It isn’t like you walk around panting at the very sight of them. But there are still times when you take a look at them and you get those same tingly feelings that you got the first time you ever laid eyes on them. Having an enduring attraction makes for a very cute relationship. [Read: How to have a good relationship that gets better with each day]
You are in a cute relationship when you can’t wait to share any good news that you receive with your partner. No news is ever as great as when you’re sharing it with them.
You don’t just get lost in the moment and celebrate with your friends. It’s almost involuntary, but your partner is always the first person that pops to your mind when you share any news. In the reverse, nothing can ever be as bad once you’ve told them.
Some couples can go all day, all week, or even years without ever sending a little, “Love you,” or “You’re hot” note. Not taking each other for granted and making sure you take some time out of your day to tell them how much they mean to you is one of the cutest things you can do in a relationship. [Read: Different ways to say I love you without saying a word]
When your partner talks to you, or tries to explain something to you, you can’t help but beam with happiness because of how lucky you feel to be dating someone as awesome as them.
You may be busy with your own friends, and your partner with theirs, in a big room. But you look for them from across the room often, to make sure they’re fine and having fun. And sometimes, you both lock eyes and smile at each other, just to give a mental “thumbs up” to each other!
You can’t keep your hands off each other. But you’re subtle about it. You hold hands, you make eye contact with each other discreetly, and you focus on each other first. You don’t make out to seek attention, you briefly touch each other, because you genuinely miss each other’s touch. [Read: 15 real relationship goals most couples have no idea about]
When you’re in love, and in a cute relationship, you don’t need to talk to each other to express anything. There’s so much empathy between you two already, that one look is all it takes to say everything that’s on your mind. If you can look at your partner, even when you both are in a group, and they know exactly what you mean, that’s definitely a cute relationship.
You don’t take anything your partner does for you, for granted. As lovers, you respect them, and they respect you. And most importantly, you compliment your partner in private and in public, not for others to hear you, but only to appreciate your partner.
When you love each other, you’re both each other’s best friends. If there’s something bothering you, you tell your partner directly about it. You don’t need your friends to vent about your relationship. [Read: 16 common relationship tips that ruin your love life]
There’s nothing cuter than seeing a couple sitting at dinner together laughing and sharing their day. When you look on the table, there aren’t cell phones buzzing next to them. There are just two people who are there because they want to share each other’s company and disconnect from all other distractions for a while. That is adorable.
If you’re in the midst of an argument and you are really, really, mad at them, but just absolutely melt and laugh at something they say, that is a really cute relationship. Cute relationships are about being forgiving and not expecting perfection from one another.
You can’t stay angry with each other. Sometimes, you may argue or fight, but you never ever forget that they are still the love of your life. You may be angry with the miscommunication, but you’re not angry with your partner. At the back of your mind, you know in your core that your partner would never intentionally do or say something to hurt you.
And ahem, though you argue, the makeup sex is still incredible, which is way cuter than having a struggle-free vanilla life together, for sure. [Read: How to make up with sexy make up sex]
Sometimes, it’s nice to get all dressed up or plan a night out together. But it’s really cute when you can simply look at each other and think, “We don’t need to go out, everything we have is right here.” [Read: How to be a good girlfriend – 27 ways to make him love you more]
If you spend more time thinking about what would make them feel happy than you do about yourself, you’re in a cute relationship. It isn’t that you’re obsessed with them; it’s that their smile warms your heart and and you get as much pleasure seeing them happy, as much as making yourself happy. [Read: How to be a good boyfriend – 33 traits that make you the best ever]
The cutest relationships are the ones in which both parties can forgive each other and not hold grudges. These cute relationships foster positive feelings with each other instead of getting in those resentment blips that make everyone feel very uncomfortable. [Read: 8 ways to avoid the awkward tension after an argument]
There’s something to be said for these little, maybe even old-fashioned, gestures that just instantly spells a cute relationship.
[Read: The cutest couple traits – 21 most unlikely but very cute couple traits]
A cute relationship is one that doesn’t have to convince anyone that they are the perfect match. They just live and love each other to the fullest, enjoying life’s little pleasures along the way. What could be cuter than that?
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