Why do guys stare at girls, really? Girls are used to guys ogling at them, but is there something more to the stare? Find out the real reasons behind guys and the stare!
Click here to read the introduction on why men stare at women and what really goes on in their minds.
Guys stare at girls all the time. And in the introduction, you would have read about why guys are just so scared to approach girls, but are so courageous when it comes to staring at girls.
Guys staring at girls
So let’s head straight to why guys stare at girls.
Some guys stare because they don’t know what else to do.
They definitely don’t know how to make a move, and they just assume that by staring at you, they’d be able to hold your attention long enough to feel good about themselves.
They can always tell a friend later, “Hey dude, guess what? There was this chick down the street, and we had a moment! Both of us were just staring at each other like the damn world had stopped revolving! Cool, huh?”
You know that’s quite annoying, right?
Why do guys stare so much?
Surprisingly, some of the guys who stare at girls think long term. They stare at you so hard, they’d want to burn an imprint of themselves into your brain.
And all their stupid mind screams is, “What if I could bump into her again at a party, or someplace else? If she remembers me, then I could probably make the move if she’s close enough…” [Read: How men think about relationships]
Knowing the guys who stare at girls
We have all kinds of guys in the world. We have them good guys without girlfriends, the good guys with girlfriends, and we have the losers who don’t have a chance of getting women. It’s the third kind that always messes around with girls.
These guys are just plain pissed off with women because they’re branded losers by girls. They have no damn self confidence when it comes to matters of women, and they, quite frankly, don’t care. You see these guys plaguing cafes, clubs and shopping malls. They hang out, almost always with friends (for confidence and support), and stare at girls. [Read: How to look sexy without trying]
These guys know you’d feel awkward and uncomfortable when they stare. And they get pleasure out of knowing they can make you feel uncomfortable.
If they would approach you, you’d spurn their advances anyways. So these guys retaliate by making you feel uncomfortable. Some guys even go to the extent of snapping pictures of pretty women on their cell phones just to annoy them.
Guys staring at girls and the places
Ever found yourself walking past shops in the busy side of town, minding your own business and looking for a good bargain? Of course, you have.
On almost every occasion, you would have found at least one guy staring at your breasts or at your derriere. He might think he’s being discreet, but he’s obviously not. These guys just stare like their eyes are stuck to your boobs with invisible strings of superglue! [Read: Why guys love breasts so much]
Really, I’m sure you’re fine with a decent guy who just checks you out for a fraction of a second, it might even be flattering, but an all-out stare is just disgusting. These stare-y eyed guys look all over, and emphasize most on the assets that differentiate women from the men.
Guys who know for sure that they are never going to have a chance to go out with a beautiful girl like you indulge in such wild stares. They do know others may be looking at them in disgust, but to them, all they care about is their moment of glory. They got to see a beautiful girl’s bra straps! In their mind, all they scream out is, “Wow! Now that’s a sight to store in mind for later tonight!” [Read: Why are men addicted to porn?]
How can you tell if a guy is staring at you
Guys stare at girls. Period. But it’s all not the same.
I’m sure all women understand that staring is a way by which a man shows interest in you. But ‘the stare’ is a long way from the simple show of appreciation. It might confuse you at first, and you may take a few glances back at him to figure if he’s checking you out or staring at you like he’s hypnotized, but that usually takes a few minutes to figure.
And quite frankly, that’s just too long if it’s a loser who’s giving you a stare, or ‘the stare’. Either ways, don’t ever just stare back at someone for more than half a second. If you do make eye-contact, lay off looking at him for the next five minutes or so, and take a quick discreet look again to see if he’s still checking you. If he’s checking you five out of five times you look at him, you’ve got yourself a guy with ‘the stare’. If it’s four times, he may still be a weirdo. If it’s three out of five, then he may be a nice guy (if he looks good!), if it’s just once, he was probably just looking around.
But either ways, unless you like this guy too, try avoiding the staring game. You might just find yourself escaping from a clinging stalker. [Read: How to be just friends when he wants more]
Guys staring at girls – How to stop it?
The simplest methods first. Firstly, all you need is to stop staring back! That’ll do the trick. If you want to go one step further, then just look straight at him, give him your dirtiest stare and sit in another seat so you can show your back to him.
Or if you’re with a bunch of friends, you could just point right out at him, and all of you could burst out laughing. There are a lot of things you could do, and I’m sure you could come up with something just as nasty any day!
After all, guys who stare at girls act brave and burly only as long as you’re uncomfortable. If you show him who’s in control, he’ll tuck his tail like a little dog.
Personal encounters of guys staring at girls
Ever experienced a freaky stare-y guy who just doesn’t stop staring at you? Or do you get stared at all the time? Here are a few stare-y stories.
I don’t mind being “glanced” at or “smiled” at, but I don’t like it when a guy has that nasty “oooooh baby damn” look in his eyes. The worst part is, some guys stare until I’m out of sight. It’s so tacky, and it feels like they can really see me through my shirt! It’s disgusting when they do that.
I don’t mind if a guy stares at me, as long as he’s great looking. But I think it would creep me out if he stares at me like he wants to murder me. Either ways, I think I would get freaked out if guys stare at girls without blinking or looking away. That’s just scary. [Read: How to get to know a guy you want to date]
- Cristine, 24
I personally don’t find it uncomfortable when a guy stares at me, because I just shrug it off or sit someplace else, but my friends do feel quite uncomfortable. All I can tell these guys who stare at girls is, “Grow up, you’ll never be able to hook up with anyone just by staring and trying to seduce girls!”
- Sahara, 20
I’m a girl who gets stared at a lot and it does make me uncomfortable. It’s hard to act normal when you know you’re in a room with someone who’s watching you. I speak for myself, but when it happens frequently it can get really annoying. Sometimes I get disgusted when these men stare and try to strike up a conversation with me. But then, if I’m clubbing, it doesn’t bother me at all.
But if I’m in a coffee shop, or sitting in a train it can be so annoying I would want to leave immediately. I think one look is fine, as long as the girl is not aware the guy caught her eye. It’s not really a compliment to her as she probably already knows she’s pretty and attracts attention. So unless a guy is seriously planning on talking to her, a guy should do her the courtesy of leaving her alone by not staring or looking at her constantly.
- Wren, 31
So why do guys stare at girls? We sure hope you know the real reasons behind their dirty stares. Guys staring at girls is no big deal, and can be flattering too. But if it’s the dirty stare we’re talking about, it’s best to not acknowledge it in the first place.
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