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Date Rape – Facts and Signs of Date Rape

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Circumstances can bring out the worst in people, even in the men we trust. And at times, these very circumstances lead to a date rape. A date rape may be sensitive to discuss, but these date rape facts are something all girls have to be wary of.

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Understanding date rape and date rape facts

It’s fun to go out on a date with a guy, especially if you really like him or have had a small crush on him since forever.

You feel fuzzy and warm when he holds your hand or kisses your neck.

But at times, the guy might just start pushing his luck a bit too far.

It might feel really weird to go on but you don’t want to offend him by stopping him. And even if you do stop him, he might just persist or plead and force himself onto you.

You feel helpless, especially if you’re under the influence of alcohol.

At times, you might feel dizzy and an uneasy sense of physical urge may overpower you, though you hate it.

Unfortunate circumstances like these can create miserable situations where you can get molested sexually, and worse, at times, get raped.

Date rape is a devastating crime for every victim. But it’s also a known fact that most of the times rape is committed by people you know, rather than strangers on the street.

Date rape facts

Date rape is a sexual attack by someone you know, and it is more common than you think. Women are most at risk from new partners, former partners, and men they date occasionally.

Date rape is not an isolated case, but is usually hushed up because you know the person already, and don’t know how to handle it. He may be a friend or a past lover, with whom you came out to spend time and catch up on things.

A date rape story

Sheryl, a student, once had a narrow escape with a date rape. “I had a very good friend of mine, with whom I used to hang out all the time. We used to occasionally go to his farm an hour away from the city, and have a drink or two,” she says.

“One day, when we were at the farm, he asked me to kiss him. I burst out laughing and told him to shut up. He pestered me for a long time, and finally I told him that I would kiss him just once, and we would forget all about it. I gave him a peck on his lips and then backed away. But he just grabbed me and began running his hands all over my body. I felt so violated, but I didn’t know what I could do. I mean this guy was supposed to be someone I trusted a lot. I pushed him, and ran away from there. He called me up later in the evening and apologized saying it was his drink that made him act that way. I slammed the phone down, and never spoke to him after that. The worst part was that I couldn’t mention this incident to anyone else.”

Date rape at parties

Another thing to watch out when you’re at a party is your drink. There are several date rape drugs that can easily be picked up over the counter if you know the pharmacist, and these drugs can render a person unconscious and also induce short term memory loss, which gets worse when mixed with alcohol.

The victim usually would get up feeling very tired and sore, but would have no memory of any physical harassment or rape.

Date rape can be experienced by anyone, at any time. It’s always better to be cautious than sorry. Click here to continue reading about what to do if you get raped on a date.

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  • June 29, 2012 | Permalink |

    This is an area where the woman must always remain the arbiter of what’s going to happen, the holder of the keys.

    A woman (in general) knows that the man wants to advance the lovemaking from one stage to the next. The man’s usual role is to make advances, testing her limits. She knows this. In fact, if a man is too shy to make advances, she may not feel he is interested and think of him as only a friend.

    But he must always be ready to back off when she puts up resistance or says “No” and accept that he may not be allowed to progress very far tonight or on this occasion or ever. He must respect her limits always and immediately. He must acknowledge the fact that she may never allow him to get too far with her.

    If he respects her boundaries, there is a good chance she may change her mind later, but there is no guarantee. He must be able to accurately read her signals and always be ready to back off. If she clearly shows a real lack of interest, he should not keep pestering or pressuring her.

    Women may occasionally fantasize about being overpowered, but a man who really likes or even loves a woman would never do this when he is wooing her.

    Women love the process of being romanced, courted and the art of gentle persuasion, but she must always feel free to stop him if she doesn’t want it. And a man, if he respects her, must stop immediately and not feel resentful, always keeping things light and letting her get to know him and feel comfortable in his presence.

    Sometimes winning the woman you want can be a long process–or may never work out, but if it does, it can be wonderful for both.

  • Mamta
    April 12, 2014 | Permalink |

    I agree with all of this, but at the same time girls can be a tease. They don’t want to look too easy so they say No. They want to test how much you desire them so they say No. But they want you, execpt you, to keep asking, keep asking, keep asking until they say Yes. So often, when they say No, they really mean Yes. That’s why there’s confusion. And there’s a big problem when these girls say No and really mean No! Because then nobody takes them seriously.

  • Steve
    April 22, 2014 | Permalink |

    Hate to be this person, but “Sheryl’s” close call sounds like it was embellished. That is not close to date rape. That is a guy that liked her . She was playing his game and he got shot down. For some reason some women embellish stories about stalkers and creepy ex’s to validate to their friends that they are pretty enough to have had one of those happen to them. Sad really. It also ruins a guys reputation.

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