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13 Subtle but Very Obvious Signs Your Boss Wants to Sleep with You

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When we go to work we expect to do our job, not sleep with our boss. Wondering if it’s so? These signs your boss wants to sleep with you make it clear.

I had a couple of jobs in my time. However, most of my bosses were heterosexual women, so, I didn’t encounter any awkward moments in the hallway or have them uncomfortably leaning over me. So, I didn’t really know the signs your boss wants to sleep with you at that time.

But then I worked as a receptionist at a car dealership at 19. Honestly, I didn’t encounter anything prior, but I felt this vibe whenever he came around. There was something strange in the way he acted towards me. Even though I thought something was weird, I ignored it and continued working.

Signs your boss wants to sleep with you

My boss never made a move on me, thankfully. Many of my friends have had experiences with their bosses. Now, some of those experiences were not welcomed, while others were. It simply depends on how you feel towards your boss, and if you want to take things further. If they do want to sleep with you, you have two choices. You can either stop it or go for it.

My personal opinion? You shouldn’t sleep with your boss, but for some people it worked out well. So, I’m not going to judge. Now, whether you want to stop it or see where it goes, that’s up to you. But, there are some solid signs your boss wants to sleep with you or not. There are always signs, trust me.

#1 You have a lot of private meetings. And yet, you’re still not sure why you have them. Of course, an occasional meeting with your boss is normal, but if he asks you to a private meeting when really there’s no need, he’s into you.

Depending on how you feel about your boss, these private meetings can be uncomfortable and feel like you’re being cornered. Too many private meetings mean they want to see how they can go from professional into personal encounters. [Read: How to tell if your coworker likes you]

#2 They treat you differently. Compared to all the other employees, they treat you differently. Of course, they treat you differently, they want to sleep with you. Maybe they promote you even though you’re relatively new to the job, or provide you with extras when you don’t actually deserve them. You can run with this for a while, but if the other employees see this, they aren’t going to be happy.

#3 Your boss flirts with you. Now, flirting is a huge sign of someone’s interest. Now, this doesn’t mean they’ll do anything. However, flirting is meant to build up sexual tension between two people. Yes, crack jokes at the office, but there’s a difference between regular jokes and flirtatious jokes. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

#4 Your boss tells you about their personal life. Maybe your boss told you they left their partner or about a wild weekend at the bar. Either way, this is overstepping the working relationship you share. If your boss talks about their personal life to you, specifically in the area of dating and sex, well, this is a clear sign they’re gauging your reaction.

#5 You spend time together outside of the office. Now, it’s normal for co-workers to grab lunch or a coffee together. It’s not as common for bosses to hang out with their employees outside of work time. If your boss enters into your personal time outside of the office, it’s clear they’re interested in something more than just work.

#6 You get gifts. They may not be huge gifts, it could be a pen or a notebook, but the point is, they’re gifts. Unless it’s Christmas, your birthday, or another special occasion, it’s not normal for the people you work with to get you gifts, especially your boss. Now, if your boss tells you not to tell other people about the gift, it’s clear they’re into you. Kinda sleazy, in my opinion.

#7 They get a little too close. Your boss wants to see what you’ve done, so they lean on your desk, staring at the screen. Now, this happens and it doesn’t mean it’s sexual. Usually this is a sign they want to be closer to you. They may touch you, graze your arm, or speak into your ear. The point is, these invade your personal space. If they enter your personal space, it’s a solid sign they want more. [Read: Clearly noticeable signs of attraction through body language]

#8 Personal calls and emails. Now, for some reason, your boss has your personal email and phone number. This part isn’t entirely unusual as many employers have their employee’s personal information. However, they rarely use it unless it’s an emergency.

But, if your boss is quick to send personal emails and call you outside of work, unless it’s strictly work related *it probably isn’t*, they want to cross over into your personal life.

#9 Overly friendly. It’s normal for bosses to wish their employees a good morning, but if your boss comes over to your desk to check on you throughout the day, it looks like you have an admirer. Again, if they come over to you a lot because you work on a specific project together, that’s different. But if they come over just to chat, well, come on, it’s quite clear. [Read: 16 signs he’s irresistibly attracted and wants you bad]

#10 Strong eye contact. Eye contact is another sign your boss wants to sleep with you. Yes, people look at each other when speaking to one another, but if your boss stares you down, well, it’s clear they want more. Prolonged eye contact is a huge alert and shows a desire to connect with you on a deeper level.

#11 They add you on social media. Now, some companies require you to show them your social media. However, you shouldn’t have to add your bosses to Facebook or Instagram.

You’re allowed to separate those aspects of your life. Suddenly, you see your boss asking you to be their friend on Facebook and now they follow you on Instagram. They want to see if you’re with anyone and if so, who.

#12 You’re the funniest person to them. To your boss, you’re hilarious. You’re more than hilarious, you’re literally the funniest person on earth. Nothing you say won’t be laughed at, even if it’s a lame joke.

Laughter is a huge sign of physical attraction. I mean, unless the joke is truly funny, we rarely laugh with people we find unattractive. [Read: 15 super-obvious signs a man is attracted to you sexually]

#13 Your opinion matters. More than anyone else’s actually. They always come to you first for your opinion because they want to please you. It could be about work or even something more personal, like what shirt they should wear.

[Read: What you need to keep in mind if you decide to date your boss]

Now you know the signs your boss wants to sleep with you or not. If they do, decide if this is something you really want, and if it’s a good idea.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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