Let’s be confident and strong women, shall we? Let’s make waves and never even think to apologize for it. Let’s embrace our pretty girl swag.
The term pretty girl swag may have been publicized when Ciara released her song titled, you guessed it, Pretty Girl Swag. But what exactly does that mean? Women with this quality have existed since the beginning of time, but we’ve finally found the words to define it. I don’t know about you, but I think it’s about time!
According to Urban Dictionary, which is always a good source of information *right*, pretty girl swag is often recognized as a smart, sexy, attractive girl, who walks with her head held high. She knows what she wants in life and how to get it.
A woman who carries herself with a sense of confidence is a woman that should be admired. It is always so easy to diminish our own worth, because it is difficult to acknowledge our strengths. Self-confidence is a skill that you work to achieve, it’s not simply handed to you in a box wrapped in ribbon.
It took me years to feel comfortable in my own skin, and some days are still difficult. The process isn’t linear. Some days are good, and some days are still bad.
A woman with pretty girl swag, is a woman confident in who she is, and where she comes from. She is a boss.
#1 A woman with pretty girl swag is bold. In 2018, if you haven’t taken advantage of your right to be bold, now is your time to do so. The women before us fought for the right for us to be unapologetically bold and not just so we can bake bread for our husbands that work hard to bring home the money.
Make waves, ladies. To have pretty girl swag means to be yourself through and through, and to not apologize for your existence. Something we could all benefit from doing.
I find it difficult at times to remember that I’m allowed to enjoy going to work and leaving the house. I don’t have to stay home and cook and clean all day. I’m a woman working in the business world, and I’m proud to be an unapologetically bold woman.
To have pretty girl swag means to know what you want, and to stop at nothing to get it. Doesn’t that sound fantastic? Imagine having everything you’ve ever dreamed of sitting in front of you. Having pretty girl swag leads you to this lifestyle. [Read: 14 steps to unfake your life and love being you]
#2 Pretty girl swag means you are wise. Again, need I remind you what year it is? Women are smart. The secret is out; you don’t need to hide it anymore! Read books, get master’s degrees, become doctors and lawyers, you owe it to the women before us who society didn’t allow to do those things.
#3 You must also remain respectful. Remember the “cash-me-outside” girl? Okay, well prior to understanding how fantastic pretty girl swag really is, that’s who I envisioned as having this character trait. I think we’ve heard this term used in such a negative sense for so long that we associated the wrong feelings with it.
Contrary to popular belief, pretty girl swag means to be respectful. A woman with this trait rises to the top, but she does it without degrading those below her.
In other words, treat the janitor with the same respect as the CEO. This attitude goes a long way.
#4 You are confident in yourself and your abilities. You’re a strong and capable woman, I think we’ve already determined this, right? You walk into any room and take control of any situation that arises. Your peers respect you, and your opinions, because once again, you are wise.
You know what you are talking about, and you have no doubt in your ability to express your feelings or knowledge on a particular topic.
Nobody dares disrespect you, because you always respect them. You are untouchable; you have pretty girl swag.
#5 Pretty girl swag means to be sexy, but graceful. To be alluring, one must remain interesting. You must leave something to desired. Be sexy and fun, but carry a sense of modesty with you wherever you go.
The sexiest thing a woman does is seduce a man with her clothes still on. Remember this when trying to tune into your own pretty girl swag.
#6 If you have pretty girl swag, you take what life throws your way. Life isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes things go wrong. Instead of playing the victim and deeming yourself a failure, stand up straight and keep your chin up. Keep your eyes on the prize, and do not let anybody get in your way.
#7 You will keep a positive outlook on the future. Life isn’t always rainbows and sunshine, but a large amount of it actually is. Even though you may have your setbacks, remain positive. A confident, sexy woman like yourself cannot stay down for too long. You need to remain focused on the positive things in your life.
#8 If you have pretty girl swag, you won’t take “no” for an answer. Pretty girl swag means to work so hard for the things that you want, that “no” is not even in your vocabulary. You take every “no” and turn it into a “yes.” You work so hard to impress those around you with your skills and abilities that nobody is able to resist your hard work.
You know what you want, and you go after it. You won’t stop until you have accomplished all of the things that you set out to do in life. You are highly respected for that. [Read: 12 ways to be a high value woman]
#9 Embrace your pretty girl swag and take control of your life. If you are a strong, confident, sexy, and wise woman—you have pretty girl swag. Don’t hide from this, embrace it. Men want to be with you, and woman want to be you. Do not disrespect those below you or around you, because this goes against your character.