But if you’re past the stage of wild infatuation and have been dating for a few years, these questions are just for you.
The right questions for seasoned relationships
You may think you know everything about your partner once you’ve been dating for a few years.
But almost always, what I’ve seen is that partners actually believe they know each other, but in reality, they just don’t know their partner. They just assume they do.
A perfect relationship is like an onion *cliché, I know!* But no partner will ever reveal themselves completely, and no relationship starts off with pure truth. A new relationship is always filled with a few white lies and many secrets. But as a relationships starts to grow, both partners start to feel secure with each other, and the secrets start to come out in the open. [Read: 9 relationship stages all couples go through]
But if you don’t help your partner feel more secure, you’d just end up living a lie because there may be many secrets that you still don’t know.
If you don’t know how to get your partner to open up, or how you can have the perfect relationship, use these 30 questions for couples.
These questions will help your partner open up and reveal more to you, just as long as you share your truthful answers with your partner too.
30 questions for couples to keep the spark alive
To truly experience the perfect relationship, you need to make each other feel comfortable, and you need to learn to think from your partner’s perspective. And at times, the best ways to find out your partner’s perspective is by asking all the right questions.
If your partner doesn’t open up at first, ask your partner to question you first, hear your answer and then answer.
Use these 30 questions with your partner, and you’ll definitely help them open up to you, just as long as you remember to have a laugh, pull your lover’s leg and let them know that you’re completely fine with all their answers. [Read: What is pillow talk and how can you make it better?]
There are no *no* answers here. Your partner has to say something, anything!
#1 What’s the one secret you’ve been too embarrassed to tell me?
#2 Does it bother you if I look at another person and say he/she is sexy?
#3 Have you ever snooped on me behind my back?
#4 If there’s one thing you’d want to change about me, what is it?
#5 If we hadn’t met each other, where would you be right now?
#6 When was the last time you grazed against a sexy someone’s body accidentally?
These 30 questions for couples may seem funny, or even a bit of a tease. But each of these questions will reveal a trait about your partner. It may be about their sexual interests or their views about cheating or insecurity, or many other things that matter in a relationship. And a few other questions can help both of you understand each other’s expectations in the relationship. [Read: Is flirting with someone else cheating when you’re in a relationship?]
Try to have a light hearted conversation and ask each other these questions, and don’t take offence no matter what. At the end of the day, your partner is opening up to you only because they feel secure. By getting angry or annoyed at any point, you’re only going to make your partner hide deeper in their emotional shell.
Use these 30 questions for couples to get to know each other a lot better, and help your partner understand your wants and interests. It’ll definitely work its magic and bring the spark alive in your relationship.