If you could describe yourself in 3 words, what would they be? As you build your online profile, use these keywords to attract the opposite sex.
When it comes to your social media image, you have to be VERY careful which words to use to describe yourself, as this can have a huge impact on how people perceive you. From Facebook, to LinkedIn, to Tinder—and all other platforms in between—the words you use embody you and give people an idea of what you’re all about.
When it comes to online dating, there are people who are looking for the right mix of personality. Your profile is your only way to convey that mix, which will then urge them to get to know you better.
Words to attract the opposite sex online
While selecting the right profile picture can be easy, the profile is where the real challenge begins. What words should you choose, among the thousands of words out there, to best describe yourself on social media and online dating? [Confession: I used a dating site without a photo and this is what happened]
Best words for men
#1 Physically fit. Apparently, there are still females out there who are looking for the manly man in terms of physique. This goes back to women’s basic biological instincts, which associate physically fit guys with the ability to protect and provide for them. Move over, dad bod.
#2 Ambitious. You may want to entice women by saying that you are a made man in the sense that you have a career going and you’re trying to climb up the ladder of success. This means you can provide for them—or at least you don’t live with your mom anymore.
#3 Perceptive. This can be seen by women as someone who is sensitive and observant, which is a huge plus. Just be sure you don’t bring her carnations on your first date when she explicitly mentioned she loves hyacinths. [Try: 14 important dos and don’ts of online dating]
#4 Passionate. Of course—passion. Whether this means you’re great in bed, you go all out in the name of love, you’re romantic, or you are just deeply into the things that you like doing, putting “passionate” on your profile will draw the girls to you.
#5 Optimistic. Say you’re a glass-half-full kind of guy. After all, no one likes to be around anyone nasty or negative. Saying you’re optimistic conveys your positive outlook, which people—and not only women—are drawn to.
#6 Funny. Many studies have shown that women are attracted to a man with a good sense of humor. Injecting this in your profile will definitely make them look forward to sharing a laugh with you. [Read: 13 reasons why online dating isn’t for everyone]
#7 Spontaneous. Put this in your profile and you’ll have women thinking about going on adventures and spur-of-the-moment dates with you—all in all, just pure, plain fun. This also conveys how you can go with the flow and be alright with whatever life throws at you.
#8 Thoughtful. Many women are looking for the deep, sensitive type of guy—the ones who may be brooding, but are romantic enough to be worth dating.
#9 Affectionate. Apparently, women like their men affectionate, which means they like guys who are not afraid to show their love. Chivalry is not dead, but neither is the expression of affection. [Check out: 20 types of touches and what each touch really means]
#10 Outgoing. No one likes a stuck-up guy, so saying you’re “outgoing” may just make the women want to “go out” with you even more.
Best words for women
#1 Sweet. Guys think of women as delicate creatures—a soft ray of sunshine in their lives. So it’s no wonder “sweet” is one of the best words you can use to describe yourself if you’re looking to date guys online.
#2 Ambitious. Sugar has to be paired with some spice, and nothing can turn on guys more than a go-getter type of girl who doesn’t really need a man to pay her way *but guys will probably want to shower you with gifts, anyway*. [Try: 10 ways to make a man fall in love with you instantly]
#3 Thoughtful. When you write this, guys will expect you to cook them chicken soup when they’re sick, know their favorite football team, greet them cheerfully in the morning, wish them luck on their big day at work, and just be… well… thoughtful.
#4 Spontaneous. When you say spontaneous, be ready to go with him on adventures, from parasailing to sky diving, and maybe even just a day watching UFC with him. Who knows? You have to be spontaneous, right?
#5 Physically fit. Now, this is a no-brainer. Men still like their women in their best health—or figure. Whether you’re an hourglass, supermodel-thin, or full-figured, what draws men is the fact that you’re active and hot! [Not a fan of fit? Read: 10 weird dating websites for those with unusual tastes]
#6 Funny. Men like it when you laugh at their jokes, so let them know you have a good sense of humor, as well. You can not only laugh at their jokes *genuinely*, but also throw some good punchlines into the mix.
#7 Outgoing. No one wants to be with someone with sticks up their asses—not even guys. You have to be able to just go out there and go with the flow.
#8 Optimistic. If you’re a Debbie Downer, then you have to prepare to repel people. If you want to attract guys to your profile, you have to put “optimistic” there, so they know you are positive, cheerful, and likable. [Try: 10 annoyingly common misconceptions about online dating]
#9 Hardworking. You have to put it out there: you are working it and working for it. This ups your respect and va-va-voom factor, especially if they can see the fruits of your labor in your photos.
#10 Passionate. Same as guys, you have to show that you are more than looks and success—you have heart, too. Whether it’s in terms of how you are in bed or in a relationship, saying you’re passionate will definitely make men want to get closer to you.
Words to avoid
Meanwhile, here are words to avoid for both men and women.
#9 Loyal. If they’re looking for a pet, this can be a good thing. When it comes to romantic relationships, though, this is a given.
#10 Dependable. Just like “loyal,” this term is too uppity and doesn’t belong in the vocabulary of those who are looking for dates—although you have to be dependable when you set your first date.
There you have it, guys and gals, the best words to describe yourself online, whether on social media or online dating sites. Remember: whatever you put in your profile must always be backed up with your social media identity through your posts and photos.
People have a way of knowing stuff about you—and if your social media persona is not genuine, they will find out, anyway, when they meet you in real life, so be careful with the words you use to describe yourself.
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Tiffany Grace Reyes
Tiffany is a wordsmith who has played with words ever since her letter-to-the-editor was published nationally at the age of 9. Since then her writing has gone f...