How Men Think When it Comes to Love and Relationships

how men think about relationships

Ever wondered how men think about relationships? Understand the way a man’s mind works and you’ll be able to read him like a book, all the time.

There are so many things about a man’s mind that makes him predictable and easy to understand.

Have you ever wondered about how men think, especially when it comes to relationships and the opposite sex?

Sometimes, just understanding the way most men think can make life a lot easier for women when it comes to impressing a man, or even flattering him.

How men think

You may try to win a man’s heart, or make a deep impression on him or you may even want to change him to suit your whims and fancies.

Instead of trying to change your man to become your definition of a dream man, just use these simple tips.

And everything will fall perfectly into place, just as long as you remember how men think.

Men think all compliments are true

If there’s one think a woman can’t go wrong with, it’s a compliment.

Almost all men think all compliments addressed to them are completely true.

Compliment a man and he’ll never think it’s a lie. Women may think twice about a compliment, but men always believe what they hear.

Compliment a man and he’ll appreciate you for it, and think of you fondly each time he remembers that compliment. [Read: How to flirt with a guy]

Do you want your man to start working out? Just tell him he’s got great shoulders, with just a bit of fat covering his muscles. He’ll start working out just to try and retain that compliment. On the other hand, have you ever found your man butt naked and checking himself out in front of the mirror? Chances are, someone’s told him he’s got a sexy backside.

Men are easily impressed

You may find this ridiculous, but it’s so true! Men may know it and even be wary of it, but they just can’t help it. Men are easily impressed by women who flirt back with them or exchange a flirty smile. All men think women who reciprocate their moves or at least acknowledge it are the nicest and prettiest women on earth. Want him to do you a favor? Just bat your eyelids and smile. [Read: What men like in women more than anything else]

But this doesn’t end with just single men. Even if you’ve been dating your man for a few years, just flirt with your man or tease him into submission. He may hate you for the manipulation, but he’ll still love you for your teasing and flirting.

Men think they’re the protectors

Men think of themselves as the protectors. Ever since the primate days, men have always been the hunters and the protectors while women have been the foragers and the nurturers. Rekindle that instinct in a man and he’ll love you for it.

Men love pleasing women, be it his girlfriend or an attractive woman on the street. Give him a chance to help you and he’ll fall in love with you for making him feel like a man.

Men think they’re alright with being treated as an equal

The modern man may assume that he’d perfectly happy in a world where women rule the world. But it’s just not true.

Men have always been the breadwinners and the ones who play a dominant role in the relationship. And when the tables turn and the woman plays the dominant role of a breadwinner, most men feel emasculated and vulnerable. When a man’s wife earns more than he does or yells at him in front of others, he can’t help but shrivel up or end up wanting to have an affair just to feel powerful again. This may make men seem like chauvinistic pigs, but it’s just the way they are.

If you do want to keep your man happy in the relationship even if you’re earning more money than him, never make him feel like he has no say or control over the relationship. Emasculating a man will only drop his libido and his interest in you.

Men think they’re emotionally strong

Men think they’re strong, but they aren’t, at least not inside the head. Men have epic egos, but those egos can be shattered easily. And once it’s shattered, it takes a long time for them to nurse their ego back to life.

Be it an issue with not being able to last long enough in bed, or trying to woo a woman who seems too good to get, if a man has one bad experience, it’s all he needs to stay away from the same situation.

Don’t ever shatter a man’s ego, he’ll hate you for it. And eventually, it’ll be the both of you that suffer in the relationship. He may sulk or pout after a ego shattering experience, but help your man-child nurse his ego back to life, and you’ll have a happy relationship where he’ll helplessly depend on you to make him feel like a better man.

Men think they care about a woman’s personality

Most men think they’re intellectual and deep, but they always fall for looks over anything else. Men are completely visual. It’s always been that way since men could think. Now what may seem attractive to one man doesn’t always have to be attractive to another, but it always comes down to infatuation at first sight for all men. But at the same time, infatuation and love are two completely different emotions for men. [Read: Stages of love for men]

So the next time you want to get that second glance or make your man listen to what you have to say, dress sexy. He may drool a bit, but he’ll still listen to whatever you have to say. [Read: How to be a seductress]

Men think they like a woman who makes the first move

Men may say they like a woman who asks a guy out. It may make their life easier when it comes to wooing a woman, but subconsciously men just don’t appreciate a woman who makes the first move.

Men think women who ask a guy out are too easy to get. He may appreciate the gesture, but really, are you not getting any attention from men? Otherwise, why would you jump on a man yourself?

Unless you make a man work for your affection, somewhere deep inside, he’ll always assume he’s the better one in the relationship who can get any girl he wants if he really tries. After all, he didn’t really have to fight off any competition to get you, did he? [Read: Why men like the chase]

[Read: What guys always notice on a date]

Men and women may think along the same lines in many ways, but not in love. Understand these tips on how men think about relationships and attraction because it can make all the difference in wooing or keeping a man committed.

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14 thoughts on “How Men Think When it Comes to Love and Relationships”

  1. Jack says:

    “Men think all compliments are true”. Indeed. Especially when they come out of nothing.

    “So the next time you want to get that second glance or make your man listen to what you have to say, dress sexy. He may drool a bit, but he

  2. Vikki Christina Sherane Saphire says:

    This is totally right! Men really do think all compliments are true, and this article offers great insight on men and relationships! Truthfully though, relationships are no fun because they always get mad when you flash the bartender for free drinks. The free drinks are totally worth it though! I am a proud of my ability to express myself as a woman, if I lived in a country like Iraq, I’d totally die!

  3. SpikedYum says:

    First of all, I just have to say, congradulations. No, really. I am very apathetic. Getting me to laugh is like getting blood from a stone, but somehow you done it. Really. I know some people say things like “I was laughing my ass off”, extremely exaggurrating, but truly, I was laughing so much while reading this.

    OK, now that is out of the way, I need to ask. Have you ever been in a relationship with a man, specifically more than one? Because at this point, you demonstrate how much you have no idea what men want or how men thing in regards to romance or the opposite gender.

    Men’s minds are predictable and easy to understand? Ms, you really do not get the irony in that statement with this whole article. You have clearly shown that women have absolutely no idea about how mens minds work. No idea. Given this article, you show that men have far more insight on how women think than women know how men think. That is clear by this article.

    The irony in all of this is just so astounding. You completely make it seem like a woman has to fliker her eye lashes and they’ll fall in love with the woman, saying how putting on a “sexy dress” will make men drool over you, and so many more “pro-woman/I’m so sexy” statements that when you later said “men” have big egos, I just died of laughter and a bit of sadness. Funny because of how much you stroked the female ego, then said men have ego problems, then sadness that someone could actually be this…Well, irrational is the only mature thing I can say.

    Let me express myself in situations in my life, applied with what you say men here are like, to show you how incorrect you are.

    I am above average in attractiveness. This was not due to being given a compliment by one or two women. No, no They didn’t say “you are so hot”, then I became sure I was. This happened gradually. I have been approached and complimented by many women. How they behaved is how I concluded myself to be above average in attraction. I would be sitting around not talking to anyone, and all of a sudden a girl would talk to me. She would flirt. Then there were times when women would ask myself out, barely even knowing me. Later on after much cases of this happening (took a few years), I came to the conclusion that I was attractive. So it did not rely on one comment, it relies on several, plus more.

    Women that flirt back makes me impressed by them? Why would I be impressed that a woman would flirt back with me? If I was to feel impressed by her, it would imply that she is doing something others wouldn’t, in this sense flirting with me. So I would be implying that I am impressed someone flirted with me, as it is uncommon…So I would be insulting myself. Am I impressed? No. Do I like it? Yes, as everyone likes people flirting with them, that’s including women.

    So if you flikker your eyelashes and smile, or acknowledge flirts, I think she is the prettiest girl? Where do you get this stuff from? As a man, this is completely invalid. You have no idea what you are talking about.
    It takes more than what you say it takes to get men interested in a meaningful or romantic relationship. A woman can be stunning and have a man think she is attractive, even may want sex with her. However, it takes far more for a man to love that woman than what it takes for a man to want sex from them. This is easily shown by how men will have sex with a beautiful woman, then be gone when she wakes up.

    “Men love pleasing women”…Again, men have egos. If I ever heard a woman say that, I would walk away. I don’t want such an annoying person in my life. If a woman is in danger, I might help her. Not because I think “Oh, I am some great guy surely to win her love and affection by protecting her”, I would be doing it to help her. If she is in a situation where she needs no protection or willingly got herself in a situation, I am not going to help her, I certainly won’t if she thinks that I should because I like doing it.

    As a man that has jumped in to help women, it has never followed by “I love her” or any such feelings. It has ended with “are you ok”, then go our seperate ways if they do not need further assistance.

    This part alone shows you know nothing of the male mind set. If a woman is shouting at us infront of people we will want to have an affair on them? What? No. The thing that will happen is either they will be extremely pissy, just as women would if humiliated in public (yes, women are like this, too), or they will leave the relationship. WOmen earning more will lead to them having an affair? No. You have no idea on what emasculates a man, you demonstrate that. A woman earning more does not do that.

    “Men think they are head strong, but they aren’t”. This was the part that sold to me that you hate men. You are extremely pro-female, and in all honesty, pretty clear you are a feminist, am I correct? That is how predictable you are.
    A man may be upset if he has had a reason to be upset, but don’t think that ever concludes with them never going to that area again. I have been told I have been bad at a few things, I retreated for a while, then thought “what am I going to do about it”, then learned to get better at it.
    Saying “men think they are head strong, but they aren’t”, then implying this is because of the way they act (in your opinion, which is false) after insulted, etc, is just ironic given that women commit suicide far more than men due to not being able to look attractive, unable to lose weight, and so on. Far more women commit suicide or do completely stupid things because they do not get male attention than vice versa.

    Then you go on to say that men only care about appearance…Are you high? Ofcourse at first glance anyone will only be interested in the physical aspects, as that is the only area they can know of the person. That goes for both men and women. However, if you are fooling yourself in thinking that looking pretty is enough for a guy to stay in a relationship or fall in love with a woman, then once again, you know nothing of men. I have known many attractive females that I would not give a chance mainly because they are not smart enough or are too superficial.

    Well excuse me, I have liked it when women make the first move. Most men do. Not only does it get their confidence up, it gives them an opening to know this person without having to fear rejection.

    The end says that men and women think differently in relationships and love, I have no doubt in that, however this is clearly not the male version of the mindset in love. Not even close. It is insult to injury when you say these are “tips”. These are not tips. Any woman that goes by this are going to have a severely hard time trying to get men.

    In short, you clearly have no idea on how men think. No. Freakin’. Idea.

  4. Frank Wunder says:

    For lonely beta males this list is spot on. For those of us who don’t care what female opinion leaders think…well this article was worth a good laugh.

  5. PDizzleDawg says:

    “So the next time you want to get that second glance or make your man listen to what you have to say, dress sexy. He may drool a bit, but he

  6. Dan says:

    Um, actually, as a man, I think all compliments directed to me are false. While I was on the market, I never once believed a single compliment from a woman.

  7. Denny says:

    @ Frank Wunder – Well, I must be one of those lonely beta males then, because I also thought this article was spot-on. Sure, it’s generalizations, but they’re good generalizations.

    For example, let’s address the part where she says “men think they

  8. cj says:

    Maybe men should be real men & not need women to convince them that they are good enough. Women should expect a man to win her heart. Men will only be what you expect of them. Same goes the other way, but that’s not what this is about. I can’t begin to express how stupid a woman is if she dressed sexy to get the lout to listen, if he doesn’t care about what is in her mind & heart, he’s not worth spitting on. I see women trying to sell this bs too, shame on anyone trying to manipulate others. PUKE I’m 61 and seriously, if men & woman don’t start treating each other equally, men are going to be the ones hurting. Everyone should attempt to be the best they can for their partner at all stages of a relationship, start to finish, every damn day like it or not. If you can not be honest & up front then that is NOT were you need to be.

  9. Gabriella says:

    lol… “alpha male”… This article is retarded and you’re deluded for just soaking it in. No offense. “Make your man child feel good, boost his inflamed ego and things will go great” dumbest advice ever, move on should be what she says. Denny, it seems you lack critical thinking and introspection and therefore have let mainstream ideas define you. It’s sad, but I’ve found that any guy who thinks he’s an alpha male is deathly insecure and weak at the core. And any woman with a bit of sense will not be interested. I think it’s a huge turn off the minute I sense ego. I just feel like I want to hurl it’s so repulsive. Not that I care for bashful cowards either, opposite side of the same coin, but rather a man who has a healthy sense of self. True, real confidence that comes from a peaceful and thoughtful place, that shines from the inside out. It’s rare, but it exists. A man who actually possess emotional intelligence and maturity. Most men only seem to know how to work out and discipline their outer bodies though, which is a complete waste if they’re a crappy person. Anywho, good luck with the complex.

  10. Gabriella says:

    why can you type??? …

  11. carrie says:

    This articles first mistake “Men have always been the breadwinners and the ones who play a dominant role in the relationship”

    Even if the man earns more money “a bread winner”, that doesn’t automatically give him a dominant role in the relationship. A healthy relationship is a mutual exchange, so there is no such thing as a dominant party.

  12. BBcrazy says:

    maybe you should quit assuming we are so unbelievably shallow we are not whether we let you in on this secret or not is another thing entirely

  13. Belapillai says:

    I honestly pity people who would believe this and ridicule the ones who wrote this.Please don’t believe this or you will be disappointed.

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