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5 Unique Traits that Make a Person Trustworthy

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Trust and dependability is an integral part of every strong relationship. If you’re wondering how you can be trustworthy, just remember these 5 traits.

We’ve all experienced people in our lives that are truly unreliable and dishonest.

It could have been an ex, an old friend, or someone you’ve worked with.

As we get older *and wiser* many of us get better at weeding these people out of our lives.

The result is the ability to focus our attention on healthier relationships, which bring us happiness and leave negativity behind.

Yet, you can do as much weeding as possible but still be left with an untrustworthy person plaguing your positivity and growth – yourself.

Whether you want to admit it or not, perhaps you aren’t as trustworthy as you would like to believe, and in any relationship – be that with a lover, family member, friend, boss or co-worker – being trustworthy can be one of most important values to uphold.

How to be a more trustworthy person

While becoming a trustworthy person isn’t something that can happen overnight, there are a few things that you can start doing differently in order to develop more trustworthy qualities. And in time, you’ll truly see yourself as a much more trustworthy, principled and dependable person. [Read: 20 signs you’re a people pleaser and don’t even know it!]

#1 Be dependable

Do what you say you are going to do. It sounds so simple, but some people still cannot seem to follow through on their word.

I have a friend that constantly makes plans with me and breaks them a few days later, or just never follows up. I’ve been promised numerous girls’ days, nights out to Italian restaurants, and trips to the beach that we have never actually succeeded in doing.

I find it annoying to constantly have to second-guess if the date will actually happen or not. It should be simple though – we’ve planned to go, so we will go. But that is often not how it pans out with her.

I know now to take all of her plan making with a grain of salt, and instead just pull through with plans last minute if it seems like it’s actually going to happen.

But how frustrating is that? It would be much easier if she did what she said she was going to do in the first place. In order to be trustworthy you need to do what you say, and be reliable. Bottom line. [Read: 18 insightful reasons why you don’t have any close friends]

#2 Be honest

Telling the truth, and being straightforward, is at times, difficult to do. But they are essential if you want to be a more trustworthy person. A person that withholds information, or doesn’t say how they truly feel makes it difficult for people to trust them.

An old boyfriend of mine would never actually tell me how he was feeling, or communicate his needs to me. It was extremely challenging that I could never count on him to just be honest and let me know what was going on inside his head and heart.

His refusal to be honest with me led me to feel like he was betraying me in some way. His dishonesty was hurtful and I didn’t find him to be trustworthy. I second-guessed his intentions, and therefore, it complicated our relationship.

Sometimes the truth hurts, but if you honestly communicate with people, you are seen as more trustworthy because a person can feel confident that you aren’t withholding something important. [Read: 7 reasons why you’re a liar and 7 ways to stop and change yourself]

#3 Keep a promise, no matter how small

When you promise someone something, you must honor that, no matter how small you perceive the promise to be. If you promised you would watch a friend’s football match, do it. Even if it means two hours of possibly the most boring game, order a beer, eat some nuts and make the most it. It might mean more to that person than you understand.

As well, most people deal with a lot of tough stuff in their lives, and often, don’t have enough decent relationships to feel secure in sharing. If someone confides something in you, don’t expose them *unless it is truly bad for their well-being, or life threatening*.

Keep the promise, and sit on the information they’ve shared with you. They will respect you immensely if you don’t go start spreading information that they’ve specifically asked you not to.

Most times, people just need to entrust things with other people, to feel connected. To be more trustworthy, be the reliable and honest person that can keep a secret safe. [Read: How to get over trust issues in your relationship]

#4 Have integrity

Trustworthy people hold strong moral principles, and stand by them. If you are constantly wavering on what values you deem important, and therefore bounce all over the place, it translates into dishonesty and unreliability.

For example, if loyalty is an essential moral that you find extremely important in a person, then you must be loyal in your own actions. Basically, you must practice what you preach.

#5 Stop gossiping

This suggestion is fairly straightforward, if you want to be a more trustworthy person, stop talking poorly behind people’s backs.

We aren’t in high school anymore, if you have a concern or an issue with someone, be mature enough to address them face-to-face. If it seems so petty that you wouldn’t want to speak to them about it directly, then you probably shouldn’t even be talking about it in the first place.

Gossiping isn’t just speaking poorly about people. It’s generally chatting about useless information. It doesn’t matter how many diets a co-worker has tried and failed. That should not be a topic of conversation over lunch. Truthfully, your co-worker’s eating habits are none of your business.

Instead, try discussing something intelligent, or something that could make a difference in our world. Rather than gossiping, why not have a discussion about why the government should invest in renewable energy, or spend less on their military agenda and more on social programs. [Read: 25 memorable life lessons to change and perfect your life]

How else to be a more trustworthy person

While these are a few key things you can focus on to be a more trustworthy person, there are other small things that you can do as well.

For instance, if you spend more time with good people, you will be less inclined to do untrustworthy things such as gossip, and go back on your word because you will be surrounded with people that won’t tolerate that.

If you hang out with positive people that are also reliable and honest, you are more likely to reflect those behaviors.

As well, do some homework and find out what exactly people think about you. You can candidly ask people in your life how trustworthy they perceive you to be. Be careful, you might get some brutally honest answers. But, even if you do get some harsh feedback, take that and go with it.

The best that we can do is learn from our mistakes and try to improve ourselves as individuals. Being a trustworthy person is difficult, but it is often the kind of character that other people want to be around and aspire to be.

[Read: 13 happy things you need in life that’ll ensure you’ll always be happy!]

Being trustworthy and dependable may take a while to grow on you, but when you make a conscious effort and keep these 5 traits that make a person trustworthy in mind, you’ll soon be the person that’s admired, respected and trusted by everyone you know.

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4 thoughts on “5 Unique Traits that Make a Person Trustworthy”

  1. Danny says:

    Yes, when you develop the reputation as the promise breaker, then that’s a real hard one to live down. This is exactly why I keep all of my promises no matter how insignificant they may be. I’d hate to be known as

  2. simile says:

    You are trustworthy if you know how to trust people. If you know how to trust people, you would know what they should do to make you not lose trust in them. Does that make any sense? every trustworthy person I know has someone they truly trust and that’s what makes them trust worthy. The golden rule applies to this and if you don;t know the golden rule, go look it up. It’s worth it.

  3. jk says:

    A true friend is hard to find. Every time I become friends with someone who I feel is very close like a sister, something always happens. I always end up meeting people who have hidden motives and want to use me to babysit or to take them places all the time. I have a soft heart and I would help anyone, but if I feel like I’m being used, I’m not going to stick around and just deal with it. I’m a very mature, trustworthy person who doesn’t like to play games. I’m also a very loyal friend. If my friend tells me some thing in confidence, they would not have to worry about me telling anyone even if I got mad at them. Or another problem that I have is that they want to gossip too much. A little gossip doesn’t hurt if you just need to vent about a mate or something like that, but if its negative talk about everybody then it starts to get on my nerves after a while. I always tend to meet people who are very selfish too. I’m not selfish at all, so I need a friend who is trustworthy, considerate, kind, loyal, honest, and someone who is a positive person. I guess these days, its just a little too much to ask for!

  4. Stre says:

    I really think that I am a trustworthy person. I killed my room mate because he told me to kill him. He trusted me to do it for him, and I didn’t want to break his trust, so I did it. I killed him slowly, just the way he wanted it. I cut his extremities off with a chainsaw and cut his dick as well. I just let him bleed to dearh. His last words were thank you.

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