If you have problems reaching orgasm or want better climaxes in general, you’ll want to know about edging. What is edging, you ask? Here’s the answer.
Not being able to orgasm is something many women relate to. We take longer to get off and quite frankly, some people just don’t know what to do to get us there. But the newest trend in women’s orgasms is something that can help us all: edging. But what is edging?
Don’t worry if you’re not aware of what edging is. It’s a rather new technique in the bedroom that’s been gaining popularity – and for good reason. Women are able to orgasm much easier and they’re far more intense.
How does edging actually work?
The idea behind edging is that your partner – or yourself if you’re going solo – will bring you right on the edge of orgasm and then stop completely. I know this may not sound very fun because you’re not getting off at that moment, but trust me. It makes for a stronger, better orgasm when you do climax.
The idea behind this is that by bringing your body very, very close multiple times, the final release is bigger. The trick, however, is learning how to do this properly. Too much edging and you won’t be able to get off and too much stimulation will just make you orgasm. [Read: 6 ways to control your orgasms with the art of edging]
What is edging and how can you do it right?
If you want to know the secret to edging and how you can have explosive orgasms that leave you weak in the knees, following these tips will help get you there. Just remember that it may take some time and lots of practice before you get the method down perfectly.
#1 Communicate with your partner. Before you even think about edging, you’ll have to make sure you have open communication with your partner. It’s essential that you two discuss what edging is and why you want to try it.
Without proper communication, edging just doesn’t work. You need to be able to talk to each other about when you’re getting close and what you need to get there. So be sure you can talk openly about it. [Read: How to effectively communicate with your partner]
#2 Set the mood. You can’t expect edging to work unless you’re in the mood for it. And that means you have to set the mood. Light some candles, turn on some sexy music, and get intimate.
If you really want to make it a fun night, eat some aphrodisiacs and use some stimulating lube. Have fun with is and enjoy some adult beverages while you’re at it. It might help take the edge off.
#3 Foreplay like crazy. Foreplay is always important but it’s especially vital with edging. Basically the entire point of edging is to get you to almost reach orgasm and eventually orgasm strongly.
Without foreplay, it’s highly unlikely that you’ll even be able to get to climax once. That means you’ll need to take your time and make the foreplay worthwhile. Tell your partner what you want and need and make sure your needs are met. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can use in bed]
#4 Be vocal about when you’re close. If your partner doesn’t know when you’re about to orgasm, they can’t pull away in time to make edging effective. You have to tell them when you’re close and when they need to stop.
Hopefully, your partner will be able to tell over time when they should stop, but that might take a while. If you find it too difficult to talk and concentrate when you’re that close to orgasming, make a sign of sorts.
#5 Start with masturbating first. If you don’t think you’ll be able to do edging with your partner right away, start doing it through masturbation first. This way, you’ll know just what you need to get there.
This can also help you when you actually get together with your partner. You’ll be able to tell them right when they need to stop and when they should actually let you orgasm. [Read: 17 facts about female masturbation]
#6 Make the build-ups slow. Don’t stop stimulation just to go right back into it again. The way edging works requires the build up to be slower. Once you almost orgasm once, you have to stop and then slowly work your way back up.
If you go too quickly, you’ll just end up reaching orgasm before your partner is able to stop. Plus, the majority of the fun is working your way back up to climax.
#7 Don’t do it too many times at once. You can’t just go through an endless cycle of edging. That’s not how it works. When you overstimulate yourself, you’ll actually end up making it MUCH harder for you to reach climax.
Your body kind of adjusts to the stimulation. Way too much at one time will make you last longer and that’s NOT what you want with edging. Only allow yourself to get to the edge of orgasm a few times before finishing. [Read: 7 surprising reasons she’s not ograsming]
#8 Make sure you’re relaxed. This is essential for the orgasm itself and also for the entire process of edging. It’s going to take a while. If you’re tense, you’ll have a harder time with the entire thing. So find ways to relax and let loose. You’ll be thankful you’re so relaxed.
#9 Experiment with toys. If you want to turn it up a notch, throw some toys into the mix! Sometimes using different toys each time you’re brought to the edge of orgasm can add that extra something you needed to get off.
Experiment with different types of toys, too. Use some vibrators and then also try using some dildos with penetrative action. These can also help your partner last longer since edging is quite a lengthy process. [Read: 13 amazing sex toys for first timers]
#10 Set aside a LOT of time for practice. Edging is not easy. You’d think getting yourself to the edge of orgasming and just stopping would be, but it’s not. You have to work at it and you have to figure out what works best for you.
But when you do learn how to do edging correctly, your sex life will never be the same. You’ll have stronger and longer orgasms that are unparalleled.