Do you often feel like no one cares about you? Or that no one likes you? We have reasons why your spirits may be low and tips to overcome loneliness.
We all have those days when we feel like our world is crumbling down around us, and no one seems to care about us.
This usually puts us in a bout of depression, and we can never seem to muster up the energy to do anything but lie in bed, wrapped in copious amounts of blankets, and mope about the fact that nobody cares. We don’t blame you for feeling this way; the world can be cruel at times.
But at the end of the day, you can only lay in bed for so long or watch the same comfort tv series so many times. It may seem impossible to break the bad mood, but there are ways to overcome the feeling that no one cares about you. [Read: Self-reflective questions to help you stay true to yourself]
Why does no one care about me?
Before you begin to try coping strategies for feeling like no one cares, it’s important to evaluate why you feel like no one cares about you. Really take the time to assess your self-perception and your relationships.
1. Your perception is wrong
It may be that people do care about you, but you aren’t perceiving it that way. This is a common misconception among people who suffer from low-self esteem. If you have a negative self-image, it only makes sense that you assume others feel the same way about you as you do yourself.
Feeling cared for by others starts with caring for yourself. So, reflect on how you perceive yourself and if you are projecting your negative mindset onto those around you. [Read: 52 happy habits and ways to find happiness within yourself & feel better]
2. Your relationship has lost passion
Does your partner make you feel cared for? Or do you tend to feel lonely despite not being alone? If so, this might be because your relationship has lost the passion it once had.
In a romantic relationship, it can be pretty easy to settle into too much comfort. When this happens, partners stop trying to please each other, and the flame of passion eventually burns out.
If this is something you feel is causing your loneliness, talk with your partner and evaluate the relationship. Decide if it’s worth it to keep moving forward and if so, come up with things you can implement in your relationship to bring the passion back.
3. You’re not communicating your needs
You may be feeling like no one cares because you aren’t having your needs met. In every kind of relationship, there are needs from each person that the other must upkeep to keep the relationship going.
If you are never on the receiving end in your relationships, then you’re bound to feel like no one cares about you. If this is a problem you know you’re facing, what are you doing to communicate this?
The other person in your relationship may not know they aren’t meeting your needs because of miscommunication. Find time to discuss your relationship together and voice what both of your needs are. Communication is key in any relationship!
Turn that frown upside down – what to do when no one cares
It’s never fun when you get into these kinds of moods, and it’s even less fun trying to find a way to get out of them. But there are a number of different things you can do when you feel like no one cares.
These are tried and true things you can do when you suddenly find yourself feeling like no one cares.
1. Tell someone what’s going on
Too often, people get in the mindset that “no one will care,” so they choose silence over expressing their feelings. But, honestly, how can you say that no one cares about your situation if no one knows what you’re feeling?
The truth is if you’re hurting or in need of some support, people are going to care. They will, and they do, even if they don’t vocalize it all of the time. Take the initiative to pick up the phone and call someone.
2. Realize that your mindset is negative
When you’re in a negative mindset, you tend to misinterpret everyone’s actions in a negative manner. This means that you aren’t even noticing when people are showing how much they care. [Try: Is your negative thinking ruining your life?]
You really need to be consciously aware when you’re in this mood because your opinions and views of other people’s actions are skewed – greatly. You will think their reactions are negative or non-caring, but in actuality, you’re the one who is actually making things seem that way.
3. Stop sulking
We don’t blame you for indulging in alone time when you’re feeling down. Sure, put on your favorite movie and eat your favorite snacks in the comfort of your own space to feel better. However, there comes a point when you need to stop.
Lying in your bed surrounded by nothing but your own sadness will do nothing but make you feel even worse about what’s going on in your head. Sulking leads to even more feelings of loneliness since you’re isolating yourself.
So, make an effort to get off your bed, shower, get ready, and get out of your house when you begin to feel this way. Getting fresh air will switch the chemicals in your brain, and you’ll feel better just by leaving the house. [Check out: Powerful ways to combat and break out of loneliness]
4. Listen to upbeat music
There is a lot of scientific evidence backing the idea that listening to happy and upbeat music will improve your mood. The feeling of no one caring is associated with depression, unhappiness, and loneliness. So, turning on happy music that makes you feel good will help alleviate all of those feelings.
Want to know the best part? If you grab a hairbrush, stand on your couch, and sing your heart out with each melody that plays, your mood is certain to increase due to the endorphins that are released while singing.
5. Stay busy
When people have nothing to do but sit with their thoughts, they tend to fixate on all of the little wrongs in their life and blow them up into something that they’re not. This, in turn, causes the feeling that nobody cares about your issues. [Try: What to do when you’re bored at home]
If you want to stop that feeling, you have to stay busy and keep your mind off of negative thoughts. Go join a club, get some happy reading material, and engage in activities that make you happy.
6. Use a journal
When you start feeling like no one cares, it’s always a good idea to write down your feelings. Get all of your thoughts about what’s going on down on a piece of paper, and mention all of the reasons you think no one cares.
Moving these thoughts from your head onto something tangible, like a piece of paper or journal, will alleviate the weight of your sadness.
After you’ve written down your thoughts, re-read what you’ve written, and it will make you feel better. Not only can you get all of your thoughts out of your head, but actually seeing your concerns from a different point of view can help you see how irrational your thoughts truly are.
7. Use the power of reframing
Reframing aspects of your life into positive ones will eventually change your negative outlook to a positive one. To do so, you need to give new meaning to your experiences, thoughts, and emotions.
A common way of reframing is to turn the problems you face into challenges. Although this doesn’t remove the problems from your life, it does give you a new, positive outlook.
8. Volunteer somewhere
It’s strange how much helping others can make you feel better. It gives you something to do, shows you that maybe your own issues aren’t as bad as others, and gives you a greater sense of purpose. [Read: Ways volunteer work can help heal depression]
So, get out there and see if you can volunteer at an elderly home, dog shelter, or food bank. There are many organizations looking for volunteers all the time, and it won’t take more than a few hours and only a couple of times a week to eradicate the feeling that nobody cares.
9. Get a pet *if you can*
There’s a reason that the majority of the population has a pet; they make us happy! The fact that someone in your life depends on you so much is enough to make you feel cared for. Their unconditional love is what will tear you out of that pit of a mindset you’ve been stuck in lately.
10. Change your story
Whatever it is that is making you feel like no one cares about you, try changing the story. What we mean by this is you need to change your mindset from being a victim to not. [Try: Life questions to help you visualize your future]
Really evaluate the situation you’re in and why it’s making you sad. Then, try to imagine it from a point of view where you’re not the victim. This technique might help you understand yourself and others more.
11. Face your fears
If there is something you’re fearful of in your life that is in your way of feeling cared for, then it’s time to face your fears. It is time you break down all of the barriers that stand in your way of living your life to its fullest. [Read: Feel like a failure? 23 truths to stop feeling defeated & find your way]
12. Give back
Feeling down? See it as a great opportunity to give back to your community and let others know they are cared for. This could be through volunteer acts or other services for the community. By getting out and helping change the mindsets of others, you may meet like-minded people who you can call friends!
13. Take care of yourself
Taking care of yourself is one of the most important ways to combat the feeling that no one cares.
As we said before, how you view yourself affects how you think others view you. If you don’t see yourself in a loving way, you won’t expect others to, either. This is why it is so important to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally.
We know it can be hard, but it’s essential that you upkeep your hygiene and your presentation. How you feel about yourself physically reflects on your self-image, and therefore your mindset. Create a space that has a positive atmosphere where you can indulge in activities you love. Surround yourself with positive people and positive environments.
Taking care of yourself and meeting your needs should always come as a priority for you. When you make a habit of this, you will find the same energy is reciprocated back to you from others. [Read: How to be kind to yourself & others & love life instead of hating it]
14. Find help elsewhere
Sometimes, the feeling that no one cares is a fleeting thought that will be gone within a day or so. However, this can also be an indicator of a much more serious problem concerning chronic depression.
If this is a recurring feeling that is more common than feeling happy and cared about, then you should seek professional help to make sure your mental health is not at risk. You can see your doctor or a psychologist or even start by finding help on a website devoted to mental health.
15. Know that you’re not alone
Feeling like no one cares is a lonely feeling. You feel like everyone has abandoned you, and you’re left to deal with difficult situations by yourself. But that is not at all true. If there’s one thing you take away from any of this, know that you’re not alone.
You’re not alone in how you’re feeling, and you don’t have to deal with this alone. There are so many people out there going through the same situations and people that care about you. So don’t sit there thinking you’re alone in this world. You’re not now, nor have you ever been.
When to seek professional help
There is no time too soon or too late to seek professional help. If your loneliness is a never-ending battle or you constantly feel like no one cares, it’s a good time to reach out to a therapist or someone licensed to help navigate you through these thoughts.
A therapist is equipped with training to help you out of this rut. They can view your life and relationships from a non-biased outsider’s perspective and help you cope effectively.
Speaking to a therapist about your concerns not only will help you learn more about yourself but will also give you the tools you need to overcome feeling like no one cares.
[Next, read: Low self-worth – steps to see yourself in a better light]
If you’re feeling lost and like no one cares, know that you aren’t alone. These are the best ways to go about dealing with the situation if you’re feeling that way—and ward off similar feelings in the future.
