Men think women want them to make big gestures to prove their love. But it’s the small gestures girls always notice. So, put your wallet away.
When you’re in love with someone, you want to express yourself. You can show your love through anything, but many men focus on grand gestures to show their feelings. But in reality, it’s the small gestures girls always notice.
Okay, I’m not saying she’s not going to appreciate receiving a gold necklace or a Rolex, but if you haven’t listened to JLo’s song Love Don’t Cost a Thing, then you obviously aren’t updated with the memo.
When I was younger, I had this belief if a guy wanted to show his feelings, he would do it through gifts. I went on a date with one guy who literally came to my door with a teddy bear, chocolate, and a bouquet of flowers. Needless to say, while a sweet gesture, it was a little much.
Then I realized it’s not about the gifts, it’s about the actions. Turns out the guy was a complete jerk and thought that giving me these gifts would be a pass to get into my pants.
Sadly for him, his plan didn’t work out. So, fellas, I’m telling you, focus on the small gestures because that’s what really matters. In this case, small is better.
#1 When you surprise her with breakfast. She’s used to getting up and making herself breakfast, but you woke up a little earlier to have it fully prepared for her to enjoy. If you really want to up the romance then give her breakfast in bed. It’s a small gesture that will take you a long way. [Read: 36 sweetest things you can do with your girlfriend]
#2 Write a love note. I know this sounds a little young, but when a girl is into you, sending her a love note will definitely bring a smile to her face. It doesn’t have to be something intense, a simple note saying ‘I love you’ will do the trick, trust me.
#3 Send her a good morning text. When a girl wakes up and sees a message from a guy she’s into, it immediately puts her in a good mood. Sending her a good morning text is a small gesture, but it says a lot. You’re the one who thought of her in the morning the minute you opened your eyes. [Read: All the reasons why a good morning text is so important]
#4 Do what you say you’re going to do. If you told her you’re going to do something, do it. Now, this isn’t always easy to do, but if you want to turn up the romance, be the guy who she doesn’t have to worry about flaking. Be the guy who’s there when he says he’s going to be there.
#5 Listen to her. She may have had a hard day at work or trouble with her family but you’re there to listen. No, you’re not giving her advice and lecturing her, instead, you’re sitting there and hearing what she has to say. Not only is this healthy communication, but she’ll notice.
#6 When you show affection. She may love PDA while you may not be too big of a fan. Though you don’t need to stick your tongue down her throat every minute of the day, you can hold her hand unexpectedly, give her a kiss while you’re walking down the street or when having dinner. [Read: 15 ways public display of affection can save your relationship]
#7 Give her a back rub. You don’t need to have candles lit and flower petals on the bed. You can keep it casual. But if she’s had a hard day at work, warm up some oil and treat her to a back rub. It’ll surprise her, and, well, she’ll love it.
#8 When you’re honest. Honesty is the best policy. But it seems honesty is hard to come by now we’re in the world of technology. Honesty must be present in the relationship if you want it to succeed. You don’t need to be brutally honest, but don’t hide your feelings. She’ll notice your honesty and appreciate it.
#9 Make her a bath. Who doesn’t love a hot bath? Most of the time, we’re too lazy to put the bath water on, but why not surprise her with a bubble bath? When she comes home from a day of work, she’ll be able to have a warm bath thanks to you. [Read: Special things to make your girlfriend feel loved]
#10 When you want to meet her parents. She may want you to meet her parents, but she’s too nervous to directly ask you. Yes, she’s made hints, but she’s scared you’ll say no. But if you show initiative to see her parents, she’ll notice this gesture right away.
#11 When you do her chores. She needs to hang out her laundry or clean up the dishes piled in her sink. You can surprise her by doing some of her chores. No, you don’t need to become a maid, but every once in a while surprise her by doing the dishes or vacuuming because these are the small gestures girls always notice and appreciate.
#12 When you plan date night. You don’t need an extravagant date night for her to enjoy herself. She should love the fact she’s spending time with you. But she’ll notice if you made the effort to plan a special date night. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but you took the time to plan it.
#13 When you make her feel safe. I’m not talking about protecting her physically, but more along the lines of emotional protection. She needs to feel safe. A small gesture could be supporting her during a difficult situation or helping her express her feelings. Though these are small gestures, they show her that you care and that she’s safe with you.
#14 You can compromise. In a relationship, there are two people. You’re not always going to have your way and vice versa. Compromising is a small gesture but speaks volumes. It not only shows you’re mature but also that you care about her feelings as well. [Read: How to give without losing in your relationship]
#15 You’re patient with her. It’s not as small a gesture as we assume it is. If you’ve ever had to be patient, well, you know firsthand how difficult it is. Being patient shows her that you want to learn without pushing or forcing her into anything.
It’s not always the big things you do which make her feel appreciated. Usually, it’s the small gestures girls always notice instead. Try these effortless gestures and you’ll realize instantly just how big a part they play in a good relationship.
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A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...