When you’re trying to impress a beautiful girl, the last thing you need is a cock block. Why do people do this, and how can you avoid it?
Have you ever been a victim of a cock block? You probably have at some point. Let me tell you a story.
A long time ago, I bumped into a girl at a café. I didn’t know where she studied or worked, but we would run each other every now and then, and it only seemed like the natural and right thing to do to say hi to her.
Both of us were standing in the same line for coffee, so I looked at her and smiled. She smiled back. I said “hello.” She said hello, smiled a little more, and started to talk about the cafe or some other kind of small talk I can’t really remember.
[Read: How to talk to a girl: The secrets to smooth talk and impress girls]
Hardly a minute into the conversation, an uptight *and not-so-attractive* friend of hers walked up to her and stood in between us like a prison guard.
Awkward silence.
The girl and I continued talking, while her friend scowled and grunted now and then for no apparent reason. Not wanting to sound rude, I looked towards the friend, smiled, and said hello. She didn’t smile. I introduced myself. Her friend just grimaced. “I’m sorry, but I didn’t get your name,” I said, trying to sound as friendly as I could so she doesn’t think I’m trying to “pick” her up.
She looked at me sharply, and said, “That’s because I didn’t give it to you!”
I was taken aback. The girl I was talking to seemed embarrassed too.
Awkward silence again. [Read: 8 Easy ways to avoid awkward silences during a date]
A few seconds passed, and once the pretty girl and her friend got their coffee, the not-so-pretty friend just caught the pretty girl’s arm and dragged her out of the café!
That, my friends, is a cock block.
What is cock blocking exactly?
I didn’t know the phrase back then, I was still a young teen. But what I experienced was the perfect definition of a cock block.
You try to chat up a girl and impress her, or you try to get her to sleep with you. And someone, male or female, her friend or yours, prevents you from getting another notch on your bedpost. They do so by intervening in some manner or another. Totally unwelcome. [Read: 11 fail-proof moves to seduce a girl and get her in bed]
Specifically speaking, a cock blocker is a phrase that’s used most commonly to define a person who blocks you from having sex with a girl. But if someone stops you from talking to a girl or hitting on her, you can definitely call them a cock blocker too!
Why do people cock block?
A guy could be cock blocked for so many reasons. Sometimes, it could be her friend’s jealousy. At other times, it could be another guy who’s trying to compete for the same girl.
And in many common scenarios, it could also happen unintentionally, when a friend or a stranger just can’t take a hint and give the guy and the girl some space.
[Read: The 14 types of cock blocking you could bump into]
If you know a person’s motive behind the cock blocking, of course, you can hate them for it. But unfortunately, you can’t confront it without appearing weaker or looking like an idiot.
So if you’re ever cock blocked by someone, learn to deal with it by using an alternative strategy to get the girl into bed. Just don’t lose your cool or your temper. Doing that shows that you’re not in control of the situation anymore! [Read: How to behave like a real man the way he really should be]
Unintentional cock blocks
Many people cock block for fun. If you’re chatting with a really pretty girl at a party, a friend of yours could walk up to you and say something like “hey, how’s your girlfriend?” or “your girlfriend’s looking for you!”
You don’t have a girlfriend. They think it’s funny – it’s definitely not.
Of course, the second the pretty girl hears that, she’s always going to eye you with suspicion even if you tell her that your friend was just kidding around.
But sometimes, cock blocking could happen unintentionally. *even if you hate the person for it!*
If two girls go to a party together, and you find one of them rather interesting and start chatting her up, her friend may stop her from getting a drink with you. She may do this because she doesn’t want to be left alone. And considering the fact that two girls at a party like to stick together, there’s not much you can do about it, unless the girls are wild enough to experiment! [Read: My awesome accidental threesome experience with two girls]
Or, an old friend may bump into you at a party when you’re talking to a girl. Your old friend who hasn’t seen you in ages may assume it’s alright to stick around and talk to both of you.
Of course, you can’t just shoo the third person away, because that’ll just make your intentions clear. It will be obvious you’re trying to seduce the girl, and don’t need anyone around interfering.
The biggest reasons why girls and guys cock block
If you’re at a party and trying to get the attention of a great girl, chances are, there are several other guys trying to do the same thing.
Of course, many of these guys may not feel confident enough to approach her. So if you do get cock blocked while talking to a girl, here are all the reasons why it may happen to you.
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1. You’re an easy target
Some guys just don’t have what it takes to carry an interesting conversation with a girl. You may be talking to her, but there may be other guys around you too.
A guy may see you as an easy pushover who doesn’t deserve to talk to that girl. And if a guy isn’t threatened by you, he’ll use you and make fun of you, and steal the girl away from you. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys finish last all the time!]
2. The girl is bored
You introduced yourself to the girl, and you’re talking to her. But does she seem bored? Are there long moments of awkward silence? Is she looking around the room often?
It’s a clear sign that there’s no chemistry and she’s already bored of you. Her own friends may get her away from you, or another guy may step into the conversation. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and get her sexually interested in you]
3. Her protective friend
The girl you’re hitting on may have had one too many drinks. Her annoying friend who seems like a cock blocker may just be protecting her from making a mistake she’ll regret in the morning.
In that case, she’s just being a good friend but it doesn’t lighten your annoyance very much at the time!
4. You’re not approved
The girl’s friends don’t approve of you, or they don’t think you’re right for her. They’ll do anything to pull her away from you, including badmouthing you or snubbing you and pulling her away from you. [Read: How to tell if a girl doesn’t like you – 25 signs you should never ignore]
5. Her jealous friend
If you’re flirting with an attractive girl and she’s come to the party with a not-so-attractive friend, chances are, her not-so-attractive friend may get jealous. She’ll become really annoyed with the girl who’s hogging all the attention.
Instead of trying to find some guy to talk to, her friend may intervene and pull the girl you’re talking to away from you or cling on to her to make sure she’s not getting some with you.
6. Your competitive friend
Your friend may want to hit on a the same girl too. As much as he pretends to help you, he may be undermining you and making you look bad.
He could pretend to be your wingman, and in the middle of the conversation, he may start badmouthing you and make you look bad. He’s doing this just so he can come off as the better guy and impress her more. This is a very common scenario when you use a wingman, so be warned! [Read: How to be the best wingman ever – The full guide every guy should know]
7. The outside competition
You may be talking to a girl for a while, but just as you leave her alone for a few minutes to get both of you another round of drinks, another smooth talker may enter the picture and start flirting with her.
Obviously, you can’t chase the guy away because you don’t own her. You just have to come across as the better guy, or ask the girl if she’d like to step out with you for some fresh air. [Read: How to arouse a girl you meet and get her to kiss you that very night!]
8. Confused girls
You may have started flirting with two friends at once, even though you just liked one of the girls. And now they’re confused whom you like, and both the girls end up just cock blocking each other.
Just make it clear which girl you like early into the conversation, or you may end up leaving one girl confused and bitter.
9. The crush effect
You’re talking to a girl, but her friend is cock blocking you like there’s no tomorrow. If her friend tries to get your attention or tries sweet talking you, there’s a good chance that her friend has a crush on you. She has no intention of letting you go home with another girl.
10. Your jealous friend
Sometimes, you don’t need a wingman turning rogue to show off his cock blocking side. Even a jealous, shy guy who’s a friend of yours could turn out to be a big cock blocker. Especially if he has a crush on the girl you’re trying to seduce.
Of course, he may not have the courage to ask her out himself, but he’ll definitely try to sabotage your night by intervening often. [Read: How to get a girl wet and horny just by sitting next to her]
11. Evil fun
Some friends are just sadistic pricks who want to have fun at your expense, for no good reason beyond having a good laugh.
You may be chatting up a girl, and a friend of yours may pop in and try to pull your leg or ridicule you. They may talk about an ex of yours just to make you look bad.
Thankfully though, if the girl you’re talking to likes you already, she may laugh it off. But if you’re still trying to make an impression, well, the odds may swing either way.
Can you avoid cock blocking?
Not really. If it happens, there’s not a lot you can do about it, which is why it’s so downright annoying. Hopefully, the girl is pretty clued up on the dating game and she may notice what’s going on.
You could even laugh it off and say “I think they’re trying to block me.” Never actually say ‘cock block’ however, as she might be quite annoyed and assume you’re only after one thing. [Read: The socially awkward person’s guide to flirting]
Sometimes cock blocking is done to save your blushes. Maybe a friend cock blocks you because he knows something about the girl, i.e. she has a boyfriend and you don’t know about him. In that case, you just have to recognize that whatever happens, happens for a reason!
So, what should you do if you’re a victim of cock blocking?
Really, you just have to shrug it off and move on to the next one. It sounds like giving in, but some people are so good at cock blocking that there’s nothing you can do to make the situation look better after they’ve intervened.
Who said dating was easy?
[Read: 15 signs a girl you like is just leading you on and taking you nowhere]
A cock block is something you’ll experience, intentionally or otherwise, every now and then. There’s not much you can do to avoid it or stop it. But as long as you take it in your stride and avoid letting it get to you, you’d still be the one who takes the girl home!
