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Are We Dating? Read These 17 Signs Then Ask No More

Booty calls. *Hanging out*. Inconsistent communication. And you are probably wondering, “are we dating?” Read on these juicy clues to find out.

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Going out and dating may just as well be one of the best things about being single. However, this comes with its share of guesswork and complications. This is especially true when a guy you’re seeing is being weird and giving you all these funny ideas that leave you asking yourself, “Are we dating or just hooking up?” Does he just want to be your booty call or does he want something more?
While these questions swirl around in your head, it’s totally uncool to ask *and we know most will never dare*. So instead of wracking your brains about where this “thing” is going while he’s banging your brains out, why not take the mind games out of the equation?
Dating or hooking up? 17 signs to clue you in
Here are some signs that it’s more than just a fling thing, and something way more serious in the works.
#1 Planning on a Tuesday. You know you can stop asking “are we dating?” when he starts to makes plans to go out with you early in the week. Setting a date with you a few days beforehand also shows that he’s considerate about your schedule. While casual dating or hooking up is more of a last-minute – if not spontaneous – affair, him making plans means you’re worth putting on his calendar. [Read: 14 signs he’s genuinely interested in being with you]
#2 He shaves. There’s a certain level of effort that shows when you’re dating. He actually shaves and dresses nicely when you’re together. Of, if he’s invited you into his home, if he’s not cooking something amazing for you, he at least kept his place clean for you.
#3 It’s weird when the check comes. When you’re just hooking up, it’s natural to go Dutch and split the bill—like it’s as natural as breathing. However, you’ll know that your relationship has taken a progressive turn when either you or he picks up the bill – and you’re both silently left wondering about how awkward it is. [Read: Is it a date or are you just hanging out? How to tell the difference]
#4 Awkward introductions. So you’re out doing things together and lo-and-behold, your friend suddenly appears around the curb. You both stop and say “Hi!” and there’s this unsettling feeling when your friends starts to look at who you’re with.
Your date waits with bated breath as you introduce him as your friend, or you might even surprise yourself to admit that he’s your date, in which case he widely smiles in approval. Then you can definitely stop asking “are we dating?” [Read: 17 signs you should be dating your friend already!]
#5 Two straws, one drink. You’re both so comfortable with each other that you don’t hesitate to take a sip off his drink when he says you should try this new craft beer. With FWBs or casual hookups, you have huge suspicions as to where their mouths *and other parts of their anatomy* have been, so you would rather not exchange even a little trace of bodily liquids for now.
#6 Phones are out of sight. You’re definitely dating when he’s giving you 100% of his attention. You won’t hear his phone ring *he’s put it on silent* and he’s not glancing at his phone for FB notifications, snapchats, or tweets. You actually talk and have engaging conversations going. In fact, talking to other people is far from your minds when you’re together. [Read: Am I in love? 21 signs to decode that fuzzy feeling]
#7 “Good morning” texts. While easy hook ups are all about superficial sexts and “What you up to?” texts, dating means consistent “Good morning.” This means you’re the first thing he thought about when he woke up, and you actually welcome a worthwhile texting conversation with him throughout the day. He might even be doing this because he’s wondering about the exact same thing – “Are we dating?”
#8 You’re really friends. You actually talk about how your day or your week was. If you’re just in it for the sex, you’ll go straight at it the moment you see each other. You’re lucky if he even takes time to ask about how you were after you had sex. However, since he wants more from you than just your booty, he is genuinely curious about how you are and what you’re feeling. In return, you don’t hesitate to tell him about your day, and you’re equally concerned about how he’s doing too. [Read: Lust vs Love – Easy ways to clearly tell the difference]
#9 Hang with the squad. If you’re not dating and just hanging out, then your times together are often confined in the four corners of the bedroom *his or yours*. Like vampires, you rarely go out during daytime because you don’t want to bump into anyone you know. You can stop asking *are we dating* when *hanging out* to him really means you and him chilling with his friends, whom he already introduced to you.
#10 PDA pal. You also know you’re dating when he’s not afraid to show his affection in public. You go out and he goes all out as well. He holds your hands, hugs you, and whether he’s unaware of it, he just can’t get his hands off you – and doesn’t mind the whole world knowing it. [Read: 25 friends with benefits rules to remember]
#11 Ummm… technically exclusive? Heaven forbid you have *that talk* because you’re not sure just what to say, but then he has at least shown you that you’re the only one he’s seeing. Or maybe you’re the one giving him hints that you’re exclusively seeing him. Either way, it’s like this dynamic that you’re yet to define—but it’s there. You’re both trying to answer the question *are we dating*?
#12 It’s only you. Some guys may be telling you they’re dating you, but are really having one-night-stands left and right. You know that you’re more than just hooking up when your guy is seeing and doing no one else but you—and he doesn’t want to have it any other way. [Read: 17 sordid signs you’re just a hookup and nothing more]
#13 Getting personal. Anyone who’s after a no-strings-attached lay is only interested in your body. But if you’re really dating, the guy will be interested in whatever else is behind that smoking hot booty. He asks personal questions and is willing to share personal tidbits about himself too.
#14 One gets jelly. If while you’re still asking *are we dating* but you’re really just *hanging out* at some watering hole and another guy tries to hit on you, he’s immediately there cock-blocking the dude and blowing him off, with a greener tinge of jealous. Though he might not admit it *yet*, he feels a little protective and a wee bit possessive of you.
#15 Your shampoo, his shower. He doesn’t mind that you leave your shampoo and underwear in his place—in fact, he may have suggested it. He also has his gym sneakers and toothbrush in your place too. Basically, you have every essential toiletry covered for impromptu sleepovers. [Read: 8 subtle signs your fling is turning into a relationship]
#16 Sleeping in. So you sleep together? And by this, there really are times when night comes and you just sleep. No longer would *hanging out* mean just sex, but truly hanging out, and not all your steamy make out sessions end up with your clothes strewn on the floor. Sometimes, you’re just comfortable to be in each other’s company, and this goes deeper than just the need for sex.
#17 Shoulder to cry on. A guy who’s just into casual sex with you will disappear the moment you talk about your feelings. They’re basically just afraid you’ll bring up your feelings about him and he wants to avoid all that at all costs.
However, you know you can stop asking *are we dating* when you have at least cried on his shoulder after a bad day at work when you almost got fired.
[Read: 19 sure signs you’re in an exclusive relationship already]
Dating is complicated enough without the mixed signals that make you ask: “Are we dating?” If a majority of the things above check out, then the answer is simple: Yes, you’re dating! So give yourself a pat in the back, girl, you’re not going to be single for very long.

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Tiffany Grace Reyes
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