To have a successful date that leaves both of you happy and excited, you need to learn the secret behind knowing how to be a good date. Find out here.
Dating and meeting potential dates is an intrinsic part of the single life, especially if you want to find that special someone for yourself.
Fixing a date may be time consuming.
But not knowing how to be a good date who can behave well can spell doom for anyone.
If you want to have a successful date, you need to understand how to be a good date in all its subtleties.
It really can be the difference between a happy date and a bad one.
How to be a good date and impress your mate
Everyone says the easiest way to find that special someone is by being yourself.
But is that really true? To a certain extent, it is. But not all the time.
You do have expectations from a date and the person you’re meeting.
And the person you’re meeting has the same expectations too.
If by choosing to be yourself, you overlook the few things that really matter, the odds of pleasing your date may go downhill.
How can you be a good date?
Be yourself, but always remember the few things that really matter when it comes to being a good date.
These tips on being a perfect date are simple, but ones that are easily overlooked. Use them the next time you’re on a date, and both of you will have a better time that may lead to something even better. [Read: Best places to go on a first date]
The rule of the sexes
If you’re the guy, be chivalrous and charming. Treat the woman you’re on a date with like a lady. She deserves all your respect and attention.
If you’re the girl, allow the man in your company to take the lead and make the decisions. Men love it when they feel like they’re in control of the situation. Help him feel more like a man and he’ll love you for it.
Avoid one line answers
It’s easy to answer all questions with monosyllables. But don’t do that. Both of you are on a date to get to know more about each other and figure out the compatibility. By answering all the questions put your way with one liners, you’re making it a lot harder for your date to converse with you. [Read: First date conversation tips]
Remember that your date is trying their best to keep a conversation going. Help out by answering a question that would give more opportunities for more questions and conversations over the date.
Focus on your date
Learn to focus on your date, no matter what. If you’re going to exchange glances with other good lookers, it would be extremely disrespectful to your date. And they’re definitely going to treat you badly too. So instead of ending a date in a bad way or wondering why there’s so much hostility in the air, pay attention to your date.
And even if you do bump into a friend and stop to speak, excuse yourself in about thirty seconds unless you have no choice.
Don’t answer your phone
Everyone knows this. But do you? Answering the phone and having a long conversation on it while watching your date play with their food may seem like fun, but it’s also something that’ll end the date midway. Don’t ever answer your phone on a date, unless you really have to. And even if you do, end your phone conversation as soon as possible. [Read: How to get to know someone on a date]
Talking about yourself
There’s a thin line between talking about yourself and bragging about yourself. Tread that line carefully if you want to be a good date and make the evening work in your favor. Never talk about yourself in a manner that can seem boastful. Keep touchy subjects like your paycheck and your car away for another day. But if you do want to show off your money or your job, be discreet about it and wait for your date to bring up the questions by creating conversations that stray towards those touchy subjects. By doing that, you’d actually seem like the humble one!
Don’t dress down
Dressing casual may seem like the perfect attire to dress up for a first date, but if you’ve planned for dinner or a meeting at a swanky lounge, always dress your best. Don’t ever dress down or look even remotely shabby. Look good and smell good, it makes you more appealing and worthy of your date.
You may be late or in a hurry to get to meet your date on time, but that’s no excuse to be dressed badly. Don’t ever embarrass your date by dressing casually or in a hurry, especially if your date’s taken their time to look their best for you.
Who’s going to pay?
The guy pays. He always does.
If you’re the woman in the date, thank your date for a wonderful time but don’t reach out for your wallet. Dating may be expensive, but that’s no excuse for a guy to treat a woman he may eventually go out with like she’s a friend. Paying for dinner is a small sign of appreciation a man has to display to thank the woman he’s with. If he can’t afford dinner, can he really afford to date you and go out with you on a regular basis?
Now this is a controversial and touchy subject in dating etiquette, but men, trust us. Pay for dinner. It’s the right thing to do.
Where’s your game face?
Put on your best side, no matter how the date goes. The first impression is the most important one. But sometimes, a date could be an uncut diamond in the dirt just waiting to be revealed. Even if they’re shy or timid, be warm. Unless they’re obnoxious oafs, try to have a good time. [Read: Revealing questions to ask on a date]
Never reveal your disappointment
Don’t show your disappointment. You may think you’ve snagged a bad date, but learn to put up with it. You never know how the date could progress if all you want to do is pout, grumble and throw a hissy fit. And even if your date doesn’t fit your description of a perfect date, it gives you no excuse to insult someone or make them feel bad about it. [Read: How to end a date the right way]
Mind your P’s and Q’s
Always be on your best behavior. Help your date out and make them feel comfortable and happy to be with you. And always remember to thank your date, even if they don’t go out of their way to help you. Being a gracious dater who knows how to treat a date can make your date feel better, and you a better person. [Read: How to start a new relationship perfectly]
Use these tips on how to be a good date the next time you meet someone new. You’ll see how exciting and enjoyable a date can become in no time when both of you go out of your ways to make the other person feel better.