Understanding how to be graceful is filled with self reflecting lessons that need your attention.
If the whole idea of spending time in front of the mirror, miming and pretending like you’re having a conversation or learning to smile and pout puts you off, well, you’re going to have a hard time learning to be graceful.
You’re your own critique. And you can learn to be graceful only if you’re prepared to look at yourself in the mirror and pick your own flaws.
After all, all those perfect celebrities didn’t learn to walk with a graceful swanlike gait when they took their first baby step.
If you want to be graceful, here are ten steps you need to indulge in.
#1 Be aware of your own body
Even as you sit, can you feel the different parts of your body? Do you know the exact position of your toes or your back? Can you visualize the positions of your body parts look without really looking at it? To be graceful, you need to be completely aware of your body no matter where you are. Every move you make should be calculated and precise. [Read: Tips to get a guy to like you]
#2 Take dancing lessons
Learn ballet or any other form of dance like the salsa which emphasizes on graceful and calculated fluid body movement. While being aware of where your body parts are can help you be aware of your body, it takes the understanding of smooth motion to move and carry yourself with grace.
For starters, stand in front of the mirror and jog in one place. Do you see your body move about awkwardly or does it make you look like an athlete? You may think you’re moving perfectly while jogging on-spot or running about, but it takes looking into a mirror to see how clumsy unprofessional runners really are. [Read: How men really fall in love with a woman]
#3 Flexibility and yoga
Learning to be flexible can do wonders for your posture. Take a few yoga lessons and see if you like it. If you’re serious about good posture and total body control, yoga can help you get fitter, mentally and physically. There’s nothing in the world that can help you control your body and be completely aware of it better than yoga.
#4 Practice a good posture
No matter where you are, walk with a straight back that feels comfortable. While many girls prefer to learn to walk straight with a pile of books over their head, you can skip that if you think it’s over the top. But try it at least once to really understand how it feels. After all, it’s the best test to find your real posture.
Stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself if you like what you see when you stand with a straight back? Do you feel confident and composed?
#5 Watch and learn from other people
All of us have a few role models that we like for different reasons. Do you admire someone for the way they look or the way they walk? Or perhaps, is it their confidence? People who seem confident and full of energy always have a great posture. There are no exceptions here. [Read: 20 things that sexually attract a guy when he sees a girl]
If you really want to improve your posture, look good and feel great, sometimes, it may be easier to watch and learn from someone else.
#6 Lose that fat
There’s no bias here that obese women are ungraceful. But you have to understand how being graceful works. You can only be graceful if you are completely aware of your body and completely in control of it. You can control your muscles, but you can’t control the fat in your body because they’re not really controllable by your mind.
So if you have parts you can’t really control, you’ll have to work that much harder to look graceful. It’s easier to just shed the fat by participating in yoga or dance classes. You’ll have a lot more fun, look better and be graceful, all at the same time.
#7 Manners while sitting down
Be aware of what your body is doing no matter where you are. Don’t ever plonk yourself down heavily on a seat. Take your time to sit down in a calculated fluid motion and move back gracefully. No matter what you do, your motions have to be smooth like a dance routine. And don’t spread your legs after sitting down, instead cross your feet.
#8 Sound beautiful and polite
Everyone is drawn to a polite speaker who makes the other person feel comfortable. Speak softly and sound gentle. Don’t speak too fast, yell or indulge in crude gestures. Watch yourself in the mirror and practice your happy smile. It can definitely melt hearts. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]
#9 Walk like a star
Walk purposefully with an erect back. Don’t ever drag or stamp your feet and don’t be jittery or nervous. Take your time before taking the first step instead of walking about a few times and deciding which way to go. Move with grace, whether you’re running or walking. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance]
#10 Don’t be clumsy
Clumsy people have no control over their body. They have no idea how wide their butt is or how heaving their bosoms are. Don’t be that woman. To test your clumsiness, play a little game of hopscotch and see if you can control your body. Want to get better, play the game on your toes. If you can stand tall even after a round of the game on your toes, you’re definitely graceful!